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AIBU to think Jess should identify her ex after passport update?

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Pushingback · 03/08/2026 21:08

Does anyone here follow jessrunsforsurvivors?

And think after the latest update regarding passports she should expose who her ex is?

Absolute arsehole.

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Pushingback · 04/08/2026 23:27

Moros · 04/08/2026 21:45

I haven't been following her that closely so I must have missed where she posted the evidence that he's been diagnosed with a personality disorder. Because if he hasn't, why does she spend so much time saying he's a narcissist?

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Because he probably is.

The woman lived with him, married him, had children with him and is still the victim of abuse by him.

He’s either a narcissist or just an abusive prick who makes promises to his children he cannot and will not keep.

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Pushingback · 04/08/2026 23:22

GooseyDuck · 04/08/2026 21:15

See I don’t see what the issue is with that. Maybe the girlfriend didn’t want to drop them off, or couldn’t, or had other plans. Maybe she’d set up a fun day for the kids but they told their mother they did nothing because they’re stuck in the middle and say what they think each parent wants to hear.

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On its own it absolutely isn’t an issue but within the context of historical and current behaviour it was done to be petty/cause inconvenience.

Anyway, the ins and outs of the why are irrelevant really.

This parent regularly makes promises he cannot and will not keep. His motivation for that is something only he can confirm.

His children will never forget the broken promises. Disgraceful behaviour.

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Moros · 04/08/2026 21:45

Pushingback · 04/08/2026 20:49

I understand your point.

However, he isn’t doing anything now that he wasn’t doing before.

Nothing is really ever posted without evidence of the messages or situations. So if he stopped being such a prick about everything, that side of the content would disappear.

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I haven't been following her that closely so I must have missed where she posted the evidence that he's been diagnosed with a personality disorder. Because if he hasn't, why does she spend so much time saying he's a narcissist?

Moros · 04/08/2026 21:38

pimplebum · 04/08/2026 20:46

Don't know anything about her kids apart from their dad dicked around with their skiing trip and there was a french trip and we know they have British passports

which is nearly every school kid in the country

jess could easily have changed details French = spanish trip
skiing = football trip

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But she can't change her face being recognised by friends, family, school acquaintances, passers-by and so on. And that means that her voluminous criticisms and accusations regarding her children's father will almost certainly become public knowledge to her children's friends and so her children.

No matter how shitty your ex may be it's not in your children's best interests to slag off their father to that extent and that publicly.

GooseyDuck · 04/08/2026 21:15

Pushingback · 04/08/2026 20:42

Jess was stuck in traffic so asked her son to contact him to say they were going to be late.

They were 20 minutes late. So arrived at 5.20pm.

They were then offered a last minute holiday, so asked if they no plans could the children be collected early. He said no they couldn’t they would be returned as per the court ordered. They were dropped back at 5.20pm.

He was at work all day, they were at home with his girlfriend.

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See I don’t see what the issue is with that. Maybe the girlfriend didn’t want to drop them off, or couldn’t, or had other plans. Maybe she’d set up a fun day for the kids but they told their mother they did nothing because they’re stuck in the middle and say what they think each parent wants to hear.

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Pushingback · 04/08/2026 20:49

LividSummery · 04/08/2026 20:42

It bothers me that she knows he sees her page. He will retaliate using the kids because of this.

(My ex somehow sees my professional socials, not sure how or under what name as it's not his name, and often makes snide comments about things I've posted professionally to make it clear he sees them. I can imagine this times a zillion for Ex-Jess.)

I understand your point.

However, he isn’t doing anything now that he wasn’t doing before.

Nothing is really ever posted without evidence of the messages or situations. So if he stopped being such a prick about everything, that side of the content would disappear.

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pimplebum · 04/08/2026 20:46

DeathBanana · 04/08/2026 15:01

We all know far too much about someone else’s children. No one is covered in glory.

Don't know anything about her kids apart from their dad dicked around with their skiing trip and there was a french trip and we know they have British passports

which is nearly every school kid in the country

jess could easily have changed details French = spanish trip
skiing = football trip

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Pushingback · 04/08/2026 20:44

BBQetiquette · 04/08/2026 12:23

What I'm not clear on, is how many times did she ask for the passports back? Or did she not ask other than on the parenting app that she knew he wasn't reading?

Not site on numbers, but when he returned the children without the passports he told the eldest he never had them. He did.

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LividSummery · 04/08/2026 20:42

It bothers me that she knows he sees her page. He will retaliate using the kids because of this.

(My ex somehow sees my professional socials, not sure how or under what name as it's not his name, and often makes snide comments about things I've posted professionally to make it clear he sees them. I can imagine this times a zillion for Ex-Jess.)

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Pushingback · 04/08/2026 20:42

GooseyDuck · 04/08/2026 11:41

I think this too.

I've only seen a few of her videos, but in one she’s complaining that her ex didn’t return the kids early when she and her new partner took a last minute holiday, so they had to go in two cars instead of one.

You have to be on good terms to expect a favour from a coparent… Not posting how much you hate them multiple times a day.

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Jess was stuck in traffic so asked her son to contact him to say they were going to be late.

They were 20 minutes late. So arrived at 5.20pm.

They were then offered a last minute holiday, so asked if they no plans could the children be collected early. He said no they couldn’t they would be returned as per the court ordered. They were dropped back at 5.20pm.

He was at work all day, they were at home with his girlfriend.

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Pushingback · 04/08/2026 20:37

Moros · 04/08/2026 09:50

While I have no doubt that her ex is being a petty twat, continually posting this kind of thing on social media is far from great behaviour either. Neither of them are putting their children's best interests first.

I used to agree with this, but Jess is always advocating for her children and always advocating for others and using her own personal experiences to help other parents. I think she’s doing great work to support people and is coming from a place of wanting change.

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Pushingback · 04/08/2026 20:35

usererror99 · 04/08/2026 09:44

her reels come up a lot on my feeds so I’ve seen a lot of them and I do sometimes think it’s a bit petty on both sides. And I’d imagine her posting about it all the time gets his back up so he probably thinks everyone thinks I’m an arse anyway so I may as well be an every bigger one and give her something to post about

her son is definitely in secondary so she can’t force him if he chooses not to go …. And if he chooses to continue going despite all the issues Jess posts about then maybe the kids have a better time at their dads then she wants to post about?

Very unfair to say they have a better time.

We don’t know anything about that.

The childcare arrangements are court ordered not sure on whether the older child can say no and not go or not.

The older child is certainly made a lot of promises that are not followed through.

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TheFormidableMrsC · 04/08/2026 17:45

pimplebum · 04/08/2026 15:20

She is doing a great job of educating and supporting others in similar situations

she deserves an MBE

you are petty mc petterson

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I totally agree. I’ve followed her for a long time and she’s an incredible person. Unless you’ve walked this mile, you have no idea how helpful she is.

pimplebum · 04/08/2026 17:29

Moros · 04/08/2026 15:34

It's impressive that someone so busy nevertheless manages to carve out so much time to post videos, pics, and podcasts online.

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Utter rubbish

it takes minutes to make a post snd help thousands

time to drop it now chicken boy 🐓

Moros · 04/08/2026 15:34

pimplebum · 04/08/2026 15:25

she is a busy working mum so taking on and slaying “ THE SYSTEM “ is a tall order that politicians , richer parents layers and celebrities have failed to do , so your expectations of an ordinary busy woman are s bit ott

It's impressive that someone so busy nevertheless manages to carve out so much time to post videos, pics, and podcasts online.

pimplebum · 04/08/2026 15:26

MJxJones · 04/08/2026 15:03

She comes across as a narcissist herself to me.

She literally has non of the criteria of a narc

not one

she comes across as maybe PTSD but has no narc traits at at ? Would you care to elaborate?

pimplebum · 04/08/2026 15:25

she is a busy working mum so taking on and slaying “ THE SYSTEM “ is a tall order that politicians , richer parents layers and celebrities have failed to do , so your expectations of an ordinary busy woman are s bit ott

pimplebum · 04/08/2026 15:21

Going to court costs thousands each time and often results in little to no changes

pimplebum · 04/08/2026 15:20

usererror99 · 04/08/2026 13:14

I think it suits her brand to continuously post about it - after all she’s built an identity around it. some of the screen shots of conversations she uses as evidence I’ve often thought “so what” there really hasn’t been much to it. The whole skiiing thing as I understand it he was going to pay then didnt and she posts about it and then he went and cleared the balance? She was late dropping the kids off - unavoidable and it happens - so he dropped them back proportionally “late” I don’t get what there is to get so worked up about

I don’t see her actually taking on the system to take him to court for some of this stuff?

he is in arrears with CMS but I don’t see her using her platform to campaign for change to the CMS system

She is doing a great job of educating and supporting others in similar situations

she deserves an MBE

you are petty mc petterson

MJxJones · 04/08/2026 15:03

She comes across as a narcissist herself to me.

DeathBanana · 04/08/2026 15:01

We all know far too much about someone else’s children. No one is covered in glory.

Doubledutchbuss · 04/08/2026 14:56

BBQetiquette · 04/08/2026 14:50

Ah ok I see thanks for explaining. I thought she picked him up after his Paris trip though so she could get his stuff and that Mr Jess put the passports in his pocket so I don't know why he's got them now? Have I got that bit wrong. I don't always see her page and then the story gets mixed up.

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That was the ski trip. He picked him up after the France trip and also requested the passports for a holiday but they never actually went on the holiday

BBQetiquette · 04/08/2026 14:50

Doubledutchbuss · 04/08/2026 13:26

She has to ask on the parenting app as its court ordered that is the only way they communicate. They have a court ordered procedure to request passports from each other which she followed. Her son also knew that the passports were needed but was told by his father ge didn’t have them

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Ah ok I see thanks for explaining. I thought she picked him up after his Paris trip though so she could get his stuff and that Mr Jess put the passports in his pocket so I don't know why he's got them now? Have I got that bit wrong. I don't always see her page and then the story gets mixed up.

Doubledutchbuss · 04/08/2026 13:26

BBQetiquette · 04/08/2026 12:23

What I'm not clear on, is how many times did she ask for the passports back? Or did she not ask other than on the parenting app that she knew he wasn't reading?

She has to ask on the parenting app as its court ordered that is the only way they communicate. They have a court ordered procedure to request passports from each other which she followed. Her son also knew that the passports were needed but was told by his father ge didn’t have them

Doubledutchbuss · 04/08/2026 13:24

she paid for the skiing trip after he said he would pay half and he didn’t. There was a second school trip to France that she told her son she could not pay for and that he could ask his dad. He did and his dad told he would pay the full price which he did eventually but late.