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DH just made me a dinner that he knows I don’t like

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Oystersinmypocket · 03/08/2026 19:16

Looking for a bit of perspective on this DH has just made me dinner after I came in from work, he does very little cooking so I’m very grateful of that.

He told me he was doing fish cakes and salad, just sat down and started eating and I said are they salmon fish cakes, he said yea, I said to him I don’t like salmon, you know I don’t, we’ve been together 20 years and I just don’t like it.
He said to me well you had it the other week, I didn’t, it was sea bass at a restaurant and he had the same thing!
It just feels like he doesn’t think and all I do is think of the family, I feel exhausted with it and it’s probably colouring my view of the situation but AIBU to feel a bit out out?

OP posts:
Elizascookingpancakes · 03/08/2026 19:28

Order yourself something really nice on Deliveroo .

hopefully next time he’ll remember your preferences.

Shouldbeworkingnotreadingtalk · 03/08/2026 19:26

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 03/08/2026 19:22

😂😂😂 take the sausage @Nincompoo

Have literally just wet myself at this. I take the sausage far more than I should. 😆

Sidebeforeself · 03/08/2026 19:26

DH does this sometimes. Not so much cooking things but say we go to someone’s house for dinner and they say “Is lamb OK?” He’ll say yes on my behalf too even though I eat very little meat. Or he’ll buy crisps for us both but in the one flavour I hate.Its just not thinking.

Jerrybalanitis · 03/08/2026 19:26

Nincompoo · 03/08/2026 19:21

I cooked my dh sausages once, knowing he doesn’t like them, but he’d really pissed me off and deserved them. He knew he’d been unreasonable and ate them without complaint 😆

Have you done some thing to get on his nerves that could’ve prompted salmon related passive aggression?

I can just imagine the atmosphere at that table. Made me giggle 😃

Oystersinmypocket · 03/08/2026 19:25

😂😂😂 I could have done loads to annoy him but I doubt he would enough effort into thinking of being so spiteful

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Shouldbeworkingnotreadingtalk · 03/08/2026 19:25

I hate my night time warm milk in a glass I like it boiling hot in a mug. (Call me a saddo .. but… ). ….. every. Single. Fucking. Time. He gives it to me lukewarm… in a fucking glass. .. not sure if he is thick, or hates me, or just doesn’t care enough …

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 03/08/2026 19:22

😂😂😂 take the sausage @Nincompoo

Nincompoo · 03/08/2026 19:21

I cooked my dh sausages once, knowing he doesn’t like them, but he’d really pissed me off and deserved them. He knew he’d been unreasonable and ate them without complaint 😆

Have you done some thing to get on his nerves that could’ve prompted salmon related passive aggression?

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