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AIBU to go to Italy on my own?

33 replies

Italiandreamer · 03/08/2026 18:28

Would I be unreasonable to go to Italy on my own for a week on a language course? I’ve been thinking about doing one once the kids were older and going for two weeks or even longer, but I really want to go sooner! Obviously I can’t go for longer right now but a week would still be amazing. Kids are 10 and 13.

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SoScarletItWas · 03/08/2026 18:31

Not at all! I went abroad on my own for a writing course and it was fabulous.

We don’t have kids but Mr Scarlett has been away solo most years on a hobby trip.

It would be fair for your DH to have a week to himself without kids at some point, too - he may not be bothered.

FourSevenFour · 03/08/2026 18:31

Why not?
Of course if there is another competent adult who will take care of them.

2ndHandLou · 03/08/2026 18:35

As long as you aren't leaving the children to fend for themselves and the cost doest take up for food budget for the month what would be the reasons not to go?

Hadit16 · 03/08/2026 18:37

Please go! Don’t let your world become small

Italiandreamer · 03/08/2026 18:49

Thanks everyone. Yes, there is a competent adult at home and can afford it. I don’t think DH would be bothered about me going actually, I just always thought about doing it when the kids were quite a bit older. It only just occurred to me that I could do it sooner!

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friedaklein · 03/08/2026 18:52

Go! I have been numerous times on my own

Hellohelga · 03/08/2026 18:53

Do it and can I come with you?

likelysuspect · 03/08/2026 18:54

Why are you even asking!!!
#weljel

EMUKE · 03/08/2026 18:55

Yes do it! I’m a massive fan of EDT. Extreme day trips you only live once. Please please please ensure you do your research and stay safe. People trafficking ect. Don’t tell everyone and there brother where your going what your doing and where your staying. Plan what you’re doing day to day and communicate back home as often as possible. Just stay safe.

category12 · 03/08/2026 18:56

Go!

friedaklein · 03/08/2026 18:58

EMUKE · 03/08/2026 18:55

Yes do it! I’m a massive fan of EDT. Extreme day trips you only live once. Please please please ensure you do your research and stay safe. People trafficking ect. Don’t tell everyone and there brother where your going what your doing and where your staying. Plan what you’re doing day to day and communicate back home as often as possible. Just stay safe.

WTF! This takes MN anxiety to new levels.

EmpressaurusKitty · 03/08/2026 18:59

I’ve had a lot of solo holidays in Italy & they’ve all been brilliant.

I haven’t encountered any people traffickers so far, I just take the same precautions I’d take at home in London.

Go!

likelysuspect · 03/08/2026 21:35

EMUKE · 03/08/2026 18:55

Yes do it! I’m a massive fan of EDT. Extreme day trips you only live once. Please please please ensure you do your research and stay safe. People trafficking ect. Don’t tell everyone and there brother where your going what your doing and where your staying. Plan what you’re doing day to day and communicate back home as often as possible. Just stay safe.

Erm. Can you explain this a bit more?

Firstly what have extreme day trips got to do with anything

Secondly WTF about people trafficking? OP is going on holiday to Italy, not Outer Mongolia using overland caravans and shady characters.

What research? Stay safe?

Have you ever been on holiday?

Whatwouldnanado · 03/08/2026 21:38

Ooh I would love to do this! Especially Italy. Which courses can people recommend?

IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece · 03/08/2026 21:39

EMUKE · 03/08/2026 18:55

Yes do it! I’m a massive fan of EDT. Extreme day trips you only live once. Please please please ensure you do your research and stay safe. People trafficking ect. Don’t tell everyone and there brother where your going what your doing and where your staying. Plan what you’re doing day to day and communicate back home as often as possible. Just stay safe.

FFS 😂

IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece · 03/08/2026 21:40

OP; do it! it will be wonderful!

EverMissWicklowSometimes · 03/08/2026 21:41

EMUKE · 03/08/2026 18:55

Yes do it! I’m a massive fan of EDT. Extreme day trips you only live once. Please please please ensure you do your research and stay safe. People trafficking ect. Don’t tell everyone and there brother where your going what your doing and where your staying. Plan what you’re doing day to day and communicate back home as often as possible. Just stay safe.

No one's going to traffic a middle aged British woman in Italy! (no offence OP)

EmpressaurusKitty · 03/08/2026 21:42

Whereabouts in Italy are you thinking of, @Italiandreamer?

arethereanyleftatall · 03/08/2026 21:46

Of course do it op. I read your op not really understanding why you were asking, so had to read down to check you didn’t mean leave them alone. Which you didn’t so, phew, of course go.

Stardogchampion · 03/08/2026 21:54

Do it!!! I went to the Sorrento Lingue language school for a week years ago and it was fantastic, highly recommend (if it's still going)

JMSA · 03/08/2026 22:54

Go for it - and relish every moment!

Italiandreamer · 04/08/2026 07:51

EverMissWicklowSometimes · 03/08/2026 21:41

No one's going to traffic a middle aged British woman in Italy! (no offence OP)

None taken! I don’t really consider myself as high risk for trafficking either!

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friedaklein · 04/08/2026 07:52

Italiandreamer · 04/08/2026 07:51

None taken! I don’t really consider myself as high risk for trafficking either!

😂

Italiandreamer · 04/08/2026 07:53

arethereanyleftatall · 03/08/2026 21:46

Of course do it op. I read your op not really understanding why you were asking, so had to read down to check you didn’t mean leave them alone. Which you didn’t so, phew, of course go.

Sorry should have made myself clear! DH will be home. Just never really considered doing this before, we always go on holiday together or just away for a night of two.

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Italiandreamer · 04/08/2026 07:54

EmpressaurusKitty · 03/08/2026 21:42

Whereabouts in Italy are you thinking of, @Italiandreamer?

I was actually considering Venice off season 😊

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