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How would you feel if your husband said this about your best friend

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workshy46 · 03/08/2026 18:23

That she was incredibly attractive and that every man in the world would want to be with her. Context is that she has split up with her DH and is planning and trip and would perhaps like some fun on it. When I said it was important for her that people found her attractive that’s when he said the above and that she was delusional if she couldn’t see and tell that every man would want to be with her. When I challenged him on it he got defensive and wouldn’t speak just saying I was being ridiculous to be upset. A few days later he’s now saying he doesn’t find her attractive- was being sarcastic and wouldn’t be with her if she was the last women on earth etc. what hurts the most is that he has never spoken about me with such passion or said such things. He also said once years ago that if he had seen a different friend first he would have opted for her. Both of my friends are good looking for context .. Aibu to be absolutely gutted by this ?

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workshy46 · 03/08/2026 18:29

FlorenceLawrence · 03/08/2026 18:28

"He also said once years ago that if he had seen a different friend first he would have opted for her."

He said THAT??? I don't think I'd have married him in the first place.

We had been together a long time at this point .. I know though .. I’ve always remembered it

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workshy46 · 03/08/2026 18:28

Thanks , I’m being made to feel it is a complete and utter over reaction on my part by being upset

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FlorenceLawrence · 03/08/2026 18:28

"He also said once years ago that if he had seen a different friend first he would have opted for her."

He said THAT??? I don't think I'd have married him in the first place.

LondonMum2026 · 03/08/2026 18:27

Wow if he says this to your face what does he say to his mates behind your back. Lots of red flags 🚩 I couldn’t be with someone like this.

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