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Why aren’t doctor’s receptionists more discrete?

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BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · 03/08/2026 09:11

I’m waiting in the doctor's surgery this morning for something routine.

I woman has turned up wailing that she doesn’t feel very well and asking to see a doctor. The receptionist is doing the “triage” with her but it is extremely public. The woman herself is extremely loud but she’s clearly not mentally very well as she has announced to the room that she thinks she is having a nervous breakdown. However the woman on reception is practically shouting the questions.

I know this woman’s name, date of birth, first line of address and what medication she is currently taking. It’s all very embarrassing.

AIBU to think if doctor’s receptionists are going to ask questions about your medical problem, they should do so privately and not to a room full of patients?

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AprilMizzel · 03/08/2026 11:03

I've thought this over the years - though I'd say it often even worse in hospital settings.

HV used to hold their drop in session in section of GP waiting room - and DMum did question if asking me about contraceptive, sex life post baby and my mental health and really pushing me for answers in front of not just her but an entire waiting room of people was entirely appropriate - as they hadn't even check I was comfortable with set up.

Same with chemists here - teen DD had UTI - you can't just see a pharmacist now you have to book in and GP re-directs you there so no point trying them - and shop assistant was pushy about questions as needed them for booking form in a shop with people milling around waiting for perscriptions. I answered for teen DD but she of an age she she needs/wants to try doing these things herself. I asked if in future DD could ring or e-mail to book an apponitment -was met with bafflement couldn't see teen was not able to cope with their set up.

I think there a certian level of normalising it - well it's always been this way - what can we do - no one complains becuase they are used to it and what can they do and then everyone - staff and patients - tries to nagivate round the poor system set up.

honeylulu · 03/08/2026 11:02

rollonxmas · 03/08/2026 10:21

Think that’s bad, try our local pharmacist. Booms across the shop what medication you’re collecting and confirm details etc. Awful.

Yes, same. Picked up a prescription recently and everyone in the pharmacy queue would have heard my name, date of birth, address, medication, that i pay for my prescriptions and when I'm going on holiday (as they didn't have all the tablets and wanted to know when I could come back/ if I'm going to be away). Hopefully no one was the least bit interested but a burglar or fraudster might have been delighted!

TheyGrewUp · 03/08/2026 10:57

I once stood at the feont of the queue with abput 50 Toms, Dicks, Janes and Marys behind me. The administrator wanted my full name, date of bith and address. Mpre than enpugh information for identity theft. I responded quietly, was asked to soeak up and then speak up some more. I asked if I could write the information down and was shouted at "I can't do that, she could make an error transcribimg from paper to the computer. I pointed out she could do that if I gave the information orally. I was then shouted at more loudly.

The system is bizarre and all the while, they sit amongst a crop of "°abuse will not be tolerated" posters.

I'm pretty sure NHS induction and trainimg includes how to be as rude and unhelpful as possible to the "scummy" patients.

fridgegrazer · 03/08/2026 10:55

I felt very sorry for someone in A&E being taken behind a screen and having to give details about his suicide attempt - it sounded a serious one. Then he had to wait for hours with everyone else of course.

Comtesse · 03/08/2026 10:52

Paganpentacle · 03/08/2026 10:44

And you would address this how?
More staff? Dedicated space?
Sounds excellent- who is funding this?

In the GP surgery I go to, people are asked to write down information if they don’t want to say it out loud. The cost is of course minimal. This is highly personal data and should be treated appropriately.

Sorry @freakinthespreadsheets that sounds awful.

SaySomethingMan · 03/08/2026 10:48

deeahgwitch · 03/08/2026 09:51

Me too. 😀
But OP I do hate having to give private confidential information out loud to receptionists or in shops etc. I often will say may I write it (the info) down for you please (rather than shout it out across a perspex or glass divider). Usually they think I’m nuts.

Good idea

freakinthespreadsheets · 03/08/2026 10:48

Yep in the age of online data protection it baffles me how that doesn't apply in person.
I went to the hospital for an EPAU scan last week and the receptionist had me in tears as she asked me why I was there, was i bleeding, has anything come away, had i had a miscarriage before and loudly parroting my answers back to me in front of the waiting room to "check she had understood".

Paganpentacle · 03/08/2026 10:45

user4635228 · 03/08/2026 10:39

You are missing the point entirely.

I dont give a fuck about some random stranger's medical records but I would still think it to be a massive breach of their privacy if someone gave them to me to read. This is no different

And your solution is?

Paganpentacle · 03/08/2026 10:44

Comtesse · 03/08/2026 10:37

See, this attitude is messed up. Yes the support staff might have to ask follow up questions but it IS the patient’s information and they are entitled not to have to broadcast the details to all and sundry in the waiting room.

And you would address this how?
More staff? Dedicated space?
Sounds excellent- who is funding this?

SaySomethingMan · 03/08/2026 10:43

I completely agree with you.

I also hate it when pharmacists ask for personal details so publicly.

dancehysterical151 · 03/08/2026 10:43

I think you mean ‘discreet’

EvieBB · 03/08/2026 10:42

OvernightBloats · 03/08/2026 09:26

Blame the system, not the receptionist. I suppose the priority is triage and not privacy.

Once I had to book an appointment for a UTI and there was a queue behind me. The receptionist asked why I wanted to see the doctor. I was too embarrassed to say I had an infection so I said, "Waterworks!". She got the message and didn't ask further.

I now phone the doctors to book an appointment because I don't want to tell the whole waiting room what the problem is. Not everyone will be bothered by lack of privacy but I definitely am.

Exactly this. I'm a GP receptionist at the moment. They don't make the rules. The doctors do. It's not their fault and are working within the constraints of the set-up. I agree the receptionist could have, perhaps, been more discreet but some patients are hard of hearing so loud voices are necessary at times. There are private rooms within which to discuss private issues and patients can request this.
I would absolutely suggest you complain to the doctors surgery and ask for a more discrete set-up.
Conversely, the other day I had a patient at the front desk wanting to reorder his repeat medication for Viagra. He practically announced it to the whole reception area in his loud booming voice 😆
I wouldn't mind but he could've just asked for it by it's generic drug name, "Sildenafil" (not the brand name, Viagra) as that is how it listed in his repeat meds list in any case and nobody would have been any the wiser. Its almost as if he wanted everyone to know and he seems proud of the fact. Perhaps he was chuffed he was still having sex at 70? Who knows. Good for him :)

user4635228 · 03/08/2026 10:39

Paganpentacle · 03/08/2026 10:26

You are aware she HAS to ask? Its her job- she will get reprimanded otherwise.
She really doesn't give a fuck personally.
It really not about you.

You are missing the point entirely.

I dont give a fuck about some random stranger's medical records but I would still think it to be a massive breach of their privacy if someone gave them to me to read. This is no different

user4635228 · 03/08/2026 10:38

I totally agree!

In our surgery there is no private area or screened off area where you can tell the receptionist anything private - the person standing behind you in the queue is literally right behind you so you have to give name, DOB, address, and symptoms in front of however many people are in the queue whilst the receptionist asks intrusive questions.

From a GDPR perspective its appalling- you wouldnt hand out copies of your medical records to random strangers in the waiting room for them to have a gawp at, and yet we are expected to verbalise the exact same information with zero privacy. Its awful.

Comtesse · 03/08/2026 10:37

Paganpentacle · 03/08/2026 10:26

You are aware she HAS to ask? Its her job- she will get reprimanded otherwise.
She really doesn't give a fuck personally.
It really not about you.

See, this attitude is messed up. Yes the support staff might have to ask follow up questions but it IS the patient’s information and they are entitled not to have to broadcast the details to all and sundry in the waiting room.

CedarFlag · 03/08/2026 10:34

I work in the NHS and we have to do so many modules on confidentiality and governance and have to anonymise emails etc. And yet we allow this kind of thing to go on. It makes no sense. I think it’s appalling really but we don’t have big enough buildings. Many GP practices don’t have the space for a triage area and wards don’t have all single rooms. So info is shared with all and sundry. I don’t agree with it but what can we do other than keep voices low.

Echointhedarkness · 03/08/2026 10:33

This lady should have been shown into a private area. That way of dealing with her is completely unacceptable.

Comtesse · 03/08/2026 10:33

It’s really inappropriate. At work we have to be so careful with personal info (which is fair enough) but this sort of situation is seen as no big deal. It really doesn’t seem right.

sunshinesuperwomsn · 03/08/2026 10:32

SunwaysSystems · 03/08/2026 09:29

I love the idea that there are several receptionists behind a desk, all joined together to make one continuous receptionist...

😆

Inmyuggs · 03/08/2026 10:30

After having an experience of a biarch of a medical nurse talking loud at me about my current meds and i stood saying im not telling everyone...feeling like no matter how quiet i spoke it felt so loud...
She then said i seemed to take offense of her....i was truely thrown back..nah love your yelling at me in a room.
She was put on a break after i complained to a few once thru to a doctor and nurse.
Apprently its to be requested for privacy.
By the following time i needed to see them again..my record was removed a different nurse and she asked me to write down what my health issue was.
What a change.
I would be asking someone once i was in if i was you.
Mine was stigmia related
Robably the same for the lady as well if not prue ignorance.

Paganpentacle · 03/08/2026 10:26

abracadabra1980 · 03/08/2026 10:09

I think it is appalling that anyone has to be overheard discussing any medical condition, triage system in place or not. I recently got sent back to the reception post seeing the GP to make a follow up appointment for a suspicious mole. I didn't want to discuss it with her whatsoever as I'd already seen the GP. She grilled me about what the FU was for. "Vaginal lesion" may have shut her up.

You are aware she HAS to ask? Its her job- she will get reprimanded otherwise.
She really doesn't give a fuck personally.
It really not about you.

TheBrunswick · 03/08/2026 10:23

tilypu · 03/08/2026 09:18

While I agree that the receptionist could be more discreet, the patient is not being, and if it was something she was concerned about, she would moderate her own behaviour, or request a private room.

Not if she’s having an episode, I have a friend who goes through manic phases and will be really loud. All the more reason for the receptionist to be discreet.

rollonxmas · 03/08/2026 10:21

Think that’s bad, try our local pharmacist. Booms across the shop what medication you’re collecting and confirm details etc. Awful.

Inmyuggs · 03/08/2026 10:19

tilypu · 03/08/2026 09:18

While I agree that the receptionist could be more discreet, the patient is not being, and if it was something she was concerned about, she would moderate her own behaviour, or request a private room.

Would she know to do this...doubt it

Lomonald · 03/08/2026 10:13

It sounds absolute chaos but surely this woman was shouting out her details, the receptionist was just trying to input information calmly, maybe there should be an emergency button to have a HCP come at times like this, but it doesn't sound like the receptionist did anything wrong.