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Unnecessary comment about my outfit from male member of staff at the school - your thoughts?

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TwatAtSchool91 · 02/08/2026 21:49

I live a stones throw from a secondary school which I have to pass daily on our school run.

A male member of staff stands outside in the morning greeting the kids.

A few months ago he made a comment to me as I walked past him. It was a stupid remark, nothing vulgar or massively offensive, but it has bothered me to the extent I'm now self conscious about what I'm wearing whenever I have to go past him.

The comment he made was "morning Blade" in a mocking tone, both infront of the secondary school kids and my own.

(for reference I was wearing a belted leather trench coat and some black riding style boots)

It wasn't a friendly jibe, he was being a twat. I wouldn't give it much thought if he were a random in the street but he's stood there representing the school 😐

Would you have raised it with the school or not? Do you think it was inappropriate?

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ithinkilikethislittlelife · 02/08/2026 21:57

Tbf this sounds funny as. He’s quite quick.

Rumpledandcrumpled · 02/08/2026 21:55

Ok, is there a back story, I can’t imagine any grown up, even a child, would consider reporting this to teacher.

Focussingonme · 02/08/2026 21:53

You clearly don't have any bigger problems in your life if this is still bothering you to this extent a few months later.

Honestly, he's human. He said to to another adult not a student. Move on with your life.

Theunamedcat · 02/08/2026 21:51

I would let it go he is yukky commenting on your outfit but its a one-off i would ignore it