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Unnecessary comment about my outfit from male member of staff at the school - your thoughts?

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TwatAtSchool91 · 02/08/2026 21:49

I live a stones throw from a secondary school which I have to pass daily on our school run.

A male member of staff stands outside in the morning greeting the kids.

A few months ago he made a comment to me as I walked past him. It was a stupid remark, nothing vulgar or massively offensive, but it has bothered me to the extent I'm now self conscious about what I'm wearing whenever I have to go past him.

The comment he made was "morning Blade" in a mocking tone, both infront of the secondary school kids and my own.

(for reference I was wearing a belted leather trench coat and some black riding style boots)

It wasn't a friendly jibe, he was being a twat. I wouldn't give it much thought if he were a random in the street but he's stood there representing the school 😐

Would you have raised it with the school or not? Do you think it was inappropriate?

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dogsmaid · 02/08/2026 22:16

Owly11 · 02/08/2026 22:03

I think that sounds like good natured humour and you are massively over reacting.

I live near a station and see some dubious outfit choices but I don’t think random strangers would appreciate me saying “Morning Mrs Doubtfire”, “Morning Ken”, etc.

WonderingWanda · 02/08/2026 22:16

What do you think the outcome will be? School will be obliged to waste their time asking him about it, he will say he was trying to be funny but misjudged it and he wonXt do it again. End of. He won't get the sack of even a formal warning if that's what you are hoping for. Honestly, this is such a non event, he wasn't abusive....just not as funny as he first thought. Maybe you shouldn't wear such bold outfits if you are going to be so sensitive to other people's opinions.

GreenNewDealNow · 02/08/2026 22:16

I'm surprised by a lot of these comments saying it's no big deal. He mocked a female stranger in front of children and his place of employment. That's really weird, nasty and immature! I would be tempted to put a complaint in but I would also be wary of repercussions from him if I had to keep walking past him.

Legomania · 02/08/2026 22:16

Why does it matter that it was a man?

theneighboureatmysalad · 02/08/2026 22:16

What was inappropriate? It's funny and on point. It wasn't mean or unpleasant.

He could have made a comment about the Gestapo, that would have been less acceptable.

ShanghaiDiva · 02/08/2026 22:13

why would you report it to the school?
just smile and wave.

Lucinda7 · 02/08/2026 22:12

Not funny at all and very inappropriate. He should know better.

Culpeper · 02/08/2026 22:12

It was funny. It was also ‘a few months ago’. Get a life.

itsgettingweird · 02/08/2026 22:10

It’s probably one of those moments where even he thought afterwards that sounded better in his head 😂

Its actually quite funny though IMO.

But seriously - a few months ago?

Probably time to move on! Plus it’s school holidays so you won’t see him again for weeks anyway 🤷‍♀️

PrincessofWills · 02/08/2026 22:10

I was going to say I admire your resilience to be able to wear boots and a leather coat in this weather . . . but then I saw it was some time ago 😂

SmashThePatriarchy · 02/08/2026 22:09

I would have laughed with him! It’s quite funny.

Ribenaberry12 · 02/08/2026 22:09

You just need to take the piss out of his outfit next time you pass. This could be a daily thing.

BigSamantha · 02/08/2026 22:07

If you looked liked that's I'm on his side and YABU

parkezvous · 02/08/2026 22:07

Focussingonme · 02/08/2026 21:53

You clearly don't have any bigger problems in your life if this is still bothering you to this extent a few months later.

Honestly, he's human. He said to to another adult not a student. Move on with your life.

This. Sorry OP I think you need a thicker skin & maybe laugh these things off!

ArchitraveOnDoor · 02/08/2026 22:06

🤣 Great minds @dogsmaid

ArchitraveOnDoor · 02/08/2026 22:06

For all those that don't get it

Unnecessary comment about my outfit from male member of staff at the school - your thoughts?
SnipSnipMrBurgess · 02/08/2026 22:05

Tbf I probably would have thought you got lost from the Matrix in that outfit.

I might not have said it but def would have had a chuckle in my head.

I agree though its not worth dwelling on, he was taking the piss out of your outfit. He did it in front of the kids which makes him a dick but there you are, the world is full of dicks.

Its not inappropriate in a creepy way but whst do you want the school to do all this time later?

dogsmaid · 02/08/2026 22:04

this is Blade

Unnecessary comment about my outfit from male member of staff at the school - your thoughts?
perlesoup · 02/08/2026 22:03

He was referencing a film due to the leather trench coat? Why on earth would that be something to raise with school?

Owly11 · 02/08/2026 22:03

I think that sounds like good natured humour and you are massively over reacting.

likelysuspect · 02/08/2026 22:03

I dont get it?

rwalker · 02/08/2026 22:02

Not seeing the issue

at all guess you don’t like him

lljkk · 02/08/2026 22:01

I dunno what "Blade" means.

desperatemum1234 · 02/08/2026 21:59

I don’t get it

dogsmaid · 02/08/2026 21:58

Well he took the piss out of you which isn’t nice, maybe he thought he was being funny, but you can’t criticise a teacher on MNs!