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Unnecessary comment about my outfit from male member of staff at the school - your thoughts?

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TwatAtSchool91 · 02/08/2026 21:49

I live a stones throw from a secondary school which I have to pass daily on our school run.

A male member of staff stands outside in the morning greeting the kids.

A few months ago he made a comment to me as I walked past him. It was a stupid remark, nothing vulgar or massively offensive, but it has bothered me to the extent I'm now self conscious about what I'm wearing whenever I have to go past him.

The comment he made was "morning Blade" in a mocking tone, both infront of the secondary school kids and my own.

(for reference I was wearing a belted leather trench coat and some black riding style boots)

It wasn't a friendly jibe, he was being a twat. I wouldn't give it much thought if he were a random in the street but he's stood there representing the school 😐

Would you have raised it with the school or not? Do you think it was inappropriate?

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ttcat37 · 06/08/2026 08:25

You ought to write this off as a major sense of humour failure OP. His comment was hilarious, I would have belly laughed if directed at me. Perhaps need to take yourself a bit less seriously.

Are you just mad because you thought you looked mega cool in your top to toe leather ensemble and it clearly didn’t quite work?

Henhipster · 05/08/2026 20:42

theneighboureatmysalad · 02/08/2026 22:16

What was inappropriate? It's funny and on point. It wasn't mean or unpleasant.

He could have made a comment about the Gestapo, that would have been less acceptable.

This. He might have thought he was flattering you, as in you being a cool character.

Illegally18 · 05/08/2026 14:54

CedarFlag · 03/08/2026 11:18

To complete Strangers? How often do you see this stuff? When did you last see a man shout out to another man, ‘come on love cheer up; it might never happen’?

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😂

CountBoscoTheSecondsWife · 05/08/2026 14:18

I think it's funny and I'd have laughed at overhearing it. Hope you can shake it off and not let it continue to bother you.

Dollymylove · 03/08/2026 23:24

AImportantMermaid · 02/08/2026 23:04

Could have been worse. He could have called you Herr Flick.

This thread just keeps getting funnier 🤣 😂

Greenmouldycheese · 03/08/2026 23:04

This was months ago and not a big deal. I hope you can move on.

Pedallleur · 03/08/2026 22:29

dogsmaid · 03/08/2026 20:33

She might be busy hunting vampires!

Didn't Kate Beckinsale have a leather coat and looked sexy hot whilst handling powerful handguns and eliminating werewolves?

Pedallleur · 03/08/2026 22:25

lljkk · 03/08/2026 21:41

so OP is dresed like a vampire and is offended that someone noticed?

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Shaft wore a long leather coat and he was a sex machine (to all the chicks) and apparently he was a bad mother***)

TeaIsLovely · 03/08/2026 21:59

My DH said I looked like a deckchair in my white/red striped shirt. I thought it was funny - but ended up selling it on Vinted as I want someone else to look like a deckchair 😂

maxslice · 03/08/2026 21:53

It’s none of his damn business.

lljkk · 03/08/2026 21:41

Pedallleur · 03/08/2026 15:10

The Day walker Vampire in a film franchise. Wears a leather coat, combat boots

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so OP is dresed like a vampire and is offended that someone noticed?

SquirrelGG · 03/08/2026 21:37

CedarFlag · 03/08/2026 06:37

Yes. It’s the MN world of super cool people who don’t get offended by anything. Of course this was not a terrible insult in the scheme of things but it is a subconscious powerplay from a man to a woman yet again and it is astonishing that in 2026 people can’t see this. Men do not receive these comments from strange men, they just don’t.

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Some of you really need to grow up - not to mention get a sense of humour and stop taking life so seriously.

It was funny, end of.

LuckyHazelFox · 03/08/2026 20:45

dogsmaid · 03/08/2026 20:29

Someone upthread posted this outfit as an example. It just doesn’t give me Neo or dystopian dominatrix vibes but I guess others see things differently 🤷🏻‍♀️

Now that's somebody who can carry off that look.

LuckyHazelFox · 03/08/2026 20:44

dogsmaid · 03/08/2026 20:33

She might be busy hunting vampires!

😆 🤣 😂

Bakeittillyoumakeit · 03/08/2026 20:41

Wow that sounds like quite the outfit OP. At least he didn't ask if you were wearing anything under it - that's what i would have been wondering.

TBF is was rude of him to comment - but I probably would have sniggered. Why on earth would you wear a leather trench coat at 8:45 am in May? Back in the day I'd have assumed it was a walk of shame tbh.

dogsmaid · 03/08/2026 20:33

She might be busy hunting vampires!

LuckyHazelFox · 03/08/2026 20:32

OP is still missing in action then..

dogsmaid · 03/08/2026 20:29

Someone upthread posted this outfit as an example. It just doesn’t give me Neo or dystopian dominatrix vibes but I guess others see things differently 🤷🏻‍♀️

Unnecessary comment about my outfit from male member of staff at the school - your thoughts?
Lexy2345 · 03/08/2026 20:29

NeverDropYourMooncup · 03/08/2026 11:02

Six boys were named Blade in 2011. Which gets them right to being a teenager entering their secondary school in 2026.

You’ve cracked it, well done 👍
The teacher was merely greeting another student and the OP, suffering from Main Character Syndrome, assumed he was talking to her.

Franjipanl8r · 03/08/2026 20:16

DeftGoldHedgehog · 02/08/2026 23:03

What a beige world you must live in.

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Beige because I don’t go out looking like blade runner or the matrix and start getting offended that I look like a dystopian dominatrix ?! 😂

TheHatTrick · 03/08/2026 15:45

How are you planning to dress when you go in to complain? Please say like Wonder Woman

CoffeeCantata · 03/08/2026 15:37

dogsmaid · 03/08/2026 14:55

@CoffeeCantataI also like nice things, my family nickname is magpie 😆
As cheesy as it sounds wear things that make you happy, I really enjoy seeing people not dressed like everyone else.

Agree!

Pedallleur · 03/08/2026 15:10

lljkk · 02/08/2026 22:01

I dunno what "Blade" means.

The Day walker Vampire in a film franchise. Wears a leather coat, combat boots

dogsmaid · 03/08/2026 14:55

@CoffeeCantataI also like nice things, my family nickname is magpie 😆
As cheesy as it sounds wear things that make you happy, I really enjoy seeing people not dressed like everyone else.

GreenNewDealNow · 03/08/2026 14:52

Well yes I would take it badly as a lot of women have cumulative bad experiences over many years of horrible interactions from strange men in public which takes it's toll and leaves a mark on some. Men need to be made aware of this when they decide to approach women they don't know. His desire for 'banter' has trumped this. By repercussions I mean he may give her dirty looks or something. She already feels uncomfortable walking past him. I've never in my life considered talking to a stranger like this. He said it in a snarky tone. It's really bad manners.

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