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I blocked my Headteacher on WhatsApp this week

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jsty · 02/08/2026 21:49

To make this post as short as it needs to be.

I am an ECT who decided not to renew my fixed term contract at the school I have been working at this year, my contract ends on the 31st August. On the last day of work I handed in my work laptop and lanyard/fob before I left the building. Fast forward to now, I received a text message from my headteacher this week. Basically I have not completed some SEND paperwork, that was due before the end of the term. The headteacher was claiming it was essential to be completed. The message was worded very politely and wished me the best of luck for the future but they basically asked me to come into work, collect my work laptop and complete it before the end of the summer holidays, preferably as soon as possible.

I do not recall being told that this needed to be completed. The last half term I found so overwhelming and felt all I was doing was working for most hours in the day.

I responded by not replying to the message and blocking the headteacher. I have felt unsupported during my time working there from SLT. I have gone 3 months working there without a single meeting/observation from my mentor.

I probably have responded in the wrong way and dread what my reference from this school could be now but I just want to enjoy my summer holidays in peace and relax.

I am going back on supply in September to decide whether I want to stay in the profession or not.

OP posts:
Enoughofpeopleenough · 03/08/2026 07:54

SevenYellowHammers · 03/08/2026 07:53

I’ve done both jobs . Nursing is a total killer when you’re on duty. I have done 10Ks where my legs didn’t ache as much as a day on the ward. Teaching though, is unrelentingly horrible 24/ 7 during term time. The number of pointless tasks you have to complete is incredibly time consuming. I wonder why both are such exploited profession? What could it be?🤔

Do it for the kids man. Do it for the kids.

SevenYellowHammers · 03/08/2026 07:53

hcee19 · 03/08/2026 07:12

You were lucky. Nurses are lucky if they get a brew, & you think you were hard done by...

I’ve done both jobs . Nursing is a total killer when you’re on duty. I have done 10Ks where my legs didn’t ache as much as a day on the ward. Teaching though, is unrelentingly horrible 24/ 7 during term time. The number of pointless tasks you have to complete is incredibly time consuming. I wonder why both are such exploited profession? What could it be?🤔

josephinejosephine · 03/08/2026 07:49

MonteStory · 03/08/2026 07:43

As a teacher married to a doctor here are some facts that may interest you:
If he’s not on shift he doesn’t work. He is not contactable during annual leave.
He has a full day a week to do paperwork for a 3 day a week job (full time contract for consultants)
He has a full day a week for professional development.
If he does end up working outside his expected time he can be looking at locum rates of £300 an hour.

Very glad you were never my headteacher saying manipulative twaddle like that.

Edited

So, the conversation is different for doctors, isn’t it? Hence the I wonder. Which you have read as a series of facts which haven’t been stated.

MonteStory · 03/08/2026 07:43

josephinejosephine · 03/08/2026 00:30

Interesting views on here. 20 years in teaching , half of that as a head. Directed time is not “work time”- it is time when management can direct you to do certain things- like be in school, teach, meet with parents. Teachers are paid a full time salary, not term time only pro -rata , like many teaching assistants and school support staff. The 1265 directed time quota was always rightly designed to protect teachers from endless meetings and admin. As professionals who are paid full time, the rest of their time is self directed. And the very best use it to plan, further their professional development, run clubs and events for children, and perhaps even complete essential planning for some of the most vulnerable children and young people. And they have their contractual holiday, of course, where they cannot be directed to come in unless they are on the leadership scale. Where they are entitled to relax, take their holiday and decide how and when they ensure they are ready for the next academic year. In recent years I have found it interesting that a small number of teachers translate directed time as “the only time they will do anything related to their job.” I wonder what people’s views would be if a doctor refused to complete a similar request for a patient. I have the utmost respect for the profession I have devoted most of my working life to. Being a head is one of the most stressful, challenging and thankless jobs there is. And this head will need to ensure this child’s paperwork is completed. And no doubt it will be. But this type of work is best completed by the child’s own teacher whose insights would no doubt have been truly valuable for the child’s education. I wish the OP all the best in their career.

As a teacher married to a doctor here are some facts that may interest you:
If he’s not on shift he doesn’t work. He is not contactable during annual leave.
He has a full day a week to do paperwork for a 3 day a week job (full time contract for consultants)
He has a full day a week for professional development.
If he does end up working outside his expected time he can be looking at locum rates of £300 an hour.

Very glad you were never my headteacher saying manipulative twaddle like that.

loulouljh · 03/08/2026 07:41

Very unprofessional. Just do it. or accept you will not be getting a reference and someone's child will suffer as a result of this.

totalnamechanger · 03/08/2026 07:37

Sorry I haven’t read the full thread but unless you were completely ignoring this despite warnings in term time I’d say this is inexcusably bad leadership and support of an early career teacher. Others have more responsibility for this than you do now.

However in similar cases of senior leaders reneging on their duties in the past (not in current role) I have just put my head down and done what I needed to for the students/ colleagues. I have then taken stock, made different decisions, or indeed left when necessary. However if I were you I would do this one last thing and then put this very unsatisfactory role to bed. Wishing you all the best in the future. I am sorry, teaching is tough at the best of times- which these clearly haven’t been,

BeetrootLentilsGoatsCheese · 03/08/2026 07:36

jsty · 02/08/2026 21:49

To make this post as short as it needs to be.

I am an ECT who decided not to renew my fixed term contract at the school I have been working at this year, my contract ends on the 31st August. On the last day of work I handed in my work laptop and lanyard/fob before I left the building. Fast forward to now, I received a text message from my headteacher this week. Basically I have not completed some SEND paperwork, that was due before the end of the term. The headteacher was claiming it was essential to be completed. The message was worded very politely and wished me the best of luck for the future but they basically asked me to come into work, collect my work laptop and complete it before the end of the summer holidays, preferably as soon as possible.

I do not recall being told that this needed to be completed. The last half term I found so overwhelming and felt all I was doing was working for most hours in the day.

I responded by not replying to the message and blocking the headteacher. I have felt unsupported during my time working there from SLT. I have gone 3 months working there without a single meeting/observation from my mentor.

I probably have responded in the wrong way and dread what my reference from this school could be now but I just want to enjoy my summer holidays in peace and relax.

I am going back on supply in September to decide whether I want to stay in the profession or not.

YABVVU

This paperwork is needed for a child - just do it. It was due before end of term although you “don’t recall” 🙄. Just do it. What reason do you have for not doing it other than pure pigheadedness?

Blocking headteacher is childish.

Your next job won’t go better if this is how you handle things.

101Alsatians · 03/08/2026 07:34

YABVU and a douche to boot. You feel unsupported,imagine how kids (and parents of) with SEN feel. It is a ballbag.

It's paperwork,just get it done.

Walkden · 03/08/2026 07:34

"However, they can expect you to complete it before your contract expires on the 31st of August."

This usually means things like marking homework tests etc

It's not directed time. This means you cannot be directed to do any task so no they can't....

Smallestshadow · 03/08/2026 07:34

Poor kid! That paperwork could be absolutely crucial to the child and you’re still under contract! Get it completed!

MonteStory · 03/08/2026 07:32

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 03/08/2026 02:02

Exactly this. Whatever you think about your HT and handling of your role, ultimately you are there to help the children.

This is emotional manipulation and probably the biggest contributor to burnout culture in teaching (and many other caring professions). School staff push themselves beyond capacity “because of the children” and it is used by shitty management to make staff who stand up for themselves appear selfish and uncaring.

Teaching is a job. Some may consider it a calling, a passion but it is still a job. Children aren’t suffering at the hands of one single stressed teacher, they are being failed by the system. An individual cannot take responsibility for that.

Sunnibee · 03/08/2026 07:32

This is incredibly immature and unreasonable behaviour. Have you thought for a second who this might impact and how ? I'm sure you'd like to enjoy your summer and there's plenty of time to continue to do so- once your obligations are complete.
You are in the wrong profession.

Cairneyes · 03/08/2026 07:30

Doesn’t it also say in a teachers contract “plus any additional time as required to complete the duties of the post“ or something similar? So no, they can’t expect you to complete the paperwork at A specific time such as 9 o’clock on a Monday morning. However, they can expect you to complete it before your contract expires on the 31st of August.

Walkden · 03/08/2026 07:29

Not sure if this is a genuine post since op has not returned nor clarified if she intends to continue teaching

Most schools I would not respond to emails outside of schools hours. Nor would I be using what's app for work messages. It would be very unusual for a head yo be messaging over what's app surely.

You are now in non directed time, so do not need to complete further work. If the task was that essential someone should have collated responses and chased up any missing before the end of term. It's not unusual to get emails requesting work be completed at very short notice and these are easily missed.

If this is what happened there is zero chance I'd be going back into school to complete it. If it was a short task that could be done over OneDrive or similar id probably complete it.

Many schools exploit their staff because "it's for the kids". At the end of the day though you and your own family come first.

Enoughofpeopleenough · 03/08/2026 07:27

Fullydisgruntled · 03/08/2026 07:11

Incidentally I wrote 2 outstanding SEND reports with a 4 day old baby when my child was born at 37 weeks. My older child was born at 41 weeks and I thought I would have time before the birth at the beginning of my mat leave.

I could have foisted them on someone else to do, but I decided to get them done while I had a sleeping newborn. Not because I am a martyr, but because I am a professional, and I knew there were 2 kids at the end of those reports, and it was not their fault that I had had my baby earlier than expected.

More fool you. It wouldn't have been any less professional to not do that work. It's things like that that mean expectations are ridiculous for everyone else.

Enoughofpeopleenough · 03/08/2026 07:26

PurpleThistle7 · 03/08/2026 07:20

Ah - read some more posts about teaching contracts so think I was wrong. Just sounded odd to have a contract end a month from now while you intend to do nothing for the entire month. I still think you should prepare for a scathing reference if you refuse to finish your work.

Edited

That's how teaching contracts typically run. They end 31st Dec, 31st August or end of Easter holidays. Doesn't mean the teacher has to be working in their HOLIDAYS if they've already left the school and left their laptop.

If a window cleaner's contract finished on 31st August but they'd accumulated 4 weeks of annual leave should the boss ask them to go and clean Mrs Jones' windows during their period of annual leave because they'd forgot to tell them to do it in early July?

MonteStory · 03/08/2026 07:24

TheReflectiveQualityofGlass · 03/08/2026 07:09

I think teachers are expected to do some work over the holidays. That’s why they are paid all year. Most teachers I know work some of the holidays.

They cannot be required to work. So
all the posters saying “of course you have to do it, you’re still employed by them” are incorrect. Whether they are paid (as are TAs, pay is annualised) or whether you know people who work is irrelevant, teachers are telling you what is in our conditions.

Why would they have her hand in all her equipment if it was expected they might ask for more work? It’s clearly understood within the industry that someone leaving at the end of August actually leaves in July.

PurpleThistle7 · 03/08/2026 07:20

Ah - read some more posts about teaching contracts so think I was wrong. Just sounded odd to have a contract end a month from now while you intend to do nothing for the entire month. I still think you should prepare for a scathing reference if you refuse to finish your work.

Enoughofpeopleenough · 03/08/2026 07:19

TheReflectiveQualityofGlass · 03/08/2026 07:11

It’s not annual leave though.

That's exactly what it is. Just because it's called holidays in the teaching world it's still annual leave. If it wasn't then they wouldn't have asked for the IT equipment back.

MonteStory · 03/08/2026 07:18

Littlejonnydory · 02/08/2026 22:09

I think this is tricky, I am assuming that most of the above posters are not teachers and therefore have no understanding of directed hours. Teachers’ directed hours are within term time and should be set out in the school’s time budget, to ensure teachers do not work more than 1265 hours per year which is our contract. Therefore I think the headteacher is unreasonable to contact you in the school holidays to ask you to do this.

Someone should have been keeping track of this paperwork in term time and should have helped you complete it. Also given you are an ECT I would have expected you to have had support for a task like this. I agree with a previous comment though to politely reply, saying you are unable to return to school in the holidays.

This.

OP in future post questions like this in staff room so you get (mostly) only school
staff replying. Teaching contracts are quite different from ‘normal jobs’

Reference - if you’re going on supply then I wouldn’t worry. By the time you apply for a school again you won’t be using her reference anyway. Supply agencies are just checking you’re qualified and safe.

I initiated a whistleblowing investigation at my last job and was a successful at interview a week later 😂

Should you reply - yes, blocking will become apparent if she tries to ring you and does look suspicious. I agree with those saying text back and say you’re abroad the whole holiday but you’d be willing to answer questions.

Also for those saying the child will suffer - so paperwork that was essential and due three weeks ago was not communicated to the OP, not checked up on said due date and left for 3 weeks? sounds more like the child’s new teacher has asked a question that the shit senco doesn’t know the answer to and so has passed the buck.

If it was genuinely important and ‘due’ to the local authority then that boat has been massively missed and the SENCO is at fault there.

For those of us who actually know what we’re talking about - can you give any non identifying information about the work so we can help more?

ChelseaBagger · 03/08/2026 07:16

TheReflectiveQualityofGlass · 03/08/2026 07:11

It’s not annual leave though.

Do teachers not get annual leave?

ChelseaBagger · 03/08/2026 07:13

Any teacher who's been docked a day's wages (in my case my school agreed to give me a day off unpaid for a funeral) will know that they divide your pay only between schools days, ie they don't pay you for the holidays.

Of course the vast, vast majority of teachers do these jobs and many more through weekends and holidays because the whole system relies on it. But we're not actually paid to work throughout august.

And we all know it's the kids who suffer if we stop, which is why we're all struggling with burnout. Because every night it gets to 10.30/11 and you need to go to bed, but the work that still needs doing is ALWAYS for the benefit of the kids!

hcee19 · 03/08/2026 07:12

FunPartyIdeas · 02/08/2026 23:23

There is too much martyrdom in teaching, probably due to ever increasing and unreasonable expectations.
About a year before I left the profession (22 years in primary), I decided actually - I'm going to take at the very least half an hour over lunch! No - not going to supervise children in the classroom for the majority, not going to be on First Aid duty, not going to throw a sandwich down in two minutes flat, not going to bleed through my clothes as a perimenopausal woman as I haven't been able to go the the toilet.
I signed out when the lunch bell went, went for a walk, got a sandwich from a bar across the road, and returned 10 minutes before the kids were back in.
All perfectly acceptable in every profession it would seem except teaching.
Teachers - stop doing it!

You were lucky. Nurses are lucky if they get a brew, & you think you were hard done by...

Fullydisgruntled · 03/08/2026 07:11

Incidentally I wrote 2 outstanding SEND reports with a 4 day old baby when my child was born at 37 weeks. My older child was born at 41 weeks and I thought I would have time before the birth at the beginning of my mat leave.

I could have foisted them on someone else to do, but I decided to get them done while I had a sleeping newborn. Not because I am a martyr, but because I am a professional, and I knew there were 2 kids at the end of those reports, and it was not their fault that I had had my baby earlier than expected.

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 03/08/2026 07:11

As quite a few PPs have said, if you plan to carry on teaching in the same area, you need to do the work. Headteachers talk to each other. And staff move - you may find yourself being interviewed by one of your current SLT in a different school.

Forget whether it’s the moral thing to do (it is). It’s the pragmatic choice - it’s in your own interests to do it.

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