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Is this Mumsnet for me? Shocked at responses

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Su9 · 02/08/2026 18:17

Are there no group rules here about swearing, bring unkind, basic courtesy?
Is there no admin or moderator, or is this the kind of group everyone wants and the admin is facilitating?
There are some great responses that offer food for thought, while several others are plain ugly.
People presumably write in for support and advice, so how on earth do they feel when people chuck these ugly retorts?
I'm deciding whether to leave or stay.

OP posts:
pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 18:22

Why would adults need to be told not to swear?

weavingrugs · 02/08/2026 18:21

@Su9
I think that sometimes, especially if we do a job which doesn’t bring us in contact with lots of different sorts of people, we tend to think that people will answer on here as if they were friends.
If you ask something here, as well as getting all sorts of advice you are going to hear it in all sorts of ways, some of which might appear “unkind”.

TheEponymousGrub · 02/08/2026 18:21

Definitely no rules about swearing.
If you post on AIBU, then I think you risk getting hostile responses from arseholes. I believe the other boards are more measured.

Wingwalk · 02/08/2026 18:20

It's up to you whether you leave I suppose. In my experience if someone swears at someone else, that reply is deleted. Obviously swearing is allowed because we're not children.

IHaveTraumaFromAlfredHitchcocksTheBirds · 02/08/2026 18:19

If you dont like a robust conversation with swearing, then it probably isn't the site for you in all honesty.

Personal attacks aren't allowed, and you can report the posts using the 3 dots at the top of the post and MN will take a look and delete as necessary.