To think my age gap / sugar baby relationship is nobody else’s business?

Addressed by the all seeing eye

When there are men in their 30s and 40s on £30-£50k a year, don't own their own homes and have absolutely nothing in the way of wealth, trading out girlfriends once they hit 30 because they have no interest in dating an 'older' or 'middleaged' (their words) woman, it seems ridiculous to assume that an end to this arrangement would be easily replaced with a second older man that is considerably wealthier.

It's bog standard red pill reasoning - and the lightly used, one careful owner context would, for those men, mean the OP is approaching the casual runaround point rather than a cherished status symbol in a climate controlled garage that's lovingly detailed on a Saturday for a Sunday morning drive.

When the commodity being sold is youth, the inherent value to the purchaser (or in this case, the temporary rental) automatically declines once it's driven off the forecourt.

Assuming her statement is genuine, I'm supportive.

Accumulate whatever benefits are sensibly within reach and then make a graceful exit; emotional entanglement is quite unnecessary.

His presence serves a purpose, and that purpose alone.

If you read a couple of posts further on you'd have seen I did put a correction about the 15 year old boys having grandchildren: obviously I meant children.

Yes, it is possible that he could have a grandchild her age, but it's not common for boys to father children at such a young age.

I'm in my late 70s and my children are in their 30s and early 40s.

I knew no one who was reproducing when I was in my teens and neither did my children.

I guess the children love his dad so of course they are concerned about a gold digger / women their own age pretending they live the guy

ir you love someone their welfare is your concern and the fact that you don’t understand it suggests to me you have never really been in love

A friend of mine has this arrangement. It suited them both for a while but then he dropped her for a younger model.

She managed to stash some cash while she was with him which cushioned her a little but please be prepared

He pays my rent, gives me a monthly allowance, takes me on holidays, buys me lovely gifts etc. In return, we spend time together, go out for dinner, weekends away and yes, we have sex.

So you basically gave up a well paid office job to be an escort. I can sort of understand why some people might want to do it, but I can’t really understand giving up nearly 100k a near job to be “kept“/financially supported, basically to boost this guys status and provide him with sex. Is it no one else’s business? Not really, but people have an opinion on most things. How do you think they should view your life choice in terms of your character/perosnality.

It sounds like you are compatible and in a relationship that works for both of you. That's way more than a lot of people on this forum can say they have. Good luck.

Well he gets to have sex with a much younger (presumably) attractive younger woman. She gets loads of cash. It’s a relationship of sorts but essentially no different to that of the relationship of the man/escort who have an appointment every other week and reasonably enjoy one another’s company once the sex part is done.

I mean, you’re a sex worker. You’re exchanging sex for financial rewards.

Do I think you’re doing anything wrong? No. More power to you. You have something that works for you. Would I be happy if my dad had this set up? Absolutely not. No one wants to see their dad being used financially even if there is total honesty within that relationship.

You think I am making it up that my husband is 6 months older than me, and I earn my own money?

Wow, I actually feel sorry for you.

Doesn't matter if you knew no-one else who was producing children at 17-18, when you were a teenager. The world is bigger than your social circle, and some people would have had children in their mid-late teens. As you are now nearly 80, there would have been MORE teen parents when you were a teen than there are now.

And nothing, NOTHING changes the fact that the OP's sugar daddy is old enough to be her grandfather.

And most people of nearly 80 will not have children in their 30s as you claim to. Indeed many people of your age will have grandchildren in their 30s.

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I’m 73 and could very easily be a great grandmother now, two of my friends already are.

Fair exchange ain't no robbery 🤷🏾‍♀️.
My only concern is your financial vulnerability, having given up your job. I hope at they very least you are saving from that allowance, and have strict timelines for how you wish to progress.

Fair?

I do my best to take an objective view on the issues raised on MN and comment accordingly. I can't help thinking that if the boot was on the other foot on this issue - young man being kept by a wealthy older women with little affection in the relationship - the comments would be completely different.

I don't 'claim' to have children in their 30's. I have a daughter in her late 30's and two children are in their early 40's, as I stated in my post.

My eldest grandchild has just turn 12 years old and the youngest is 4.5 years old.

Whilst it's true the age gap is wide enough for the man to be OP's grandfather, I just felt it was stretching it a bit to say he was old enough to be her grandfather as he would have to have been extremely young when she was born.

I come from a background of older parents - my mother was 40 and my father 48 when I was born - my exh and I and were older parents and likewise my own children weren't young when they became parents.

Just a matter of experience and perspective, I suppose.

However, it's viewed 29 and early 60s is an extremely wide age gap. But given the nature of the relationship, it's probably not an unusual age gap with such transactional arrangements.