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To wonder what retirees do on a grey, wet Tuesday morning

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BeaQuiet · 02/08/2026 10:50

I'm just a few years from State Pension age but can't imagine giving up work completely (work 28 hours pw at the moment).

Summers like this, yes, I'd be perfectly content but AIBU to ask what retired people do on a wet Tuesday morning in winter. Especially as Wed, Thur, Fri etc are likely to be wet or grey too.

This was raised on a Mel Robbins podcast on ageing and it got me thinking.

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Iloveeverycat · 02/08/2026 11:47

BeaQuiet · 02/08/2026 10:50

I'm just a few years from State Pension age but can't imagine giving up work completely (work 28 hours pw at the moment).

Summers like this, yes, I'd be perfectly content but AIBU to ask what retired people do on a wet Tuesday morning in winter. Especially as Wed, Thur, Fri etc are likely to be wet or grey too.

This was raised on a Mel Robbins podcast on ageing and it got me thinking.

I have 6 years to go. I could imagine retiring now. I like to upcycle things so would stay in and do that as I don't seem to have the time at the moment. I would sell them too to too up my pension as I will only have the state pension to rely on apart from a very small lump sum.

OnGoldenPond · 02/08/2026 11:47

FrauPaige · 02/08/2026 11:41

Grey Tuesday morning: Sell house
Wednesday: Get on plane at Heathrow
Thursday: Enjoy life in Thailand/Costa Rica/Continental Europe

Friday. Apply for visa to get residency in continental European country. Spend lots of money on application and get rejected for no obvious reason. After 90 days return home defeated.

feellikeanalien · 02/08/2026 11:46

My sister and I always said that Mum was busier after she retired than before. She was very involved in her local church, taught English to refugees, met friends for coffee or lunch, went to Aquafit. Sometimes she and Dad would go out for a drive or to visit friends. She also seemed to spend a lot of time getting rid of stuff.😁.

Rainbowcat77 · 02/08/2026 11:45

I think that to a certain extent, the things you’re currently fitting into weekends and evenings spread out and fill up the day a bit more. So mundane things like shopping, cleaning, phoning a friend, reading, cooking dinner just get done in a less hurried way.
maybe they’ll get up a bit later, they tend to get involved in groups/projects/activities with other retired people so my parents do talking newspaper, Tuesday tea and toast at their local church, volunteer on a few different committees and meet up with various friends and relatives.
they’re always busy and regularly wonder how they managed to fit work in.

Lemonorzo · 02/08/2026 11:44

Not retired but when I didn’t work I went shopping on Tuesday mornings, it’s very quiet.

OnGoldenPond · 02/08/2026 11:43

Aydel · 02/08/2026 10:53

Museums, art galleries, a matinée at the theatre, a nice lunch somewhere, dress for the weather and go for a long walk. Write some short stories or a couple of chapters of your novel. Cook a really nice, complicated dinner. Curl up with the cat and a good book.

Exactly. The UK is very well set up for rainy weather activities as we get a lot of it! Grin

Mumof1andacat · 02/08/2026 11:42

This is what they don't do..sit in an office with no windows, answering another point less email, correcting other people's work because it's wrong and use computer systems that are not fit for purpose....role on retirement 😉

cuckoolodger · 02/08/2026 11:42

My local church is fantastic and Tuesdays is community lunch day. It’s a place for all, huge mix of people from immigrants that barely speak English to retired head teachers, and no big religious push. Tuesdays you can get a toastie for breakfast or a lunch and pudding and it’s pay as you feel . I tend to throw £10 in the pot for two coffees and two toasties. They have board games out, a craft group that has a water colour tutor and a few knitters/Crochet. It’s a lovely community space and it’s incredibly beautiful and atmospheric as it dates back to the 1300s. The choir practices around 1 in the afternoon too. It’s very easy to pass a few hours just talking to the regulars and the staff and they are always looking for volunteers for various projects etc. I currently volunteer in the cafe for buffet events as I don’t like customer facing stuff. I also fund raise all year as my sister and I run the free Christmas and Easter meals scheme and also fund the free kids meals and holiday activities. Me and DH are also mother and father christmas so very busy in December. Fridays is live music from 11-1 and it’s HEAVING and has a proper music festival vibe. Friday just gone was the busiest ever and the pews were full of People dancing as there was no space anywhere else.

FrauPaige · 02/08/2026 11:41

Grey Tuesday morning: Sell house
Wednesday: Get on plane at Heathrow
Thursday: Enjoy life in Thailand/Costa Rica/Continental Europe

Nowstrong · 02/08/2026 11:41

Exercises, nails, face mask. Start planning next trip where it's sunny. Read books, travel guides. Make bread for the deep freezer. Give the place a good spring clean. See friends for tea, coffee, make calls, do admin work. Get my agenda in order and organise catch-ups with friends and family. Never a bored day...

truepenguin · 02/08/2026 11:40

Naked Sauna.

What do you do at work on a wet Tuesday morning?

Thindog · 02/08/2026 11:38

Buy a horse.

TonTonMacoute · 02/08/2026 11:38

French class. Stop at the pasty stall on the way to get Cornish pasties for lunch.

viques · 02/08/2026 11:36

Tuesdays I go to choir.

FredBares · 02/08/2026 11:36

Must we stay busy? How about reading, with a pot of tea and the cat?

JacknDiane · 02/08/2026 11:36

Stay in bed

Tryagain26 · 02/08/2026 11:35

Well I'm retired and I find plenty to do.
I do a Pilates class, a language class and I'm in a book group they all run throughout the year including on grey, cold Tuesdays! I also do school pick ups a couple of days a week, meet my friends in coffee shops, go for walks, go shopping, cook, read, go to the cinema / theatre, attend interesting lectures, go to the library etc.
When I first retired I also did some voluntary work. There is plenty to do besides work I wouldn't have time to fit work into my life!

LooksLikeIPickedTheWrongWeekToQuitDrinking · 02/08/2026 11:35

A million and one different possibilities, surely?

But for me personally, I have a dog walk, gym, painting class, and another dog walk on Tuesdays; in term time at least.
DH spends all his time painting but also comes to the gym.
Also the usual housework, dinner, and knitting or crochet in the evening whilst watching telly.

Armorlux · 02/08/2026 11:34

You don't have to fill your day with anything. You are the same person but, potentially, with more choices, so how you structure it - or don't - is up to you (finances,health and other people considered). It's just a new stage of your life.
If you need routine,then set your own,but you don't need a list.

There's still a whole world out there to get involved in, or not. You just don't have work getting in the way!

5foot5 · 02/08/2026 11:31

singthing · 02/08/2026 11:00

Isn’t the answer…. Whatever the hell they want to?

Yes! Exactly this.

There are still household chores to be done obviously and, since retiring, we have got round to loads of jobs and home improvements that we hadn't had time for before.

But we both have lots of hobbies and interests to occupy us.

Unless the weather is really dire we still like to go for walks.

We often have Random Pensioner Days Out when we visit some place, attraction, museum whatever that we have never been to before.

We have had way more holidays then we could fit in while working.

And other wet Tuesdays it is just nice enough to wander down to the library and change my books then go home and curl up for a good read.

Pedant61 · 02/08/2026 11:31

Have a second cup of coffee, and then go out to volunteer, or play a sport, or pursue a hobby, or see a friend.
Maybe stay at home and read a book, plan a trip, catch up on admin, listen to the radio or a podcast, learn a new language, write, craft....etc.
Sometimes, sadly, they even have to do the boring stuff like go to the supermarket, iron shirts or push the vacuum cleaner around!
There are as many options as there are people - the real luxury is that there is also choice.

WaitAndSeeNow · 02/08/2026 11:31

Surely any answer is better than ‘go to work’? It would be for me!

Digerydont · 02/08/2026 11:30

Una birra, per favore. - My first words if Italian

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 02/08/2026 11:29

At the moment I’d really love a wet morning here! No rain for weeks.

But what I’d do as a retiree, is probably what I often do anyway - get on with knitting or sewing up the items I make for a charity. There’s always a waiting list and the items are really wanted and valued, so it’s a great excuse for ignoring the housework. 🙂

Whosthetabbynow · 02/08/2026 11:29

After suffering wankers in various offices across a span of 40 years it’s sheer bliss not to have to bother anymore. I don’t care if it’s rain, shine, wet, windy or whatever. If I want to stay in I will and if I want to go out I will. It’s the freedom plus I do wonder how I ever managed to waste 8 hours a day listening to drivel (public sector)