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To wonder what retirees do on a grey, wet Tuesday morning

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BeaQuiet · 02/08/2026 10:50

I'm just a few years from State Pension age but can't imagine giving up work completely (work 28 hours pw at the moment).

Summers like this, yes, I'd be perfectly content but AIBU to ask what retired people do on a wet Tuesday morning in winter. Especially as Wed, Thur, Fri etc are likely to be wet or grey too.

This was raised on a Mel Robbins podcast on ageing and it got me thinking.

OP posts:
pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 14:40

My parents are retired and they're busier than me!

They do all sorts - running (dad), hiking (mum), theatre trips, the cinema, coffee or meals with friends, volunteering, yoga, pilates etc. Mum joins me at work (dog walker) for a day a few times a month too.

topcat2014 · 02/08/2026 14:40

BeaQuiet · 02/08/2026 11:10

I'm glad, OP, that you have a job you enjoy. I used to think that, and all the career stuff, then I got sacked (out of the blue).

It's not a career and I don't particularly enjoy the job. Some of our many managers are bullies but I have - so far - kept under their radar. Redundancy in a couple of years is a real threat and I dread that.

I do enjoy the structure and social interactions. Plus I wfh 80% of the time.

Sorry, I wasn't meaning much by it. Personal circs may have made me a bit bitter..

I already do some volunteering - but sometimes it also feels like work (eg charity trustee).

But, it is important to have plans so you don't just have doctors and dentist on the calendar.

In generations gone by you could have expected DGC to turn up around the time you are 60, and all live in the same town, but society not like that as much now

FeelingALittleWoozyHere · 02/08/2026 14:36

If you are my mum, you'd be doom scrolling on your phone with morning tv in the background before going for a nap (to rest from all the doom scrolling). Whatever you do, please keep busy!!

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 02/08/2026 14:33

I go for a run (year round, five miles a day), and if it's grey and wet I take the dog too. She doesn't like warm weather but she can run miles when it's cool. Then home, dry off the dog and either do a spin class or head to stables and have a ride. By the time I'm home again it's time for a shower, sort out the house, maybe pop to the supermarket or meet up with a friend for a coffee, walk the dog, then have a well deserved sit down with a cup of tea.

I am retired, but have a WFH job which I do first thing in the morning when I wake up for a couple of hours. No idea how I ever found time to go out to work, to be honest.

Epoisses · 02/08/2026 14:30

Anyone mentioned sex???

FrauPaige · 02/08/2026 14:18

Crikeyalmighty · 02/08/2026 13:23

You should see my prep for Germany - utilising taking our business - executive statement, business accounts, CVs , cash flow projections, statements, contracts for services- the list is endless.none of the business minded country’s that we would go to, essentially the scandis, Netherlands or Germany use nomad visas at all - getting in legally longer term is hardcore!

That's an absolute mountain - well done for staying the course! It really is a mission getting residence in CE now but doable if you dot the i's and cross the t's. Prep really does need to be measured in years ahead rather than weeks or months!

HoldingOntoMySanity · 02/08/2026 13:56

Well- my parents do what they do every single other day. Out to the shops before 10.30 for the day's dinner, coffee and cake at a cafe then home.

DH is retired and does what he does most days- takes the dcs to school, then does washing, preps dinner, goes out on his bike or watches youtube channels about DIY that he then gets around to eventually.

AnonyMumAuDHD · 02/08/2026 13:52

ShanghaiDiva · 02/08/2026 13:07

And ime a significant number volunteer a lot of their time in their local community.

True, the post is about what they are doing in wet weather - and I should have added that option. I’m a volunteer locally and many of the local organisations and know that scouts and guides in particular, wouldn’t be as vibrant were it not for life time scouters/guiders who are still there in retirement - not as grandparent helpers (though many have DGC in the organisations) but as committed volunteers.

Epoisses · 02/08/2026 13:46

I missed out going away, and planning next trip !!!!

sohereforit · 02/08/2026 13:44

hahabahbag · 02/08/2026 10:54

My dh volunteers on Tuesdays, meets a friend on Wednesdays and seems to be at the end of the runway regularly too (more regularly then he tells me i suspect!) apparently at the end of the runway it’s pretty busy even in rain (go figure!) I go to work

Sadly, I’m a long way from retirement so can’t answer OP’s question, but I’m placemarking to hopefully find out what this means.

Crikeyalmighty · 02/08/2026 13:23

FrauPaige · 02/08/2026 13:09

Preparation is everything.

But yes, swanning in as if free movement still exists won't cut it!

You should see my prep for Germany - utilising taking our business - executive statement, business accounts, CVs , cash flow projections, statements, contracts for services- the list is endless.none of the business minded country’s that we would go to, essentially the scandis, Netherlands or Germany use nomad visas at all - getting in legally longer term is hardcore!

Crikeyalmighty · 02/08/2026 13:18

I’m 64and about to move back to the EU after 4 years back in UK - setting up an EU subsidiary on our business - the beauracracy will keep me entertained for a year - not somewhere with year round great weather too - all I would say is I personally I would live somewhere with a lot going on and places to go- gardening, garden centres, genealogy, pottery, allotments etc wouldn’t be for me - I think that’s an important thing when you have far more time on your hands , live somewhere that suits your personality and interests

Jaxhog · 02/08/2026 13:16

Nordic walking
Swimming
Painting
Running and organising clubs
Writing a book
Meeting friends
Visiting parks, galleries, zoos etc.

It's great!

FrauPaige · 02/08/2026 13:09

OnGoldenPond · 02/08/2026 11:47

Friday. Apply for visa to get residency in continental European country. Spend lots of money on application and get rejected for no obvious reason. After 90 days return home defeated.

Preparation is everything.

But yes, swanning in as if free movement still exists won't cut it!

Anonymouseposter · 02/08/2026 13:08

If I have a commitment like someone coming for lunch, meeting a friend, keep fit class, voluntary work etc I just keep it anyway.
If weather isn’t too bad I still walk the dog. If it’s really horrible I curl up under a heated blanket with a book or watch TV and do my tapestry or something.
It’s quite nice in winter to have a cup of coffee while watching people defrost their cars through the window.

ShanghaiDiva · 02/08/2026 13:07

AnonyMumAuDHD · 02/08/2026 12:35

The current crop of retirees are amongst the most affluent retirees we have seen, and massively more so than those coming behind them in the next 10-20 years. They have plenty of money to spend shopping, going to galleries, Rock choir and a plethora of activities set up by people realising that this generation have both time and money on their hands. Most of them, will be hoping that the grey wet weather brings enough rain to offset the hosepipe bans (although, they will likely have registered as priority users and be exempt anyway) so that their gardens and pots are able to recover.

Sorry, not feeling hugely concerned…

And ime a significant number volunteer a lot of their time in their local community.

dumblydork · 02/08/2026 13:00

Well, I plan on doing my indoor hobbies, of which there are many. Maybe start another one or two, as well. (They may seem boring to some, but we're all different. Personally, I prefer my hobbies to any job I've ever done.)

If I feel like it, go for a walk anyway. I prefer to walk when it's cooler, unless it's bucketing down. Could join a gym and even take a class. Join a group, if I want more human interaction.

If I retire and feel terribly bored, I suppose there are 'side gig' type jobs I could pursue to fill in some time. Or perhaps I'd start a YouTube channel about one of my boring hobbies, simply for the fun of it. I enjoy sharing ideas and inspiration with like-minded people.

TubeScreamer · 02/08/2026 12:57

I’m not yet retired but lots of my friends are. Most could fill their days several times over.

dog walks
gym
cycling
looking after elderly relatives
looking after grandchildren
volunteering and community events
art classes
book group
a lot of holidays
decorating
gardening
all the boring house stuff that needs doing
family history

UnintentionallyFabulous · 02/08/2026 12:49

Most of the retirees I know look after grandchildren or grand-dogs most of the week.

CaptainMyCaptain · 02/08/2026 12:47

principalskinna · 02/08/2026 12:18

I'm laughing because everybody who's retired on here and say that they do interesting things and then list them, or things look really fucking boring.
genealogy, gardening and pottery ffs

shoot me now

Edited

The trick is to do what you find interesting not what other people find interesting. HTH. If you don't find anything interesting that's on you.

Goditsmemargaret · 02/08/2026 12:45

Gym

Digerydont · 02/08/2026 12:43

Whether I go out or stay in would depend on whether I can find my keys or not. I have a habit of picking them up to go out, remembering I need to take something with me, putting them down whilst I search for the something, then not remembering where I put the keys .

Bunnyofhope · 02/08/2026 12:43

This Tuesday I'm taking my mum with advanced dementia to chiropody. But everyone enjoys different things!!

Digerydont · 02/08/2026 12:43

Whether I go out or stay in would depend on whether I can find my keys or not. I have a habit of picking them up to go out, remembering I need to take something with me, putting them down whilst I search for the something, then not remembering where I put the keys .

CaptainMyCaptain · 02/08/2026 12:41

Rain or shine I meet a friend for a dog walk on Tuesday morning then I have a class at the gym. On other days I have different classes, dog walks and a volunteer job. Other than that sewing, gardening and reading. I am never, ever bored.