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To wonder what retirees do on a grey, wet Tuesday morning

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BeaQuiet · 02/08/2026 10:50

I'm just a few years from State Pension age but can't imagine giving up work completely (work 28 hours pw at the moment).

Summers like this, yes, I'd be perfectly content but AIBU to ask what retired people do on a wet Tuesday morning in winter. Especially as Wed, Thur, Fri etc are likely to be wet or grey too.

This was raised on a Mel Robbins podcast on ageing and it got me thinking.

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AmIrightAmIright · 02/08/2026 19:18

I need to know about the runway!

BatshitCrazyWoman · 02/08/2026 19:18

principalskinna · 02/08/2026 12:18

I'm laughing because everybody who's retired on here and say that they do interesting things and then list them, or things look really fucking boring.
genealogy, gardening and pottery ffs

shoot me now

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Do you lack the imagination to realise that you would choose to do things that you find interesting? Which is hopefully not pouring scorn on other people's interests.

I've never been bored, for what it's worth.

Allseeingallknowing · 02/08/2026 19:16

FredBares · 02/08/2026 11:36

Must we stay busy? How about reading, with a pot of tea and the cat?

Ideal!

Allseeingallknowing · 02/08/2026 19:13

With all these activity and good works, does anyone do any housework?

Allseeingallknowing · 02/08/2026 19:11

Epoisses · 02/08/2026 14:30

Anyone mentioned sex???

Yes

Nourishinghandcream · 02/08/2026 19:10

"To wonder what retirees do on a grey, wet Tuesday morning?"

We lie in bed with a cuppa thinking how good it is not having to get up and go to work!😁

Allseeingallknowing · 02/08/2026 19:10

FeelingALittleWoozyHere · 02/08/2026 14:36

If you are my mum, you'd be doom scrolling on your phone with morning tv in the background before going for a nap (to rest from all the doom scrolling). Whatever you do, please keep busy!!

I like the sound of your Mum!

Allseeingallknowing · 02/08/2026 19:08

MrsBeltane · 02/08/2026 16:53

Sit and smile as I'm not at work.

Thank God - thought I was the only one!

Hankunamatata · 02/08/2026 19:04

Pickleball seems to be a craze

DirtyGertiefromno30 · 02/08/2026 19:04

The library , market , visit my friends , shops, charity shops , go for a drive , church and DIY.

Ponderingwindow · 02/08/2026 19:01

I have enough hobbies to keep me busy for multiple lifetimes. It’s one of the perks of ASD I guess as I’m learning that other people don’t seem to find it as easy to keep busy. This week I plan to do some sewing and to start working on a new app.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 02/08/2026 18:56

DM goes to a French conversation group on Tuesday pm.
At other times of the week she goes to Tai Chi or Culture Club (they arranged trips to exhibitions and plays etc). She’s also volunteered at a charity shop, at the dc’s primary school and been a tour guide at Wells Cathedral. She didn’t like Bridge.

Judgibg by the U3A board in our library, life really does begin at retirement!

Gresley · 02/08/2026 18:56

Some people seem to think that pensioners just sit in front of the telly all day with a cat or dog on their lap and do word searches or read every word in the local paper before going back to bed at 2 pm for a nap.

A couple of my neighbours do this, but these are some of the things my retired friends and I have been doing and will be continuing to do on wet Tuesdays in winter:
Working at B&Q
Selling things on Ebay and Vinted
Going to different towns to shop, mainly in charity shops, and have coffee and cake in a cafe and people-watch
Tinkering with motorbikes
Doing online and in-person courses and
Passing English and Maths GCSE and 2 more A-levels
Completing an MA
Taking part in church coffee mornings/sales
Volunteering in charity shops
Travelling, both inside and outside the UK (one is going to Uzbekistan)
Taking part in a dance class and doing Charleston (didn't end well)
Researching local history
Swimming in indoor pools
Exercising at home or at the gym
Going on daily walks in all weathers
Planning next year's work in the garden and ordering seeds
Making clothes and costumes
Running a painting group
Seeing family and friends for tea
Going to the ballet or cinema
Painting and selling their work in exhibitions
Building a website
DIY
Editing Wikipedia
Seeing their children and grandchildren
Volunteering for a food bank or community fridge
Cooking
Sorting out their possessions to declutter and donating items to children and grandchildren or give to charity or to bin

Personally I've been continuing to do the things I enjoyed doing in my spare time before I retired, only now I've got more time to devote to them, which is wonderful! You don't suddenly become another person when you retire. But if you internalise ageism and just veg out in front of the telly and give in to your aches and pains then you won't enjoy your retirement very much and will (according to some research) die earlier.

Dobeebeedah · 02/08/2026 18:32

FishPie2 · 02/08/2026 18:27

If you still have a partner everything is fine but when you are on your own it can be so boring. I hate rainy days and could happily stay in bed and watch catch up TV. Coffee meets bore me to death, I don't need to do much shopping and just wish there were decent exercise classes near to where I live but I have to make do with ytube. Swimming twice a week is about it so most of my spare money goes on train fares to places I enjoy.

Look into U3A: Even if people have partners they don't normally do the same things together. Lots of singles as well. Most of the activities begin in September and all activities are welcoming to new members. Look it up in your area and see what you would like to do. The first year I did 4 different activities a week and found it too much and find 3 is about right for me. Some groups go out for visits/holidays etc. The cost is minimal.

FishPie2 · 02/08/2026 18:27

If you still have a partner everything is fine but when you are on your own it can be so boring. I hate rainy days and could happily stay in bed and watch catch up TV. Coffee meets bore me to death, I don't need to do much shopping and just wish there were decent exercise classes near to where I live but I have to make do with ytube. Swimming twice a week is about it so most of my spare money goes on train fares to places I enjoy.

Tekknonan · 02/08/2026 18:10

I've never stopped working because I enjoy what I do. I used to be a teacher, so I've taken on some work as a senior examiner (no marking - had enough of that), I published a couple of novels before I retired so I work on books - my most recent got published and I've just finished another. I don't do it now to be published (though obviously that's what I want) but because I love doing it. Friends of my age pursue the things they love that they couldn't focus on when in full-time work. One friend had turned her garden into a paradise (and talking about full-time work...), another has developed the interest in sewing she's had for years. Others volunteer. One has got the dog she never felt she had time for before and no matter what the weather, the two of them are out in it. Tbh, I'm not sure these days how I ever found time to fit in a full-time job. Don't worry. You'll be fine.

Cuwins · 02/08/2026 18:03

My parents are both retired now (within the last couple of years).
They both play bowls- outdoor in summer and indoor in winter. This is 1-2 times a week minimum.
My dad has 2 voluntary roles which he is generally out with atleast 2 days a week and often dealing with phone calls about at home.
My mum is a member of U3A and is generally doing something with that 1-2 days a week plus she has a volunteer role on a weekend morning. She also visits her family member in a care home atleast once a week.
Plus they care for my daughter on average atleast 1 day a week in term time.
My mum is quite sociable and will often be going for a walk with a friend (only cancelled if it’s pouring) or meeting for coffee. Dad prefers more solitary time.

cortex10 · 02/08/2026 17:54

PT session at the gym to help ensure I’m as fit as possible as I get older - having gone from never exercising while working to cardio, weights and stretching at least 3 times a week. Best thing DH and I have done since we retired as it’s giving us the strength and energy to enjoy a wide range of activities as mentioned by previous posters.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 02/08/2026 17:40

Have sex

TulipsAndPancakes · 02/08/2026 17:34

Swim/gym
Bake
Cook
Language class
Coffee out
Volunteering gig
Library
Cinema
Supermarket shop/errands
Museum/gallery

SixtySomething · 02/08/2026 17:32

i’m retired. Like others have said, you do what interests you. You don’t hang around twiddling your thumbs!

Specialagentblond · 02/08/2026 17:31

Gym, meet up with a friend or ask them round, get my sewing machine out, binge watch, batch cook, declutter, the list is endless.

NovemberMorn · 02/08/2026 17:29

BeaQuiet · 02/08/2026 10:50

I'm just a few years from State Pension age but can't imagine giving up work completely (work 28 hours pw at the moment).

Summers like this, yes, I'd be perfectly content but AIBU to ask what retired people do on a wet Tuesday morning in winter. Especially as Wed, Thur, Fri etc are likely to be wet or grey too.

This was raised on a Mel Robbins podcast on ageing and it got me thinking.

I stay in bed....late to bed late to rise in winter.
There is always something to do in the afternoons, and winter evenings are spent getting cosy, watching TV, reading, silver surfing, playing games, or just chatting.

hattie43 · 02/08/2026 17:27

Lego

Leo800 · 02/08/2026 17:26

Go swimming or a gym class followed by coffee. Practice the language I’m learning or the piano. Read, bake, watch a film, decorate the house. Surely you have interests & hobbies?

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