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To wonder what retirees do on a grey, wet Tuesday morning

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BeaQuiet · 02/08/2026 10:50

I'm just a few years from State Pension age but can't imagine giving up work completely (work 28 hours pw at the moment).

Summers like this, yes, I'd be perfectly content but AIBU to ask what retired people do on a wet Tuesday morning in winter. Especially as Wed, Thur, Fri etc are likely to be wet or grey too.

This was raised on a Mel Robbins podcast on ageing and it got me thinking.

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AitkenDrum1970 · 11/08/2026 09:59

Walk every day (even in bad weather), volunteer, arts and crafts, reading, learning a new skill, etc. However, our absolutely favourite, not so guilty pleasure is catching up with TV series that we would fall asleep over in the evenings!
And actually it is ok to be bored occasionally, I find it gives the brain time to re-set which after 30 years of working with 6 and 7 year olds, it definitely needs.

GnomeDePlume · 11/08/2026 09:54

DH retired a couple of weeks ago. We dream of wet Tuesdays. As it is, he will be up at the allotment, watering.

BeaQuiet · 11/08/2026 09:14

BCBird · 11/08/2026 08:39

Retired early from a stressful job. Been.picking up a bit of temporary work- need to work financially and socially. I don't like not having the structure of work. Looking for a permanent part time job. I have got too much time on my hands

That's my fear if I get made redundant!

Thanks for all the replies btw. Haven't been online much but am catching up with the thread.

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BCBird · 11/08/2026 08:39

Retired early from a stressful job. Been.picking up a bit of temporary work- need to work financially and socially. I don't like not having the structure of work. Looking for a permanent part time job. I have got too much time on my hands

Rumpledandcrumpled · 11/08/2026 08:39

ToCatchACat · 06/08/2026 14:04

Surely they check in with their children / grandchildren, find out how they can be useful and go from there?

Um what now, if you’ve done your job as a parent well, then your children will be independent adults and you will be close enough you know what support Is required.

who on earth retires then checks in with their kids and offers to basically work for them 😂

DrMorbius · 11/08/2026 07:54

When thinking about retiring I did wonder what I would do on a wet Monday - Friday in winter. Then we solved it. The first couple of years of retirement we spent January to March in the Canary Islands. Then we moved there. Now we don't have cold and wet winters.

Ilovemyshed · 11/08/2026 07:45

DeftGoldHedgehog · 02/08/2026 23:27

What does the cat read? 😺

My cat reads the paper, then he converts it to braille. He’s a clever one.

Mary46 · 06/08/2026 17:00

Well my friend is always minding kids seems to be presumed too you doing it. Retired people have their own lives too they earned it

undergound · 06/08/2026 16:51

ToCatchACat · 06/08/2026 14:04

Surely they check in with their children / grandchildren, find out how they can be useful and go from there?

🤣🤣

ShanghaiDiva · 06/08/2026 16:50

ToCatchACat · 06/08/2026 14:04

Surely they check in with their children / grandchildren, find out how they can be useful and go from there?

Snort!

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 06/08/2026 14:45

ToCatchACat · 06/08/2026 14:04

Surely they check in with their children / grandchildren, find out how they can be useful and go from there?

Nope. Don’t own any of them!

BIossomtoes · 06/08/2026 14:31

ToCatchACat · 06/08/2026 14:04

Surely they check in with their children / grandchildren, find out how they can be useful and go from there?

No we don’t. Why on earth would we? We don’t exist to be our children and or grandchildren’s slaves.

ToCatchACat · 06/08/2026 14:04

Surely they check in with their children / grandchildren, find out how they can be useful and go from there?

Comicalblackcat · 06/08/2026 13:53

I retired a long time ago and keep so busy I wonder how I had time to work. Still very busy although I have found it difficult during the heat waves but it’s taught me to have patience and relax in the cool and catch up with reading.

MadKittenWoman · 05/08/2026 19:16

Dance fit and Pilates, followed by swim, sauna, steam and jacuzzi.

mamaduckbone · 04/08/2026 17:19

Aydel · 02/08/2026 10:53

Museums, art galleries, a matinée at the theatre, a nice lunch somewhere, dress for the weather and go for a long walk. Write some short stories or a couple of chapters of your novel. Cook a really nice, complicated dinner. Curl up with the cat and a good book.

This sounds like absolute bliss. Can I please retire now? There are so many hobbies I don’t have time for.

FredaMountfitchet · 04/08/2026 17:13

My mother is 85
Pilates and yoga Mondays and Fridays
Gardening
Painting and renovating furniture
Outings and lunching with friends
Visiting a few who can’t get out anymore
Runs her immaculate large bungalow
Hair dressers and manicure appointments
Supporting her older sister
Oversees her 86 year old live in lover who is as sprightly as her .
Her social life puts me to shame .

Anonymouseposter · 04/08/2026 17:08

principalskinna · 02/08/2026 12:18

I'm laughing because everybody who's retired on here and say that they do interesting things and then list them, or things look really fucking boring.
genealogy, gardening and pottery ffs

shoot me now

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What super exciting things do you do? These are hobbies that some people enjoy, they don’t find them really fucking boring , that’s just your opinion.
When you retire you can do exactly what you want so it’s not going to be necessary to shoot you now.
I don’t know why people have to justify their existence.
I would rather occupy myself any way I choose than get a part time job in B&Q or Waitrose.
Do people really prefer commuting in the rain. Some jobs are really fucking boring and some are very stressful. Being retired is great.

Cornishclio · 03/08/2026 23:26

BeaQuiet · 02/08/2026 10:50

I'm just a few years from State Pension age but can't imagine giving up work completely (work 28 hours pw at the moment).

Summers like this, yes, I'd be perfectly content but AIBU to ask what retired people do on a wet Tuesday morning in winter. Especially as Wed, Thur, Fri etc are likely to be wet or grey too.

This was raised on a Mel Robbins podcast on ageing and it got me thinking.

I would either stay in and read a book, do a puzzle or play the piano. Or go to the cinema or meet a friend for coffee or lunch or go to the gym or swimming pool or hang out with my daughter and grandchildren. Plenty of options.

TheChosenTwo · 03/08/2026 22:40

81 year old MIL volunteers at a food bank on a Monday and Tuesday morning, then has Pilates on a Thursday. She keeps her allotment well maintained, gets the train to London once a month to meet her friends for a gallery or museum and lunch, does a sewing club one evening a week, goes to the cinema and theatre, her and fil go on holiday every 3 months, walking holidays abroad mostly where someone drives their luggage from one location to the next. They walk as much as time allows when they’re at home, She reads a lot of books, cooks and is generally living the life I want to lead at 81. The last month or so I have knocked on their door 4 times just to drop in and say hello and she has been out every single time!
They have a cleaner who comes twice a week (they have quite a big house) because let’s face it, if you can afford someone else to do it so you can spend more time enjoying your life why wouldn’t you? I have one for the same reason, not for me spending my weekends cleaning my toilets or hoovering under sofas when I have a choice!

Funkylights · 03/08/2026 22:31

Yoga or gym

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 03/08/2026 22:29

@Allseeingallknowing
housework gets done when I run out of mugs or clean underwear. No one has ever had “I wished I did more housework” etched on their gravestone. 🤣

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 03/08/2026 20:21

Allseeingallknowing · 02/08/2026 19:13

With all these activity and good works, does anyone do any housework?

Unless I actually need them for reading, I don’t have my reading glasses on, so I don’t notice the dust.

Mary46 · 03/08/2026 20:15

It must be nice on a cold winter's morning not having to get up and be tied to times. Think this would be lovely.

Specialagentblond · 03/08/2026 19:51

My MIL and DS are off on the bus to town tomorrow. I’m not sure who is taking who but they have been planning it all evening.