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AIBU to think cats should not roam unsupervised like dogs?

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estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:42

AIBU to think that if you dont leave your dog to roam streets unsupervised, then you shouldn't let other pets (cats), for the same reasons.

It blows my mind that people let their cats out because their sleep is disrupted and I wonder why they think its OK, when its highly unlikely they would put Fido outside if he kept the family up.

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estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:55

UhOhRatPoo · 02/08/2026 10:53

The word catio should be banned. It’s a cage.

Agree, same as other small animals that love exercise and freedom.

Pet proof Gardens are a thing, for some reason we dont think cats deserve safekeeping.

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UhOhRatPoo · 02/08/2026 10:55

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:54

Take the risk out of the equation. What about pain, fear, a lonely death.

Why not put proof a part of the garden?

Stop anthropomorphising.

Turtlebed · 02/08/2026 10:54

Seriestwo · 02/08/2026 10:05

That is not what this study says at all! Did you read it?

Selttan · 02/08/2026 10:54

I always find it interesting how against indoor cats people in the UK are - where I am from it’s very common to have indoor only cats or with the only outdoor access being a cat proof garden or catio. Most rescues and breeders will only rehome or adopt as indoors only.
One of my girls is white with pink nose and ears so high risk of skin cancer. It’s better for her health to be indoors.

Longtimelurker1980 · 02/08/2026 10:54

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:52

You would be ok with them dieing frightened and alone and in huge pain, rather than cosy in catio at night and a pet proof garden in the day?

This confuses me. Its a double standard with other species.

Because you are curtailing their natural instincts to run, chase, hunt, climb. And most of us don’t want to curtail the natural instincts of our animals to that extent. If I couldn’t allow them free rein then I wouldn’t choose to keep them.

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:54

Longtimelurker1980 · 02/08/2026 10:51

Yes, several of our cats have been hit by cars over the years. As luck would have it, every single time a driver has scooped them up and taken them to the vet who has then contacted us. We’ve had cats live to 23/24 so they are pretty resilient.

our dog is super happy going out for long walks, off lead mostly, and is trained to return. I have had cats all my life and even the most well trained would not come to call across two fields if there was a bird to be chased.

normal life presents normal circle of life risk to all animals including humans. Read the stats on car travel - does that mean I won’t get in a car? Of course not, it’s become part of our normal risk that we take in order to live life fully.

our cats are fulfilling their natural way of life - and I say natural because they are allowed to come and go as they choose and every single one of our cats has chosen to wander widely, as evidenced by every accident being miles away from home! I don’t worry about them any more than I do my teenagers taking their normal developmental steps - going to parties, starting relationships, travelling alone - because it’s more important to embrace natural development than hyper focus on risk.

Take the risk out of the equation. What about pain, fear, a lonely death.

Why not put proof a part of the garden?

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babybythesea · 02/08/2026 10:53

allthemind · 02/08/2026 10:43

My cat is allowed to roam (as all cats should be) and has a cat flap so can come and go. She rarely goes further than our patio because she is scared of the scores of foxes constantly invading our garden and pooing everywhere. I dont hear anyone proposing we put foxes on leads. Leave nature alone and let animals do what they need to do. Dogs are much more domesticated than cats are as a species (and much more dangerous, responsible for killing sheep, cattle, deer and humans, unlike cats).

The problem is that your cat isn’t part of ‘nature’ in the same way the foxes are.
The foxes are part of our native wildlife. We’ve stripped back most of the land that they would inhabit by building on it but they have become very successful at living alongside us. Which is good for them, because things they can’t manage to live alongside us are struggling for survival.

Cats have instincts, yes, but they aren’t natural. They aren’t part of our ecosystem. Unless you are talking about Scottish Wildcats which are highly threatened in the UK (and one of this threats is cross breeding with domestic cats…).

Taking sheep etc is a disaster for the farmer but not an issue for native wildlife. It’s just not a straight comparison. I’m not saying it’s not horrendous but it’s comparing cucumbers and bananas.

Leave nature alone, by all means but recognise your cat isn’t part of nature. Being part of nature means if it doesn’t quite catch enough food it will die of starvation- that’s never going to happen to your cat is it?

UhOhRatPoo · 02/08/2026 10:53

The word catio should be banned. It’s a cage.

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 10:53

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:50

What is judgemental about asking why we care more about a dog, rabbit ir Guinea pigs safety than we do cats. Not a judgement. An observation and a question about the logic.

I think people deliberately dig their heels in because my point stands - letting their beloved cat wander about puts them at risk, that we wouldn't think was acceptable for another species. That makes people feel uncomfortable.

Because risk isn't inherently a bad thing, but you seem to deliberately not understanding that.

I used to keep my cat inside but it made him unwell. I would rather risk his life on the roads than keep him locked up and medicated.

AnonyMumAuDHD · 02/08/2026 10:53

No, cats are meant to roam. Though this is the reason I don’t have any as I’d be worried sick about them getting injured unless I could afford to cat-proof my garden. Hence I have dogs. And children, though I wish the DC would roam a but more just to have some peace LOL

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:52

ThatAquaRobin · 02/08/2026 10:29

Rabbits and guinea pigs live in cages and runs.
I've never had a dog.
I'd by upset if I lost a cat yes, but not enough to be precious about depriving them of their liberty and freedom to roam.

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You would be ok with them dieing frightened and alone and in huge pain, rather than cosy in catio at night and a pet proof garden in the day?

This confuses me. Its a double standard with other species.

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oviraptor21 · 02/08/2026 10:52

estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:49

No just wildlife.

Wildlife kills other wildlife too. How are you going to prevent that?

Longtimelurker1980 · 02/08/2026 10:51

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:34

But dont you worry about the risk to them?

The point of this thread is to get to the bottom of why its OK to put cats at higher risk than other pets. Its seems weird to me, that people just don't care about the cat meeting a terrible end, or end up in fights and the risk of HIV.

They are the only breed where benign neglect is ok, and I can't work out why?

Yes, several of our cats have been hit by cars over the years. As luck would have it, every single time a driver has scooped them up and taken them to the vet who has then contacted us. We’ve had cats live to 23/24 so they are pretty resilient.

our dog is super happy going out for long walks, off lead mostly, and is trained to return. I have had cats all my life and even the most well trained would not come to call across two fields if there was a bird to be chased.

normal life presents normal circle of life risk to all animals including humans. Read the stats on car travel - does that mean I won’t get in a car? Of course not, it’s become part of our normal risk that we take in order to live life fully.

our cats are fulfilling their natural way of life - and I say natural because they are allowed to come and go as they choose and every single one of our cats has chosen to wander widely, as evidenced by every accident being miles away from home! I don’t worry about them any more than I do my teenagers taking their normal developmental steps - going to parties, starting relationships, travelling alone - because it’s more important to embrace natural development than hyper focus on risk.

hahabahbag · 02/08/2026 10:51

@MyOtherProfile

i remember dogs roaming in the late 70’s and the pavements were caked in excrement consequently. In the early 80’s things quickly changed

Sahara123 · 02/08/2026 10:50

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:26

Would you let your dog, rabbit, Guinea pig roam at night? If not, what is the difference?

Dont you care about the risk to your cat?

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If I’d let my rabbits or guinea pigs roam I’d have never seen them again! Any dog I’ve ever owned preferred to sleep all night on a nice bed. My cats however much prefer to be able to come and go as they please, trying to keep them in would be cruel. And almost impossible, they see an open door or window as a challenge. I appreciate cats have different preferences, but their natural instincts generally are to hunt at dawn and dusk. I am lucky in that I live in rural Scotland- where there are wild cats incidentally- and my cats have acres of fields and woodlands to explore. They are well taken care of, flea’d, wormed etc etc , but it would be cruel to keep them in the house.

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:50

ThatAquaRobin · 02/08/2026 10:47

The most insanely judgemental thread.
😆

What is judgemental about asking why we care more about a dog, rabbit ir Guinea pigs safety than we do cats. Not a judgement. An observation and a question about the logic.

I think people deliberately dig their heels in because my point stands - letting their beloved cat wander about puts them at risk, that we wouldn't think was acceptable for another species. That makes people feel uncomfortable.

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myrtleWilson · 02/08/2026 10:50

So @Seriestwo pronounces average life expectancy of a cat is 2. Is challenged and says 'no - here's a study'. Posters read study and note Series' statistics are not borne out. Indeed said study says

"Overall life expectancy could not be assessed in the present study owing to the use of data from an ongoing cohort study with cats not yet in their senior years"

Series' then tells us that as MN isn't an academic conference she won't detail her analysis but she is happy with it.

Series then pivots and says it was actually her vet who advised of the average life expectancy but now specifies it related to young cats - not what she first declared but again the paper doens't reach this conclusion. The Bristol paper suggests that more focus is needed on probabilty of death in younger cats as "This study identified important differences in causes of mortality for the first two life stages in a population of cats that may not be fully accounted for in medical record" and it also agreed with Teng et al (cited in Series' study)

"the overall life table for cats under primary veterinary care in the UK in 2019. The life expectancy at age 0 for UK companion cats was 11.74 years (95% CI 11.61–11.87), and the life expectancy decreased with age (Figure 1). The probability of death within each year interval increased with age from year interval 3–4, and the value did not exceed 0.05 before year 9. The probability of cats dying in year 1–2 (0.047) was higher than in years 0–1 (0.039) and 2–3 (0.041)"

Honestly did you read it before you posted?

Theworldsgonemadagain · 02/08/2026 10:50

What on earth. I've had a cat, Rabbits and dog. Of course you don't let a rabbit or guinea pig wonder because it will run off and you will never see it again! Stupid comparison. Cats are intelligent and come back for food and warmth. My cat was a rescue, she was too scared to leave the boundary of our home, she enjoyed the garden and would go outside most of the day and come in at night but had a choice with the cat flap. She choose not to leave the house boundary but I wouldn't have an issue if she did. I don't think it's fair for cats to be stuck indoors, although owners need to be responsible and consider the dangers if they live near busy roads ect. I wouldn't let my whippet roam as he would run across traffic, chase foxes, cats and other dogs. It would be dangerous and irresponsible. My cat lived until 16, she was far more intelligent than my whippet. Cats and dogs are like apples and pears.

Tunnocks34 · 02/08/2026 10:50

estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:49

No just wildlife.

Lots of wildlife kill each other. Should we monitor foxes and badgers? Or magpies? Stop them from roaming too?

Currently in the UK there is no law against cats being out, and if cat owners take that risk with their own pet then that’s their decision. Until or if laws change, not much that can be done about it.

Cats and Dogs are exceptionally different animals. My dog wouldn’t ever find her way back home, she would also bite anyone who tried to stroke her if let out. My cat knows her way back home and would run away if anyone goes near her.

I bath my dog weekly, my cat would scratch my eyes out if I put her in water.

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 02/08/2026 10:50

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:36

No, I really am not. I am asking a thoughtful question, which I think should be considered.

Cats deserve as much protection and care as other pets, but we routinely neglect them and put them at great risk - when would not do that with any other pet. It makes NO sense.

And this post explains perfectly that you don't understand cats or their needs. Congratulations you.

hahabahbag · 02/08/2026 10:49

Cats should be kept in their owners property/garden, for the sake of wildlife and because some of us are allergic to them. Thankfully the only cat near me is a house cat

MyOtherProfile · 02/08/2026 10:49

Pudmyboy · 02/08/2026 10:20

It was normal behaviour in the UK in the past, as a child I lived in the North and the South and in both places, letting the dog out in the daytime was normal. Though you did need a dog licence in those days.

I'm amazed. I am still wondering when in the past this was normal because it must be before my awareness and I was a child through the 70s.

Anyway it's kind of irrelevant because people don't do it now if they have any sense.

Jellycatspyjamas · 02/08/2026 10:49

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:44

You dont care if the get knocked over mauled by a fox and die an agonising lonely death?

Why?

I have 30 years of cat ownership under my belt, not once has my cat been hit by a car, mauled by a fox, or met a sticky end. They all died after a long, happy life which included free access to outdoors and the ability to wander and hunt.

Cats are pretty smart, they can climb, jump and hide very effectively. My dog on the other hand would run towards danger if it came with a lump of cheese.

They are completely different species with different needs.

Cobol · 02/08/2026 10:48

I haven't read the whole thread, so I don't know if anyone has made this point, but part of the reason cats have a legal right to roam in the UK is because they are a native species, particularly the Scottish wildcat, that aren't necessarily owned or dependent on humans for their survival, unlike dogs. So just as we don't ban other native species, like foxes, from roaming we also don't ban cats. In other countries, like the US and Australia, pet cats are banned from roaming to protect them from predators as they aren't a native species in those countries and are therefore vulnerable if let out.

Dogs can't be let out on their own, of course, because of the danger they might attack someone. Anyone who has a problem with the different treatment of cats and dogs should reflect on the fact that you never see a headline that reads "Person mauled to death by domestic cat".

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:48

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 02/08/2026 10:42

Because those animals are not cats, and don't have the same needs as cats. What part of this isn't going in with you?

Don't patronise me. I do understand that they are different species.

I do not understand why neglecting a cats safety is ok, when it is not with other animals.

I would be curious to know why you think this is ok, when I bet if you had/have a dog you would do everything to keep it safe. Fences high enough, strong leash etc. You wouldn't just leave your dog in an unfenced garden so why not the same for cats?

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