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AIBU to think cats should not roam unsupervised like dogs?

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estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:42

AIBU to think that if you dont leave your dog to roam streets unsupervised, then you shouldn't let other pets (cats), for the same reasons.

It blows my mind that people let their cats out because their sleep is disrupted and I wonder why they think its OK, when its highly unlikely they would put Fido outside if he kept the family up.

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LadyHat · 02/08/2026 11:03

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:56

Oh God. That is just a lazy excuse. Do you think, if your cat is knocked down and crawls in pain to the side of the road, they would not feel fear. Get over yourself.

Just stand by the fact that you don't care.

This is ridiculous. Everything has some degree of risk. There is a risk benefit calculation in everything. Crossing a road is a risk so is driving a car. Do you never do any of those things. By your logic I should never allow my children to leave the house because they are safer in it? A friends dog sadly died after being hit by a car, should we ban dogs from leaving the house too?

Agrumpyknitter · 02/08/2026 11:02

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 11:00

I kept my cat inside/in a garden for years. He got so unwell he needed multiple vet trips and daily medication. He regularly peed on the floor and would injure himself trying to get out.

How is that a better, happier life than being allowed out to roam with the slight risk that he might get hurt one day?

Oh, and since he's been out, he's never peed on the floor, never been injured and has been medication-free.

Agree with you. Also having male cats neutered keeps them from being aggressive and wandering too far from home but they need to be outside for their own health and wellbeing.

NovaForesta · 02/08/2026 11:02

estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:53

Well if that doesn't bother, does the fact that the cat could come a cropper (fights, foxes, cars, cruel people) not bother you?

I cant imagine just letting my pet out unsupervised because somebody, once said, oh cats NEED to roam.

It’s clear you’ve never had a cat OP 😂😂

estrogone · 02/08/2026 11:02

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 02/08/2026 10:59

Letting cats roam is not neglect. Oh I have a dog, I don't have a cat and I'm telling you this for the third time now.

Its a hypothetical question.

Hypotheses are often used to examine behaviour in the absence of lived experience. Imagine you did have a dog.....would you leave it in an unfenced garden? If not, why is that ok with a cat.

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UhOhRatPoo · 02/08/2026 11:01

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:56

Oh God. That is just a lazy excuse. Do you think, if your cat is knocked down and crawls in pain to the side of the road, they would not feel fear. Get over yourself.

Just stand by the fact that you don't care.

  1. I already said I don’t have a cat
  2. By telling you to stop attributing human feelings to cats I was already telling you that I do not care about animals’ feelings as much as those of humans.
missmollygreen · 02/08/2026 11:01

estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:49

No just wildlife.

I hate to break it to you, alot of wildlife kills other wildlife....

Also look at the front of your car after a long drive. You will have massacred thousands of bugs.

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 11:00

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:56

Oh God. That is just a lazy excuse. Do you think, if your cat is knocked down and crawls in pain to the side of the road, they would not feel fear. Get over yourself.

Just stand by the fact that you don't care.

I kept my cat inside/in a garden for years. He got so unwell he needed multiple vet trips and daily medication. He regularly peed on the floor and would injure himself trying to get out.

How is that a better, happier life than being allowed out to roam with the slight risk that he might get hurt one day?

Oh, and since he's been out, he's never peed on the floor, never been injured and has been medication-free.

melaniepond · 02/08/2026 11:00

Longtimelurker1980 · 02/08/2026 10:58

Do you have children? Do you allow them to cross the road? You know you will have to let them cross the road on their own one day - will you allow that? How, if there is always a risk of injury?

see how crazy that sounds?

I don’t see multiple stories about children killed on the roads in my area every month. It is the case for cats. I’ve also had to take a dead cat to the vet for identification which was a deeply upsetting experience.

Agrumpyknitter · 02/08/2026 11:00

I have a cat and a dog. I will say the cat is the more intelligent species. I didn’t have to do much toilet training with the cat, have to worry about my cat with the high temperatures we have had over the summer (just made sure the cat had access to water) and the cat comes and lets us know when he is hungry or leaves when they please. Cats have always been independent creatures whereas dogs are pack animals. The dog is much harder work! We tried a harness with the cat when they were younger and we were waiting to have it neutered, they don’t like being on a leash. Yes, you can train them but they’re natural explorers.

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 02/08/2026 10:59

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:48

Don't patronise me. I do understand that they are different species.

I do not understand why neglecting a cats safety is ok, when it is not with other animals.

I would be curious to know why you think this is ok, when I bet if you had/have a dog you would do everything to keep it safe. Fences high enough, strong leash etc. You wouldn't just leave your dog in an unfenced garden so why not the same for cats?

Letting cats roam is not neglect. Oh I have a dog, I don't have a cat and I'm telling you this for the third time now.

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:59

AgnesMcDoo · 02/08/2026 10:57

That you can’t grasp the very basic differences between cats and dogs suggest that you @estrogone either

a) have bigger problems
b) hate cats and are on a wind up
c) a combination of both

Again just completely patronising, completely ignoring a really logical question.

Why are cats the only animals we routinely put at risk?

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Longtimelurker1980 · 02/08/2026 10:59

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:57

As I have said repeatedly - catio at night.pet proof garden in the day - same standard as dogs, rabbits and other small animals.

We had free range rabbits too. One got killed by a fox when he was quite old but my goodness they had a fabulous life outside a horrible hutch.

1dayatatime · 02/08/2026 10:58

A simple google shows why cats should not be allowed to freely roam. That
is of course unless you believe that your cat's right to roam is more important than the UK song bird population- because that is what it ultimately comes down to:

UK pet cats catch an estimated 27 to 55 million (or up to 100 million) wild birds and animals annually.
Studies show cats only bring home about a quarter of their prey, meaning actual kills are higher.
Frequent targets include garden birds like house sparrows, blue tits, blackbirds, and starlings.
Groups like SongBird Survival argue that ground-feeding species already in decline (such as greenfinches and dunnocks) face added pressure from cats.

https://www.theguardian.com/environment/2022/aug/14/cats-kill-birds-wildlife-keep-indoors

Is it time to end cats’ right to roam?

Pet cats kill songbirds by the million, as well as other wildlife. But how much of a threat do they really pose, and should they be kept indoors?

https://www.theguardian.com/environment/2022/aug/14/cats-kill-birds-wildlife-keep-indoors

Longtimelurker1980 · 02/08/2026 10:58

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:56

Oh God. That is just a lazy excuse. Do you think, if your cat is knocked down and crawls in pain to the side of the road, they would not feel fear. Get over yourself.

Just stand by the fact that you don't care.

Do you have children? Do you allow them to cross the road? You know you will have to let them cross the road on their own one day - will you allow that? How, if there is always a risk of injury?

see how crazy that sounds?

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:57

Jellycatspyjamas · 02/08/2026 10:56

I don’t find it uncomfortable at all, there’s risk inherent in everything we do - some risks more acceptable than others, and we balance risks against each other.

For me the risk that my cat might be injured in the community was much less than to risk he would be miserable and frustrated as a house cat. What point is a long life if it’s a miserable, anxious one? My cats were all prowlers and hunters, not really built for a catio - they had gloriously happy, long, life’s.

As I have said repeatedly - catio at night.pet proof garden in the day - same standard as dogs, rabbits and other small animals.

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Pippa99999 · 02/08/2026 10:57

I hate cats. They kill for fun. Something like 50 million garden birds a year in the UK are lost to cats. They come and sit under the bird feeder in our garden. And they shit all over the lawn - I don’t understand why cat owners think it’s okay for their cats to roam around and do this. If a dog owner doesn’t pick up a dog poo, the local Facebook group is outraged!

AgnesMcDoo · 02/08/2026 10:57

That you can’t grasp the very basic differences between cats and dogs suggest that you @estrogone either

a) have bigger problems
b) hate cats and are on a wind up
c) a combination of both

Sahara123 · 02/08/2026 10:57

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 10:45

Cat-proofing a garden is just giving them a bigger cage.

I was just about to post saying to my mind a catio is just a big cage that happens to be outside! My cats would hate it , tantalisingly close to being outside but not quite.

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 10:57

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:54

Take the risk out of the equation. What about pain, fear, a lonely death.

Why not put proof a part of the garden?

Because it's not the same as letting them roam and it makes my cat miserable and unwell to be locked up (even if it's in a "pet proof" garden). I would rather he took his chances out and about than lived a risk-free but miserable life on medication.

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:56

UhOhRatPoo · 02/08/2026 10:55

Stop anthropomorphising.

Oh God. That is just a lazy excuse. Do you think, if your cat is knocked down and crawls in pain to the side of the road, they would not feel fear. Get over yourself.

Just stand by the fact that you don't care.

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Jellycatspyjamas · 02/08/2026 10:56

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:50

What is judgemental about asking why we care more about a dog, rabbit ir Guinea pigs safety than we do cats. Not a judgement. An observation and a question about the logic.

I think people deliberately dig their heels in because my point stands - letting their beloved cat wander about puts them at risk, that we wouldn't think was acceptable for another species. That makes people feel uncomfortable.

I don’t find it uncomfortable at all, there’s risk inherent in everything we do - some risks more acceptable than others, and we balance risks against each other.

For me the risk that my cat might be injured in the community was much less than to risk he would be miserable and frustrated as a house cat. What point is a long life if it’s a miserable, anxious one? My cats were all prowlers and hunters, not really built for a catio - they had gloriously happy, long, life’s.

Longtimelurker1980 · 02/08/2026 10:56

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:54

Take the risk out of the equation. What about pain, fear, a lonely death.

Why not put proof a part of the garden?

I’ll flip that question - why are you more worried about highly unlikely risk than the day to day happiness of your animals?

it seems like you are meeting your needs - your terror of any kind of risk - rather than theirs.

i would rather my animals have a short but natural fulfilled life than a long one with their metaphorical and natural wings clipped.

oviraptor21 · 02/08/2026 10:56

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:50

What is judgemental about asking why we care more about a dog, rabbit ir Guinea pigs safety than we do cats. Not a judgement. An observation and a question about the logic.

I think people deliberately dig their heels in because my point stands - letting their beloved cat wander about puts them at risk, that we wouldn't think was acceptable for another species. That makes people feel uncomfortable.

I'd argue that you don't care much about a rabbit, guinea pig, hamster, budgie, if you choose to keep one cooped up in a cage or run all its life. I'd far prefer to be a cat, free to roam, than a caged animal.

VivX · 02/08/2026 10:56

estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:58

Well yes, or provide them with a catio at night and a cat proof garden for the day.

We cant get a dog, or guinea pig, or tabbit unless the garden is suitable and safe. Why does the same not apply to cats?

BTW, I love cats and dogs. I am not a cat hater or an indoor cat person. I do think that they should be kept inside the house or catio at night and we should have to pet proof out gardens. It seems odd that people let their cats out but would never consider the same for dogs or guinea pigs or rabbits. Why do those animals need to wander less?

Its so sad to see lost cat posters when its totally avoidable.

How do you have cat proof garden for the day?
Cats can jump higher than the maximum height for a garden fence in the UK.

LadyHat · 02/08/2026 10:55

estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:51

Who says they NEED to roam? Is this not just an excuse to absent yourself from the irritating and painful parts of pet ownership.

Sod the wildlife or the risk to the cat.

Its the same just with different parameters

What has letting cats out at night got to do with the difficult parts of cat ownership? I would never shut my cats out of the house at night. But they have a cat flap so can go out if they choose? It doesn’t make my life easier/harder either way! One of my cats wakes us up every night, one never does. There is no correlation with them being allowed outside. Sometime we do have to shut them in, they don’t wake us up more. I’m confused about your argument.

In uk cats have a right to roam, dogs don’t. Simple as that.