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AIBU to think cats should not roam unsupervised like dogs?

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estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:42

AIBU to think that if you dont leave your dog to roam streets unsupervised, then you shouldn't let other pets (cats), for the same reasons.

It blows my mind that people let their cats out because their sleep is disrupted and I wonder why they think its OK, when its highly unlikely they would put Fido outside if he kept the family up.

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kattyjean · 02/08/2026 11:12

estrogone · 02/08/2026 11:08

But you would not get a dog if your fencing was unsuitable, so why does this not fall true for cats.

It's almost like they are 'easy' & cheap and we half arse our responsibilities in the name of their instinct.

My point is dogs have a hunting instinct, so we take precautions and keep them and the community safe. Cats have the same but we ignore this because its easier.

I suppose if I agreed with you that cats shouldn’t roam then yes I wouldn’t deem my home as being suitable for a cat because I don’t think our garden would be big enough to be stimulating for her so I wouldn’t get one, but as it goes I don’t agree with you that cats shouldn’t roam and it’s not because I am easy or cheap, I just have a different opinion to you. I value my cat’s quality of life (yes over the wildlife she takes, just as I value my diet over the life of the animals I eat) and so I deemed my home and lifestyle as appropriate to have her.

AgnesMcDoo · 02/08/2026 11:12

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:59

Again just completely patronising, completely ignoring a really logical question.

Why are cats the only animals we routinely put at risk?

Nice try.

LadyHat · 02/08/2026 11:12

I’ve had cats all my life. The only one I’ve lost in horrible circumstances was killed in broad daylight in my cat proof garden while I was in the garden with her. She was killed by a neighbours out of control dog. Obviously that’s very rare and was the fault of the neighbour and not a reflection on all dogs/owners. Nothing is 100% safe. I am happy to take a small risk by allowing my cats out because it gives them a better quality of life.

estrogone · 02/08/2026 11:11

I very much adore cats for the record and think the same standards for their care and safety dont apply as with other pets.

I started this thread to examine why. Nothing on this thread has persuaded me otherwise.

Away to bed - different time zone.

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Happyjoe · 02/08/2026 11:10

Jellycatspyjamas · 02/08/2026 11:05

It’s not the same standard though. Dogs aren’t harmed by being close to their owners, it’s their preferred place, my dog would be anxious if let out by himself and would want to be home.

Cats are much more autonomous, all of mine liked to roam and explore, they wanted out at night to satisfy their very natural hunting instincts. I’d argue that if your pet can’t satisfy their natural behaviours to some extent you’re being neglectful. Those natural behaviours come with risks but you balance the possibility of them being injured against the certainty of stress that they can’t roam or hunt.

Yes, my previous cat was an indoor cat for the first 5 years of his life. Behavioural problems galore, grumpy, shouty, going from door to window to door trying to get out. Beat up his cat flat mates.
We took him on as the owner couldn't cope, took him out on a harness to show him around the neighbourhood, then after a couple of weeks put a catflap in.

100% turnaround. One very content cat, affectionate, purred loads, no shouting, friendly to everyone, dogs too. We taught him not to hunt wildlife (he was an exceptionally smart cat) and in the end we saw him sniffing noses with local squirrels and the birds were not frightened of him and would come close. He was a smashing cat and most importantly, happy because he could explore. The boredom of staying in isn't for many cats and can stress them out completely.

MILLYmo0se · 02/08/2026 11:10

estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:42

AIBU to think that if you dont leave your dog to roam streets unsupervised, then you shouldn't let other pets (cats), for the same reasons.

It blows my mind that people let their cats out because their sleep is disrupted and I wonder why they think its OK, when its highly unlikely they would put Fido outside if he kept the family up.

People do put the dog outside when its disturbing them, and if Fido can escape the garden to wander the streets he will, just most dogs cant

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 02/08/2026 11:10

From my point of view it's better for an animal to have a short fulfilled life than a long boring one.
Fortunately in 40 years of cat ownership I've never had a cat die of anything other than natural causes (usually helped by euthanisation of course) but it is a risk I'm aware of. My last two cats died aged 17 and 20. My current cats are two 15 year olds and two 8 year olds.

My cats wouldn't agree with your position - and your suggestion that I don't care about my cats is crass stupidity. Please also note - I've never started a thread suggesting that people who keep their cats inside are cruel - I'm mature enough to accept that people have different views and approaches.

Enclosed are pictures of my terribly mistreated cats outside the house for you to criticise.

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UhOhRatPoo · 02/08/2026 11:09

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 11:06

Why are you ignoring all the posts from people saying their cats have become unwell from being locked up indoors and in catios? Is it because they don't fit with your narrative?

The posts and the scientific paper!

maudelovesharold · 02/08/2026 11:09

Seriestwo · 02/08/2026 09:57

cat people will never accept that letting cats wander is a risk. They say they love their pet but don’t mind it being killed on a road - probably after having dragged itself off and suffered immensely. The average cat life span is about 2, for an animal which should easily live to about 15. It’s disgusting negligence

That’s complete bs, I’m afraid. If you do your research, the ‘statistics’ for outdoor cats are heavily skewed by the inclusion of feral cats and cats who live exclusively outdoors without easy access to food, shelter and veterinary care. Cats which are fundamentally domestic pets, but are able to go outside freely, are slightly more at risk from accidents and attacks, but even so have an average lifespan of about 11 years. And from experience, many cats with access to outside can live much longer than this.

Dollymylove · 02/08/2026 11:08

Cats also keep vermin at bay. Thats why farmers keep them around

estrogone · 02/08/2026 11:08

kattyjean · 02/08/2026 11:03

Cat proof garden is a pretty tall ask. Firstly I’m sure most people’s average gardens are not going to be overly stimulating for cats who like to be outside. Secondly, I can’t imagine the level of investment and ugly changes that would need to be made to make a garden cat proof would be desirable.

But you would not get a dog if your fencing was unsuitable, so why does this not fall true for cats.

It's almost like they are 'easy' & cheap and we half arse our responsibilities in the name of their instinct.

My point is dogs have a hunting instinct, so we take precautions and keep them and the community safe. Cats have the same but we ignore this because its easier.

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pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 11:06

estrogone · 02/08/2026 11:03

Yup clearly. OK Felix - you just pop off and I will hope you dont get into a fix. I dont care if you do because you are just a moggy.

Why are you ignoring all the posts from people saying their cats have become unwell from being locked up indoors and in catios? Is it because they don't fit with your narrative?

NovaForesta · 02/08/2026 11:05

I have three cats. Two are happily roaming as we speak. One doesn’t like going outside, but she was seriously abused as a kitten and she’s incredibly nervous. Still; she looks outside with longing because she WANTS to go, so even with her history the urge is there.

Cats are not dogs. Just like horses aren’t dogs, or grasshoppers or whatever. You can’t treat animal species the same when they have very different needs.

Happyjoe · 02/08/2026 11:05

LemonTT · 02/08/2026 11:04

I’d say it was a rural thing more than a city thing. Places where the neighbours would recognise the dog and know it was owned. The only issue I can remember was concern about sheep worrying especially in lambing season.

There were fewer cars in this period and children played outside with pets in tow. At some point the dog would do its own thing, usually involved sleeping or playing with another dog.

Dogs won’t roam in the same way as cats because they will want to stay close to their owners and property. They are also pack animals who see their family as the pack. Without that they form packs which is why strays are heavily controlled.

As to cats, the UK has had outdoor cats for a few thousand years, making them part of ecosystem. They aren’t invasive and they don’t have wild predators.

In my FIL (London) childhood, dogs were frequently put outside while the owners went to work all day.

Jellycatspyjamas · 02/08/2026 11:05

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:57

As I have said repeatedly - catio at night.pet proof garden in the day - same standard as dogs, rabbits and other small animals.

It’s not the same standard though. Dogs aren’t harmed by being close to their owners, it’s their preferred place, my dog would be anxious if let out by himself and would want to be home.

Cats are much more autonomous, all of mine liked to roam and explore, they wanted out at night to satisfy their very natural hunting instincts. I’d argue that if your pet can’t satisfy their natural behaviours to some extent you’re being neglectful. Those natural behaviours come with risks but you balance the possibility of them being injured against the certainty of stress that they can’t roam or hunt.

Excited101 · 02/08/2026 11:05

It’s a bit like asking why dogs aren’t kept at a stable and checked on daily for a much out and feed… they’re different animals and they have different needs.

in certain areas of the world there are predators that are more likely to kill your cat so having ‘indoor cats’ is the norm and a legal obligation. I personally believe keeping cats in, is cruel and wouldn’t probably want to keep a cat if I lived somewhere where they couldn’t go out.

SadiraOfTyr · 02/08/2026 11:04

Cobol · 02/08/2026 10:48

I haven't read the whole thread, so I don't know if anyone has made this point, but part of the reason cats have a legal right to roam in the UK is because they are a native species, particularly the Scottish wildcat, that aren't necessarily owned or dependent on humans for their survival, unlike dogs. So just as we don't ban other native species, like foxes, from roaming we also don't ban cats. In other countries, like the US and Australia, pet cats are banned from roaming to protect them from predators as they aren't a native species in those countries and are therefore vulnerable if let out.

Dogs can't be let out on their own, of course, because of the danger they might attack someone. Anyone who has a problem with the different treatment of cats and dogs should reflect on the fact that you never see a headline that reads "Person mauled to death by domestic cat".

Domestic cats are not a native species. The Scottish wildcat is a different species altogether (Felis sylvestris).

Dogs are more closely related to wolves than domestic cats are to European wildcats.

estrogone · 02/08/2026 11:04

Sahara123 · 02/08/2026 11:03

I know ! Cats are excellent climbers and extremely persistent, they’ll find a way out eventually. Plus there’s bound to be a weak spot, a gate or something.

Just google it. There are fences, runs, lots of options.

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Dollymylove · 02/08/2026 11:04

Cats are classed as wild animals. They dont have rules and they cant be trained.
They also dont tend to attack humans unless provoked and I have never heard of a domestic cat killing people

LemonTT · 02/08/2026 11:04

saveforthat · 02/08/2026 10:01

I was a kid in the 60s and 70s and many dogs did indeed roam the streets during the day and come back for their tea (bit like kids).

I’d say it was a rural thing more than a city thing. Places where the neighbours would recognise the dog and know it was owned. The only issue I can remember was concern about sheep worrying especially in lambing season.

There were fewer cars in this period and children played outside with pets in tow. At some point the dog would do its own thing, usually involved sleeping or playing with another dog.

Dogs won’t roam in the same way as cats because they will want to stay close to their owners and property. They are also pack animals who see their family as the pack. Without that they form packs which is why strays are heavily controlled.

As to cats, the UK has had outdoor cats for a few thousand years, making them part of ecosystem. They aren’t invasive and they don’t have wild predators.

CrypticClueless · 02/08/2026 11:04

Your thread title and OP make the voting very difficult to understand.

I am sick of people’s cats ‘roaming ‘ aka shitting in my garden. Really sick of it. ‘Cats need to roam’ - so maybe not an ideal pet if you live in a densely populated area with small gardens? Not my job to provide ‘roaming’ opportunities for your pet.

I have to spend money and time constructing cat proof beds to grow my beans and tomatoes, otherwise it is all dig up by shitting cats. I have stopped foxes coming in, cats are harder.

If they get run over, that’s an occupational hazard of roaming.

I do not want your bloody cat killing birds or frogs in my garden.

Happyjoe · 02/08/2026 11:03

Cats are not dogs. Different needs so to compare them is silly.

Cats do attack wildlife, some of them. Not all cats are hunters. But I find humans complaining about cats and wildlife are utter tossers considering how much wildlife has been and continues to be destroyed by humans. Far greater damage than cats. Perhaps once we control human destruction we can then revisit the cat issue.

Cat poop in your garden is a fair complaint, it's horrible, it's yuck. Not all cats will use a litter tray and unfortunately they have to go somewhere... At least most of them bury it.

kattyjean · 02/08/2026 11:03

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:57

As I have said repeatedly - catio at night.pet proof garden in the day - same standard as dogs, rabbits and other small animals.

Cat proof garden is a pretty tall ask. Firstly I’m sure most people’s average gardens are not going to be overly stimulating for cats who like to be outside. Secondly, I can’t imagine the level of investment and ugly changes that would need to be made to make a garden cat proof would be desirable.

estrogone · 02/08/2026 11:03

UhOhRatPoo · 02/08/2026 11:01

  1. I already said I don’t have a cat
  2. By telling you to stop attributing human feelings to cats I was already telling you that I do not care about animals’ feelings as much as those of humans.

Yup clearly. OK Felix - you just pop off and I will hope you dont get into a fix. I dont care if you do because you are just a moggy.

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Sahara123 · 02/08/2026 11:03

VivX · 02/08/2026 10:56

How do you have cat proof garden for the day?
Cats can jump higher than the maximum height for a garden fence in the UK.

I know ! Cats are excellent climbers and extremely persistent, they’ll find a way out eventually. Plus there’s bound to be a weak spot, a gate or something.