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AIBU to think cats should not roam unsupervised like dogs?

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estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:42

AIBU to think that if you dont leave your dog to roam streets unsupervised, then you shouldn't let other pets (cats), for the same reasons.

It blows my mind that people let their cats out because their sleep is disrupted and I wonder why they think its OK, when its highly unlikely they would put Fido outside if he kept the family up.

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Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 02/08/2026 13:28

estrogone · 02/08/2026 11:02

Its a hypothetical question.

Hypotheses are often used to examine behaviour in the absence of lived experience. Imagine you did have a dog.....would you leave it in an unfenced garden? If not, why is that ok with a cat.

I do have a dog, I don't have a cat. Learn to read

UhOhRatPoo · 02/08/2026 13:27

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 13:19

Yes, I’m aware of all that. When I say she wasn’t entirely correct I was referring to some of her other comments.

The poster’s comment was more along the lines of wishing the cat a nasty death so the owner would feel guilt. it was rightly deleted.

Kokonimater · 02/08/2026 13:26

estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:47

But why do they need to roam? Would you let your domesticated dog roam?

Dont you worry the cat will kill the hedgehog babies?

They need to roam because you can’t take a cat out twice a day for a walk/run on a lead.
you're comparing two completely different mammals
yes cats can and do hunt and that’s a problem in some areas. That’s for the owners to deal with.
my cat never hunts. Too lazy.

Sahara123 · 02/08/2026 13:23

TheRealMagic · 02/08/2026 12:42

Oh, and the cat who will not be caged is also the cat who will not wear a collar. He can get them off in minutes.

Yes, we tried bells. Got them off within minutes!

Dutch1e · 02/08/2026 13:23

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 13:18

Yep, and I’ve never seen a single owner of outdoor cars in the UK who denies that there are risks involved in letting them roam - they just believe those risks to be worth it when it comes to their cats’ overall quality of life.

I say all that as someone who lost a cat to the road a few months ago.

I feel the same way about my cats. I've lost one (also to the road. If we're all so concerned about wildlife we'd ban cars) but she would have had a miserable and small life as an indoor cat.

My two living cats aren't hunters but still have a dusk-to-dawn curfew to protect birds who go to roost at those times, and to protect nocturnal animals.

It works well.

Theyreeatingthedogs · 02/08/2026 13:22

Cats don't leave their shit in the street for people to stand on. Cats are more considerate. Roaming dogs are stupid and much more likely to be in an RTI than a cat.

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 13:19

BeHeartyRedZebra · 02/08/2026 13:17

I’m glad your cat no longer suffers but that is not relevant to what I’m saying.

The poster said if your outdoor cat died as a result of being outdoors then you as the owner are responsible, which is ultimately correct. Whilst I understand why you let your cat outside your reasoning doesn’t negate that. There are lots of reasons people let their cats out, but if something happens the owner is still the one responsible for that decision.

Clearly you have decided that letting your cat outdoors was less of a risk, but that doesn’t mean it wouldn’t be ultimately your responsibility if something happened whilst he was outside, you have made that choice, him being poorly whilst in the house doesn’t mean that the responsibility doesn’t fall on you as an owner if something does happen, although obviously it may not.

Yes, I’m aware of all that. When I say she wasn’t entirely correct I was referring to some of her other comments.

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 13:18

Dutch1e · 02/08/2026 13:07

I think you're using US data.

UK cats live to an average of 11 - 12 years.

Yep, and I’ve never seen a single owner of outdoor cars in the UK who denies that there are risks involved in letting them roam - they just believe those risks to be worth it when it comes to their cats’ overall quality of life.

I say all that as someone who lost a cat to the road a few months ago.

BeHeartyRedZebra · 02/08/2026 13:17

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 13:04

Actually the vast majority of what that poster said was totally incorrect.

Yes, if he gets hit by a car it’s my “fault” but the alternatives were to either have him PTS or to keep him locked up and medicated forever. A catio made no difference. A secure garden made no difference. And that was after years of keeping him indoors entirely.

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I’m glad your cat no longer suffers but that is not relevant to what I’m saying.

The poster said if your outdoor cat died as a result of being outdoors then you as the owner are responsible, which is ultimately correct. Whilst I understand why you let your cat outside your reasoning doesn’t negate that. There are lots of reasons people let their cats out, but if something happens the owner is still the one responsible for that decision.

Clearly you have decided that letting your cat outdoors was less of a risk, but that doesn’t mean it wouldn’t be ultimately your responsibility if something happened whilst he was outside, you have made that choice, him being poorly whilst in the house doesn’t mean that the responsibility doesn’t fall on you as an owner if something does happen, although obviously it may not.

allthemind · 02/08/2026 13:15

estrogone · 02/08/2026 10:44

You dont care if the get knocked over mauled by a fox and die an agonising lonely death?

Why?

As I said, my cat rarely leaves our garden and has made it to 18 so spends most of the day sleeping now so its not something I really worry about, no.

Heronwatcher · 02/08/2026 13:14

Cats, dogs, guinea pigs, mice, rats- all very different creatures and different habits.

My cats have freedom to roam all the time. Yes there is an outside risk they might come across a mad dog or a fox but they can handle themselves. And for me it’s a balance of risk- my cats have a fantastic life and would be genuinely miserable if i tried to put them in a catio or keep them inside. And I’d hate to see it.

Plus as others have said cats are, as a rule, much more intelligent than other pets.
My cats know “their” territory, they sense and will avoid danger, they know how to come and go as they please. They are much better equipped to be independent than other pets.

TeaAndALittlePeace · 02/08/2026 13:09

YABVVU. I adopted two kittens last year. At first I considered keeping them in because I worried something would happen to them. But our house backs onto a field. They used to look longingly out of the window and it was obvious they were bored and wanted to go outside and explore. Our fencing wouldn’t stand up to cat proofing (it’s really topped with tall trellis which isn’t strong enough) and having a catio is not the same as the freedom they would need from being able to explore the garden and beyond.

The moment I started letting mine out I saw they acted completely differently outside compared to what they do inside (which is mainly sleep).

I personally think it’s cruel to keep them in. And if you’re not willing to then you shouldn’t have a cat.

One of mine has only gone out the garden once. The other one mainly goes into the neighbours gardens on either side. And over the back fence once. But even if it were more I would still be ok with that.

I actually asked our vet, who has years of experience working with animals. And he said on balance, he believes it’s kinder to let them out.

Dutch1e · 02/08/2026 13:07

Seriestwo · 02/08/2026 09:57

cat people will never accept that letting cats wander is a risk. They say they love their pet but don’t mind it being killed on a road - probably after having dragged itself off and suffered immensely. The average cat life span is about 2, for an animal which should easily live to about 15. It’s disgusting negligence

I think you're using US data.

UK cats live to an average of 11 - 12 years.

Ethelspagetti · 02/08/2026 13:06

There are many feral cats here. They’re great because they keep the rats down, we live near a stream. When we first moved here, I never saw another cat and the rats were everywhere! We need cats to keep the rats away from the homes. Farms have them too to deter rats and mice away from eating their grains.

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 13:04

BeHeartyRedZebra · 02/08/2026 12:26

I’m not arguing that, you said that post was vile and all I’m saying is whilst the post wasn’t worded as nicely as it could have been, it was correct.

If an outdoor cat dies as as result of being outdoors the fault is only that of the owner and not of the car who hit it, the person who’s slug killer poisoned it or anything else (unless deliberately) as the owner is ultimately the one who made the decision to let them access the outdoors and it could have been avoided.

Of course if you have weighed up the risk to your cat and decided there is less of a risk of that than your cat having a medical episode then that is your right as a pet owner. I’m just saying that a lot of people like to blame everyone else but themselves. I would be devastated if I hit a cat with my car, genuinely heart broken, but unless I could have safely avoided it, it wouldn’t be my fault.

Actually the vast majority of what that poster said was totally incorrect.

Yes, if he gets hit by a car it’s my “fault” but the alternatives were to either have him PTS or to keep him locked up and medicated forever. A catio made no difference. A secure garden made no difference. And that was after years of keeping him indoors entirely.

somewhereintheworld · 02/08/2026 13:03

Cats are independent creatures unlike dogs who like to be in a pack with their owners.

BiteSizedLife · 02/08/2026 13:03

Pippa99999 · 02/08/2026 10:57

I hate cats. They kill for fun. Something like 50 million garden birds a year in the UK are lost to cats. They come and sit under the bird feeder in our garden. And they shit all over the lawn - I don’t understand why cat owners think it’s okay for their cats to roam around and do this. If a dog owner doesn’t pick up a dog poo, the local Facebook group is outraged!

I remember frothing facebook post about dog poo that turned out to actually be cat poo. Very awkward all round.

Same with local forest trust banging on about dog owners not picking up poo - I'd wager many times it is fox poo and they cant tell the difference.

InNewYorkNoShoes · 02/08/2026 13:01

Have you ever met a cat?
They do what they want.

BirdsongSunshine · 02/08/2026 12:55

Happyjoe · 02/08/2026 12:48

It can happen with any cat, not just Bengals. There tends to be a 'top cat' in the neighbourhood and they will fight on occasion, much more often if not neutered.

My cat now is a rehomed bengal, she's as timid and as frightened as anything, if she sees another cat she runs home.

NDN’s Twat cat who I mentioned upthread is half bengal! She’s definitely ‘top cat’ in the neighbourhood. She’s a big old fighting/killing machine! I’ve had to intervene on many occasions (usually at some ridiculous hour) when she’s been ready to see off an unsuspecting cat who has wandered into her territory! The noises they make could wake the dead!

Happyjoe · 02/08/2026 12:48

BeardofHagrid · 02/08/2026 12:35

I think it depends on the cat and the location. Most cats are fine to roam where I live (rural village), the only time I’ve had a problem with it was when these people had two very large and aggressive Bengals and they let them do what they want all day….they caused chaos!! They almost killed my next door neighbours elderly cat, they tried to scratch his eyes out and almost drowned him one day. I love cats but those two I really didn’t like. One ended up being hit by a car :(

It can happen with any cat, not just Bengals. There tends to be a 'top cat' in the neighbourhood and they will fight on occasion, much more often if not neutered.

My cat now is a rehomed bengal, she's as timid and as frightened as anything, if she sees another cat she runs home.

Happyjoe · 02/08/2026 12:45

ScaredButUnavoidable · 02/08/2026 12:32

What are you on about?

Every cat owner knows (and accepts) that having an outdoor cat comes with risks.

Exactly..
and the average lifespan of an indoor-outdoor cat is 10-14 years. Someone posted nonsense!

TheRealMagic · 02/08/2026 12:42

EmeraldShamrock000 · 02/08/2026 12:32

Responsible owners put a bell on the collar. They’re very different animals with different needs.
They also help keep rats and mice away.
I have never had a cat but I really enjoy my neighbours cat popping in for a visit, she’s smart enough to tease my springer spaniel by sitting up high, she jumps in if the dog is inside. Very cute.
My next pet will be a cat.

Oh, and the cat who will not be caged is also the cat who will not wear a collar. He can get them off in minutes.

TheRealMagic · 02/08/2026 12:40

kattyjean · 02/08/2026 11:03

Cat proof garden is a pretty tall ask. Firstly I’m sure most people’s average gardens are not going to be overly stimulating for cats who like to be outside. Secondly, I can’t imagine the level of investment and ugly changes that would need to be made to make a garden cat proof would be desirable.

We thought we had a cat proof garden, and were quite smug about how we had found the perfect compromise as we had a cat that didn't roam and bother others, but could enjoy being outside. Then we got another cat, and it turned out that what we had wasn't a cat proof garden, it was a cat who wasn't fussed about going beyond the garden. The second cat had broken through the defences on day one. He would also be deeply miserable if not allowed further than the garden.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 02/08/2026 12:39

Pippa99999 · 02/08/2026 11:38

And your point is?

Isn’t the point obvious? Stop demonising cats and start focusing on the humans desecrating the animals habitats. They are a much bigger threat to the birds than roaming cats are.
Start there.

TiredCatLady · 02/08/2026 12:39

Cat-Proof Garden? Like stapling jelly to a wall.

School holidays are bloody tiresome.