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AIBU to think cats should not roam unsupervised like dogs?

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estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:42

AIBU to think that if you dont leave your dog to roam streets unsupervised, then you shouldn't let other pets (cats), for the same reasons.

It blows my mind that people let their cats out because their sleep is disrupted and I wonder why they think its OK, when its highly unlikely they would put Fido outside if he kept the family up.

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Happyjoe · 02/08/2026 15:10

BiteSizedLife · 02/08/2026 13:03

I remember frothing facebook post about dog poo that turned out to actually be cat poo. Very awkward all round.

Same with local forest trust banging on about dog owners not picking up poo - I'd wager many times it is fox poo and they cant tell the difference.

I do voluntary gardening behind my home at a church. There's a person who keeps letting their dog poop which is driving me nuts. There's also fox poop. Huge difference in poop, consistency, colour and most of all...smell. Fox poop stinks.

ButtercupYellow26 · 02/08/2026 15:04

What a silly post. Are you ten?
You can easily Google all this.

Jackiepumpkinhead · 02/08/2026 15:02

Pudmyboy · 02/08/2026 10:20

It was normal behaviour in the UK in the past, as a child I lived in the North and the South and in both places, letting the dog out in the daytime was normal. Though you did need a dog licence in those days.

Dog licences were abolished almost 40 years ago! If I saw a dog roaming around 20 odd years ago, I would assume it was lost.

BiteSizedLife · 02/08/2026 15:01

AlligatorsOnaTrain · 02/08/2026 14:34

Respectfully, we are a small street and we all know each other and nobody has ever complained that my cats are using their gardens as a toilet and they are quite happy to mention about other things so I doubt it's a case of them just being polite. They are happy to complain that our ex stray has been into their bin bags or that my partners voice is too loud etc!

I do know where they go for a crap, they jump over the hedge at the bottom of our garden and into a field, there is a river a few feet from the hedge which separates them from the actual field where there are livestock, they toilet in a dense scrubby area that people can't access because of small thorny trees etc. They also have a litter box inside the house they use on wet days.

Though of course you are right, I'm not watching them constantly and doubt anyone else is either, so potentially they could crap somewhere inconvenient, but its certainly not as obvious a problem as dog owners are causing. There is dog poo out on the roads in our village daily that somebody isn't picking up, the moors are littered with it. Our local town is a lovely and quite affluent market town where we regularly have to play "Dodge the Turds and puddles of wee". At least cats try to do it away from prying eyes and to cover it up.

You are not wrong that some dog owners do not pick up their dog's poo.

BUT bear in mind that some of the poos that you see out and about could be foxes (or other animals?), as well. Obvs big dogs such as labs, shepherds etc give a tell tale kind of turd though 😂 small dogs and foxes excrement often looks similiar.

It's impossible to be out in the world where there are living things, and expect to never see a poo on the ground.

Not saying that is your expectation, you sound quite balanced, but I do get the impression that a lot of people find it unacceptable to come across any animal excrement at all.

Anyway Enough poo chat for a Sunday...!

ETA - I have told my neighboir to turn their music down and other benign things but I dont tell them their cat is annoyingly crapping in my front garden flower beds (and jumping through the windows in my house!) because realistically... what are they going to do? There's no point saying anything because they cannot do anything. Just because someone isnt saying something doesnt mean they dont find it annoying.

Femalemachinest · 02/08/2026 15:00

I have a cat who is indoor. I live near a busy road and railway line. He has a catio, 6 cat trees across the house, we play every day and he is harness trained which he goes on when im out in the garden. So previous posters who say harness training isnt possible, as with dogs you need to start young. He only seems bothered about going outside to 1, eat grass or 2 if im outside.

AlligatorsOnaTrain · 02/08/2026 14:34

BiteSizedLife · 02/08/2026 14:17

Respectfully, if by your admission your cats go where they like then you have no idea where they crap. This is just how it is and one of those things, cats are cats afterall, and this is part of the roaming thing.

But you do sound silly saying with great authority that your cats never leave stinking piles of poo that are inconvenient to people.

If they are out and about without any supervision from you, then you cant really be sure. Just own it.

Respectfully, we are a small street and we all know each other and nobody has ever complained that my cats are using their gardens as a toilet and they are quite happy to mention about other things so I doubt it's a case of them just being polite. They are happy to complain that our ex stray has been into their bin bags or that my partners voice is too loud etc!

I do know where they go for a crap, they jump over the hedge at the bottom of our garden and into a field, there is a river a few feet from the hedge which separates them from the actual field where there are livestock, they toilet in a dense scrubby area that people can't access because of small thorny trees etc. They also have a litter box inside the house they use on wet days.

Though of course you are right, I'm not watching them constantly and doubt anyone else is either, so potentially they could crap somewhere inconvenient, but its certainly not as obvious a problem as dog owners are causing. There is dog poo out on the roads in our village daily that somebody isn't picking up, the moors are littered with it. Our local town is a lovely and quite affluent market town where we regularly have to play "Dodge the Turds and puddles of wee". At least cats try to do it away from prying eyes and to cover it up.

OneDogTwoCatsHalfaDH · 02/08/2026 14:28

The thing is that dogs are very domesticated, and a long way removed from their wolf ancestors.
Cats are barely domesticated and are still basically wild animals who have learned to exist alongside us ratherthan adapting to us.
I had 7 cats a few years ago so I am well aware of the dangers they face when allowed to roam but would still rather they have slightly risky but happy lives instead of miserable safe ones.

One is very much a hunter and I try to restrict her, but it's mainly rats and mice she gets anyway, rarely a bird thank goodness. I know there are good arguments for protecting wildlife, but other than banning cats how can we address theis issue?

BiteSizedLife · 02/08/2026 14:17

AlligatorsOnaTrain · 02/08/2026 11:44

My cats are generally in at night and they don't keep us awake, they usually sleep on or near one of us!

They go where they like during the day, we live rurally and have fields behind our houses for them to roam around. They don't bother anybody or cause any trouble unlike the incessant yapping/barking from neighbourhood dogs and they don't leave big stinking heaps of shit all over the place either.

Respectfully, if by your admission your cats go where they like then you have no idea where they crap. This is just how it is and one of those things, cats are cats afterall, and this is part of the roaming thing.

But you do sound silly saying with great authority that your cats never leave stinking piles of poo that are inconvenient to people.

If they are out and about without any supervision from you, then you cant really be sure. Just own it.

MrsVBS · 02/08/2026 14:12

Always had cats and always will, they are free to do what they want wether that be indoors or out, trying to keep them in is impossible and they hate it, particularly in this warm weather, and have multiple acres and fields to roam, catch mice and live a fabulous life.

Castolaya · 02/08/2026 14:12

saveforthat · 02/08/2026 10:01

I was a kid in the 60s and 70s and many dogs did indeed roam the streets during the day and come back for their tea (bit like kids).

Kid of the 70 and 80s sane experience.

OneDogTwoCatsHalfaDH · 02/08/2026 14:05

estrogone · 02/08/2026 12:15

Well thank you.

Read the thread before dismissing it outright. Cats are routinely not given the same standard of care as other pets. My assertion is based on the fact that LOTS of people think its OK to let them face injury by traffic, fighting and related disease transmission, just because they are cats. Do you usually dismiss other people's ideas with such a lack of critical thinking?

erm, no, we are dismissing your idea with a great deal of critical thinking.
Hth!

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 13:56

BeHeartyRedZebra · 02/08/2026 13:55

I am very sorry to hear about your cat 💐

Thank you Flowers

BeHeartyRedZebra · 02/08/2026 13:55

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 13:54

Thank you.

Like you say, I am well aware of the risks and know how awful it is to lose them, but ultimately I would rather take that chance than keep them locked up indoors, which comes with its' own issues anyway.

I am very sorry to hear about your cat 💐

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 13:54

BeHeartyRedZebra · 02/08/2026 13:44

Hence why I said I wouldn’t have said it like that, but they do have a point that it is the owners responsibility, which the posted agreed with.

However, I have just seen that the person they were talking to sadly lost a cat to a car accident recently, and as they are in agreement the responsibility falls on the owner for letting the cat out I don’t think there’s much point going over this subject again and again, I’m sure they feel guilty enough for what happened to their other cat without debating if it would be their fault or not if something happened to their other one. There’s no point rubbing salt in the wound as they are aware of the risks of letting a cat out.

Thank you.

Like you say, I am well aware of the risks and know how awful it is to lose them, but ultimately I would rather take that chance than keep them locked up indoors, which comes with its' own issues anyway.

MyOtherProfile · 02/08/2026 13:54

Nodirectionhome · 02/08/2026 12:34

I put my cat in a harness and lead to take her for a walk. She lay on the floor on her side and refused to move.

That's more like it! Sensible cat.

Lindy2 · 02/08/2026 13:51

I went out in the garden with my cat when I first let her out.

She stayed in the garden for about 15 minutes and then jumped over a 6 foot fence to go and explore a bit more of the neighbourhood.

I was unable to follow her and trying to tempt her back with treats didn't work.

Cats aren't like dogs. They roam independently. I've also never heard of cats attacking humans and causing serious injury or death light sadly some dogs have done.

BeHeartyRedZebra · 02/08/2026 13:44

UhOhRatPoo · 02/08/2026 13:39

Oh, I read it too. Then reported it as a personal attack, with which MNHQ agreed.

Hence why I said I wouldn’t have said it like that, but they do have a point that it is the owners responsibility, which the posted agreed with.

However, I have just seen that the person they were talking to sadly lost a cat to a car accident recently, and as they are in agreement the responsibility falls on the owner for letting the cat out I don’t think there’s much point going over this subject again and again, I’m sure they feel guilty enough for what happened to their other cat without debating if it would be their fault or not if something happened to their other one. There’s no point rubbing salt in the wound as they are aware of the risks of letting a cat out.

Pippa99999 · 02/08/2026 13:44

EmeraldShamrock000 · 02/08/2026 12:39

Isn’t the point obvious? Stop demonising cats and start focusing on the humans desecrating the animals habitats. They are a much bigger threat to the birds than roaming cats are.
Start there.

I don’t think it’s an either/or situation. Both are problems. Domestic cats kill 55 million birds a year.

But given these are domestic cats (so pets), it might be argued that this is a human issue as much as a cat issue. But trying to deflect away from cats completely (as you seem to be doing) is nonsense.

Illbethereinaminute · 02/08/2026 13:43

estrogone · 02/08/2026 09:51

Who says they NEED to roam? Is this not just an excuse to absent yourself from the irritating and painful parts of pet ownership.

Sod the wildlife or the risk to the cat.

Its the same just with different parameters

Some cats like mine do. Several years ago she had an accident and after that I tried to cat proof the garden to keep her safe. She was constantly escaping, finding ways to escape, weeing everywhere and pawing at the windows. She was totally miserable so I gave up and let her out.

When we moved she lasted a week before climbing the walls to be let out.

She's older now and doesn't go out much but if she has to be kept in for any reason she goes mental again.
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Cats aren't trainable like dogs, in my experience having indoor cats means it's a military operation every time you want to open the door because they try to escape. You could have a cat proofed garden the size of 2 football fields but they will be desperate to see what's on the other side.

Waking them is hit and miss, they can easily escape harnesses if they want to and I wouldn't trust a dog not to try attack it.

Some cats are docile enough to be kept in and are happy with it but not a chance mine is so for her sanity and mine she is allowed out.

UhOhRatPoo · 02/08/2026 13:39

BeHeartyRedZebra · 02/08/2026 13:30

I read the comment myself and it did not say that.

It isn’t what I would have said but it definitely did not wish a nasty death to the cat. It said the owner should feel guilty if the cat dies but did not say they hope the cat dies a nasty death. I obviously would not have posted saying what they said was correct otherwise.

Oh, I read it too. Then reported it as a personal attack, with which MNHQ agreed.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 02/08/2026 13:31

pinkandwhiteroses · 02/08/2026 13:18

Yep, and I’ve never seen a single owner of outdoor cars in the UK who denies that there are risks involved in letting them roam - they just believe those risks to be worth it when it comes to their cats’ overall quality of life.

I say all that as someone who lost a cat to the road a few months ago.

You have to weigh up the risk. We let our children out despite the risks, as much as they’d be safer indoors, it isn’t natural for them, they also come across dangerous dogs, speeding cars, general sickos. And yes I am comparing cats to children. 😅

BeHeartyRedZebra · 02/08/2026 13:30

UhOhRatPoo · 02/08/2026 13:27

The poster’s comment was more along the lines of wishing the cat a nasty death so the owner would feel guilt. it was rightly deleted.

I read the comment myself and it did not say that.

It isn’t what I would have said but it definitely did not wish a nasty death to the cat. It said the owner should feel guilty if the cat dies but did not say they hope the cat dies a nasty death. I obviously would not have posted saying what they said was correct otherwise.

Sahara123 · 02/08/2026 13:30

Nodirectionhome · 02/08/2026 12:34

I put my cat in a harness and lead to take her for a walk. She lay on the floor on her side and refused to move.

🤣

Bananacrepewithnuts · 02/08/2026 13:29

When was the last time you saw someone taking their cat for a walk on a lead?

You aren't comparing like for like.

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Sahara123 · 02/08/2026 13:29

Floatlikeafeather2 · 02/08/2026 12:32

Perhaps people who don't have a suitable, secure outside space should be told not to get a cat, the way dog owners are advised not to.
I really don't want your cat in my garden, just because it's easier for you to let it wander all over.

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I’m pretty sure you’re not my neighbour, I only have two and one of them is a vet and isn’t the least bit bothered by my cats. Neither is the other one.
My cats are free to roam in the countryside and are no bother to anyone. They have the best life.

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