Dd15 got a tattoo of her boyfriends initial

I cant imgine the Op was thrilled about it
But the baby is here now and five months old.

It happens
Social services have limited resources
And how would they stop two 14 year olds having sex ?

A 14 year old girl having sex and getting pregnant isn’t a safeguarding issue?

I'd be much more upset about her having a baby at 15 than a tattoo of an initial.

You need to get social services involved as your dd is an idiot and not growing up. Poor baby….

What the fuck am I reading from PPs? A tattoo performed by this person is not a small thing. Do people understand the infection risk goes beyond what’s on your daughter’s skin getting into her blood (which for many people includes ‘golden’ staph) and includes blood borne viruses?? Is your DD breastfeeding??

I sincerely hope she at least did fully consent and this isn’t just a classic controlling move.

While the tattoo is obvs not ideal, it’s not the bigger picture here (and as others have said, can be covered or removed when she regrets it - which she will). I’d let it go, and stay supportive, so she is more likely to confide in you. She and her baby need support while she matures and finds her feet with her situation.

She will learn eventually my dd got her drug dealers boyfriends initials tattooed on her when she was 16 she's now thankfully in a good relationship and has to pay out and go through the pain of getting it covered up i would call that a good lesson learnt and she knows now never to get a bf name tattooed on her again.

As a pp stated, pick your battles.

There’s nothing you can do about the tattoo now, she will regret it in years to come, nothing will be achieved by arguing about it. Perhaps a lack of reaction might have the biggest impact, maybe?

Where are the Bf parents in all of this?

Well it's not really about a tattoo at the end of the day.

Does she have a social worker? If not, perhaps speak to social services re the tattoo and control he seems to be trying to exert. See if they have anyone who can support her and perhaps speak to her as an impartial 3rd party.

The baby is relevant in this story.

Two 15yo having a baby together, a small tattoo is the least of everyone's problem in this mess.

Not anywhere near the same as your 15yo coming back from a party with a tattoo and then you can go nuclear. I hate the "pick your battle" nonsense, but in this situation, they have actual problems to deal with.

As people have said the whole situation is fragile and it's about much more than one initial tattoo (which can be covered up in the future). If it's not this then something else will come along.
Are social services involved?

To everyone going on about OP's daughter having a baby at 15, OP has previous threads about the pregnancy, which dont need rehashing on this thread.

In the big scheme of things its just a tattoo of an initial. It can be covered when she's older, r if not ultimately its only a tattoo. She's got a much more permenant reminder of this boy

Obviously its not a sensible thing to do, and I would keep an eye out for infection. If your DDs been doing well as a mum, and this boy seems also to be doing better I wouldnt jeopardise your relationship over a small tattoo, its more important to that she feels she can talk to you and you are on her side

It will cause more problems than it will solve
give your opinion once them leave it

unless he pinned her done and forced her in the big scheme of things it’s not an issue

it can be covered or removed

Unfortunatley some girls do get pregnant and have babies underage
Obviously its far from ideal
But if there were no safe guarding issues social services wouldnt stay involved.

Just as I thought we were getting somewhere as she did seem to be more responsible during pregnancy and after becoming a mum

I do remember your earlier thread and I didn’t expect your daughter to be able to cope at all. Credit to both of you that she’s done as well as she has.

She is still very young. She’s not going to behave like someone 10 years older than she is. She’s doing her best. I really wouldn’t say anything. There’s no point and in the long run it won’t help anything.

Just be alert and give her as much space away from him as you can. It seems that the most important thing is that she knows she can turn to you whenever she needs to.

I’d let the tattoo go. Yes it’s very unfortunate but she will regret it one day
be as supportive a mum as you can be.

go on holiday with your younger children as planned. Can you at least trust her to be using contraception and not get pregnant again?

She had a baby at 15 but your more bothered about some tiny tattoo? Priorities..

I’d bring your daughter and her baby on the holiday.

I would have a talk about branding and check she’s ok. Let her know it’s not normal behaviour but don’t push too hard as you don’t want to drive her away.

How do you expect dad to “keep an eye” on her? She’s doing what she wants anyway by having a baby at 15. Can’t exactly lock her in her room. I’d go and enjoy your holiday so it doesn’t ruin it for your other child.

I think I’d be more concerned that my child was having sex at 14.
Is he also a child? If not, that’s what I’d be reporting to the police.

Really ? Even tho 14 when preg