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AIBU to feel fed up with my partner moaning on days out?

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CountryGal21 · 01/08/2026 17:32

AIBU to be really annoyed about my partner’s behaviour on days out?

Just recently no matter where we go or what we do, my partner has something to moan about and it’s starting to ruin days out.

We have recently had days out at the zoo and at a dog festival (we took our dog also). Both days, she expressed excitement about going out, but then spent all day huffing, puffing, making faces and complaining about the heat. We also had a day out at a food festival, and again she spent the whole time huffing, puffing, making faces but complaining about her legs hurting. It is always something, and we always have to rush around and get back home because of how is she acting about this ailment and that ailment, etc.

I am starting to think that going out on my own or just with my daughter would be so much better and easier.

AIBU for feeling this way and should I call her out on it?

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CountryGal21 · 01/08/2026 17:46

permanently · 01/08/2026 17:45

Is she fit and healthy or are the ailments serious? Is she generally avoidant?

No, health wise she is absolutely fine and has quite a physically demanding job - I bet she doesn’t huff, puff and make faces all day there!

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CountryGal21 · 01/08/2026 17:46

Seaswim21 · 01/08/2026 17:42

I had a partner like this, all days out spoiled by moaning and wanting to cut them short. Now they are an ex and I enjoy days out again

Yeah, I like going out to festivals for example and having a good look around the stalls and I barely got a look in last time because I was trying to rush to stop her from behaving that way and having to put up with it!

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permanently · 01/08/2026 17:45

Is she fit and healthy or are the ailments serious? Is she generally avoidant?

CountryGal21 · 01/08/2026 17:45

Nevs · 01/08/2026 17:40

Call her out on it, of course. Why haven’t you said anything yet?

Honestly, because I can’t really be bothered with the inevitable sulking that will come after it!

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CountryGal21 · 01/08/2026 17:44

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 01/08/2026 17:39

My ex was like this.

Also at any minute his mood could flip and he’d be furious, give everyone the silent treatment and drive erratically to frighten me.

Leave. It’s not worth it.

With the driving, I have noticed that she has an attitude with pretty much every driver on the road and gets very angry if they don’t drive how she wants them too. It’s quite annoying being in a car with her at the moment!

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Seaswim21 · 01/08/2026 17:42

I had a partner like this, all days out spoiled by moaning and wanting to cut them short. Now they are an ex and I enjoy days out again

Nevs · 01/08/2026 17:40

Call her out on it, of course. Why haven’t you said anything yet?

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 01/08/2026 17:39

My ex was like this.

Also at any minute his mood could flip and he’d be furious, give everyone the silent treatment and drive erratically to frighten me.

Leave. It’s not worth it.