AIBU to feel fed up with my partner moaning on days out?

God help neatly Lifes too short to put up with that huffing and puffing. Your poor DD having to put up with her mum's moany girlfriend all the time!

She sounds awful- dump her and find someone else who likes you

Do you live together? Consider how this relationship is making your child feel and the impact on her.

Only together 3 years and she isn’t a parent to your dd. Honestly I’d just end it you don’t sound compatible at all. That’s the beauty of dating not marriage, if it’s all feeling too much like hard work just move on.

Some people really don't believe in long lasting marriages and would divorce over minor things. Surely this is something you can discuss and find a compromise or solutions to make it enjoyable for both of you.

Are you doing things ( justifiably) for your DD? Does she want to spend time just with you or is she like it when you are on your own? If she resents being with your DD then she needs to go. If its just that she'd rather not do kids stuff and she would rather not go to the zoo ( for example) then go just with your DD.

I admire the fact you’ve told her you aren’t putting up with her silent treatment and that you’ve told her she’s spoiling days out, but long term, if you want to continue the relationship, I think you need a sit down conversation where you ask her what the problem is.

Is she one of life’s complainers? Because if so, this might just be her way of communicating and she needs to understand that it puts a massive damper on days out. Is she doing stream of consciousness, so every thought just pops out?

I can’t imagine someone moaning the whole time and cutting short days out. It isn’t fair to curtail lovely days out just because she wants to be home. Leave her there!

Drive next time OP. I love my dh with all I have, he is a wonderful man..

Until he gets behind the wheel of a car. Can't STAND the way he drives or behaves. I won't let him drive me or DS anywhere. If we go any where together, I drive.
Me though I do not have the paitence nor temperament for people like your DP. My step dad was like it and I loathed him. I used to say "there is an option to stay home ya know?" He hated me for it but my mum was a "leave it" woman and I was "deal with it" woman.

How long are you with her?

If she is actually ill, help her to get help (is possible for a young person to have one health issue after the other). But she should be willing to work on getting help.

Id arrange days out without her, it’s draining.

we were at a commonwealth games event today and there was a family beside us, the man complained it was too sunny, too windy, too cloudy, he didn’t like the events, why could they not have gone on a more exciting day, why are they doing medal events for yesterdays events , he was hungry, the food is too expensive, the trains will be busy going home etc etc. I found it draining never mind his family listening to him complain constantly.

Given she’s a complainer, a sulker and also now giving the silent treatment, she sounds like far more hard work than she’s worth.

How old are you both? How old is your daughter? Is she your daughter’s parent?

Is she over weight? I say that as someone who has been big in life and summer is hard when your carrying excess weight, you swell up, cankles, sweating etc. its really uncomfortable

In fairness, it is hot and if she's not in the peak of fitness and doesn't do well in the heat I can see why her enthusiasm may not have survived the reality. A lot depends on what she's like the rest of the time and on days out when the temperature isn't uncomfortable. If she usually fine, plan things where she'll not get too hot or leave her at home.

If they are a fairly recent partner I’d just end it and have a nicer life. You aren’t compatible.
If they are a long term partner then you’ll need to speak to them and say how it’s affecting your dd. Maybe come up with a plan like some days you do without them. But ultimately if it’s not working then the relationship is over. It’s affecting your daughter it’s a terrible atmosphere for her and spoiling her days out.

i Know you want to avoid sulking, but you should give them the opportunity to change, or at least fair warning they are getting into “being dumped” territory. Say you have noticed they always complain and want days out cut short. Mention both the zoo and the festival. Is she aware she does this and ruins every day out? It’s always something different but it’s always something that means you have to cut short days out because she’s not happy about something. Would she prefer to not go anymore on days out? If she’s coming with you, can she avoid ruining for you and your dd ?

If she sulks, she sulks. She’ll either reflect and make an effort to be better, or you’ll have your answer she’s not someone you can live with long term.

Sounds like they may be depressed, or similar.

My wife would have made similar complaints about me in the past, with validity, but when I had irritability and even anger spilling out onto the family during days out it was really an overflow from some combination of stress or depression that I was trying hard to hide.