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AIBU to snap after my mum kept calling a bike a trike?

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Crayo · 01/08/2026 14:43

i am looking to get my daughter her first bike. She’s 5 and has had a balance bike before but never a real bike. Everytime I speak to my mum she asks me if I’ve found a “trike” yet. I keep telling her it’s a bike I’m getting, 2 wheels” and she always says “oh yes, you know what I mean”.

Well this has been going on weeks and literally everytime I speak to her she asks about the “trike” and I constantly correct her and say “bike”. She does have a habit of asking the same question for weeks at a time and she also has form for deliberately saying the wrong words for attention and it’s tiring.

this morning I was at my mums and my sister was there. I went to toilet and when I came back my sister said “not being funny but isn’t DD old enough for a proper bike now?” I asked what she was on about as I am getting her a proper bike and she said “mum! You said she was getting a trike!”

So I lost it, screamed and shouted “stop saying it’s a fucking trike!! You know it’s not so just fucking stop it”

my sister said “Jesus Christ is there any need for that?” So I told her she’s been saying trike for weeks and it’s winding me up so she said “she gets mixed up, there’s no need to scream like that” but the annoying part is she doesn’t get mixed up!!! She does it on purpose and has been doing this for years!

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pouletvous · 01/08/2026 14:50

grumpygrape · 01/08/2026 14:47

How do you know she does it deliberately?

Because evryone knows that Bi means two and Tri is three and 5 year olds don’t have three wheeled cycles

AnitaCam · 01/08/2026 14:50

Did you find a good trike yet? It’s been going on for weeks.

pouletvous · 01/08/2026 14:48

my mother does this too. Dont bite. That’s what she wants

it’s deliberately antagonistic

she knows what she’s doing

FeliciaFancybottom · 01/08/2026 14:48

What kind of trike are you getting?

mathanxiety · 01/08/2026 14:48

Any other annoying traits that have in common a misplaced idea of what constitutes humor?

I know an older person who doesn't understand humour, never has, and wouldn't understand why others wouldn't find this sort of 'joke' funny. Strongly suspect this older person is (never diagnosed) neurodivergent. There are other elements of behaviour and personality that go toward forming the suspicion too.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 01/08/2026 14:47

My mum used to call me a slut and tell me the only good thing about me was that I was pretty.

You need to simmer down.

grumpygrape · 01/08/2026 14:47

How do you know she does it deliberately?

GrillaMilla · 01/08/2026 14:46

It sounds annoying, I understand what you mean.

But I would never scream and use the F word towards my mum, a total overreaction. And I hope you didn't do it in front of your daughter, a terrible example. Don't be surprised if she does it back to you.

ScrollingLeaves · 01/08/2026 14:46

How do you know she doesn’t have a lot in her mind, leading to her forgetting, or early dementia?

deletealt734 · 01/08/2026 14:46

😂

Mouldybroc · 01/08/2026 14:45

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