AIBU to snap after my mum kept calling a bike a trike?

I would have done the Sam's
It's irritates tulhe heck out of me when people don't listen/ call things the wrong name

I have a relative that says bokkle and hospikal. They know it gets on everyone's tits and yes it is done for attention seeking. DP will have similar behaviours sometimes e.g. asking stupid questions like "so how do I cook this microwave meal" - he knows the instructions, they are on the packet, all attention seeking and look at me being so useless/unable to talk properly/being thick.

It gets weary but I wouldnt shout. I now ignore DP completely when hes like that and the relative gets a "sorry i dont know what you mean" - try that with your mum.

in that case, you'd think by now you could ignore it because face it if its deliberate she just pwned you big time.

I can't ever imagine screaming and swearing at my mother for whatever reason . That is less acceptable than using the wrong word for a trike /bike . Get a grip .

I'm, unintentionally, winding up dgs.
I keep calling him by ds name.
Then yesterday when watching a film with Jim Carrey as the lead I mentioned 2 other films he was in but it was actually Mike Myers!
I'm honestly not doing it on purpose but dgs is getting a bit irritated.

I do know the difference between a bike and a trike though. 😇

A bungalow is a type of house, so why would they find it annoying?
Houses don’t have to have more than one storey.

Omg I would have done the same. It just feels like a lack of love - like you're not worth paying attention to.

That’s what you picked up from my comment?

Im well aware of what gaslighting is. Doesn’t mean other people don’t accuse DHs of gaslighting over everything on MN.

I've voted that you're being unreasonable because you know your mother is trying to wind you up yet you still "bite," Next time she wants to talk about trikes, talk about trikes, she'll soon stop if she's not getting a rise out of you.

A bike and a trike are two different things.

It's not a matter of preferring one term for an object over another equally correct term, or even preferring one modern term over an older term.

Probably, though it's the kind of thing only you can know.

I agree with others that you need to talk to her less about this kind of thing if you feel she's purposefully missaying details to upset you.

Because evryone knows that Bi means two and Tri is three and 5 year olds don’t have three wheeled cycles

Some 5 year olds have 3 wheeled cycles. Some adults do too - my adult daughter has a trike because she finds it easier to use and it has a larger basket on it than a bike could have without a trailer, which for her balances out the cons of it being slower than a bike.

Blimey…….she certainly knows how to push your buttons!

Your poor mum! I doubt doing it deliberately.

So, I gotta ask, have you got the trike yet?
(runs and hides from the OP).

OP get a fucking grip.

It is an old fashioned word. But the word is not what you are angry about.
You are angry because she won’t use the word you prefer. And stop using the word she is used to.
As for screaming at her. Crikey.

I think this will be seen as not a big deal to most people, but as someone with a relative who does the same I completely agree with you. You were quite calm.

The thing is, I think this would actually be more unkind than just shouting at the mum. Back when I was young, people would say things like “We need to get your head checked” (as a threat). This is the same sort of thing.

The OP doesn’t think her mum has dementia, she said that she does this sort of thing on purpose and has for years. Not every irritating thing that someone does is down to dementia (if they are over 60) or being neurodivergent (if they are under 60). Sometimes people are just a bloody pain in the arse.

“she also has form for deliberately saying the wrong words for attention”

I voted Yabu because of this. If you know she’s doing it for attention then you’re just making it worse by correcting her every time.

It’s like being with a toddler - don’t reward the bad behaviour with attention and eventually she’ll stop it when it doesn’t get a reaction.

That's not really the same. 'House' is a generic word for 'home'. I talk about my 'hoover' although I have a Dyson! A trike is not a generic term for a bicycle, it is a different vehicle.

That sounds very annoying indeed. YANBU.

Honest question but are you always so angry or is it just around your mum- even your replies, you just seem so on edge and I used to be like this. I’d say start taking steps to try to get things more in order so a person using a word you don’t like doesn’t set you off so much. Look at job, life, money, sleep and see why you’re so on edge x

This.