AIBU to snap after my mum kept calling a bike a trike?

I do actually kind of understand this. It’s the feeling of not being heard and of what you say not being important.

My dad developed a habit of interrupting what was saying to read signs to me. It irritated me so much I became sullen and morose and it exacerbated the problem as he’d be looking for something to say.

You have issues if this is even an issue.

1. Who actually gives a crap. You know what she means and you are purposely bothered.
2. You screamed and swore at your mother. Not cool.
3. The woman may have dementia which is exceptionally common to use other like words .

YABVVVVU

Maybe just stop mentioning the bike!

This. Good grief.
It is highly unlikely your mother is doing this on purpose. She almost certainly just has a blind spot over the two words.
If your mother really is doing this deliberately to wind you up then you must have form for getting upset about the most petty and inconsequential of things. Stop overreacting and perhaps she’ll stop doing it.

My mother used to mispronounce the names to things she didn't approve of, deliberately. She dismissed most learning difficulties as being down to lazy children and parents, so got a bit stuck when DS was diagnosed with dyslexia. She knew that if she tried to tell me it didn't exist, she'd be in trouble, so she always called it "dis-klek-klek-sia" and usually had a couple of goes at it as if it was some really, really weird outlandish thing that was incredibly difficult to pronounce.

This is going to sound really mean, but when she had a mild stroke which affected her ability to pronounce words, I have to admit there was a part of me that felt it was karma.

I hear you OP.

My mother is like this.

Does she do the same thing to your sister?

If you think she is deliberately being nasty to you, the only option is to go low contact or no contact. Grey rock. Put her on an information diet.

But all you need to say is "Oh isn't Nanny silly she gets so many things wrong but don't laugh at her because she is old and forgetful.

I fear the OP could be doing her mum an injustice by thinking it’s deliberate. The fact it’s being going on for years could mean there’s an intrinsic issue with her mother’s speech processing imho.

Ffs, how important is it? You don’t know if she’s doing it on purpose because you’re not a mind reader but, if she is doing it for attention, surely the best thing to do is completely blank it. YABU for shouting and swearing over something that just gets on your nerves.

I guess you’re unreasonable for knowing she’s doing it to wind you up and still letting her get exactly what she wants out of it.

I get it though, some people do this on purpose and then go “what? I forgot!” or some other passive aggressive excuse.

I learnt with my mum to pick the right battles. It’s not worth it.

One day when your mum is gone you will think why did I bother arguing about a kids bike.

No, not everyone knows, and that doesn't address the issue of how the OP knows her mother is doing it deliberately.

She may be, it might be ignorance, it might be mental health issues, all I wanted to know was how the OP knows it's deliberate. Her medical qualifications would help.

Nah you're fine. My mother is staying with us for 3 months like she does every summer. I often lose my shit over the small things. I feel bad but it's relentless.

That’s the point!

OP knows her managing and doing it on purpose.

It’ll annoy her mum if OP suggests it’s because her mum is unwell and ignores the purposeful spite behind it.

Do you pronounce it “Kah Rah TAY!” like Ross from Friends OP?

You know she was trying to wind you up so why rise to it? Why the need to correct her every single time?

Stop talking about these things to her and if it comes up, ignore her using the wrong word, stop correcting her and she'll soon get bored if you don't react.

I suspect it indicates mum doesn't read the room very well or that she's deliberately teasing.

It grates because it is showing you that show your mum doesn’t listen to you and isn’t taking an active interest in your and your families life. If she has always done this, it is to annoy you and you’ve let it. Hard as it is you need to ignore this behaviour to protect your sanity. Be mindful what you tell her in future if she goes on about things to annoy you. If it’s new then yes it could be dementia but it sounds like she likes pressing your buttons.

My mum has for for this OP and it is really frustrating. I'm not sure why she does it. It's been happening since I was a child, so not dementia or recent cognitive decline (my Dad does have dementia so I have some experience of this).

You were wrong to lose your temper and swear at her. But I feel your pain.

I find the easiest strategy for me is to ignore it.

Have you bought the trike yet?
Yes, we have bought her a Isla bike, they get great reviews and are really lightweight. Here's a picture.
Does DD love her trike?
She's figured out pedalling really quickly, we're really proud of her.

Just deprive it of oxygen.

Screaming and swearing over a mild annoyance.

YABVU and out of order

Haven’t you ever said “im thinking of getting DC a xxxxxxx because they are outgrowing Xxxxxx”.

It’s quite normal. I’ll realise something needs upgrading and then start saving for it.

Last time I mentioned I thought ds was outgrowing his home it was 3 months before I got a new one. Because I noticed in January when we didn’t go out much on it and decided I’d wait until the weather was nicer in case he had another growth spurt before purchasing a new one for the summer where he’d get lots of use from it.

Quite.