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To ask what age you started cosmetic procedures?

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Ihavebingowings1 · 01/08/2026 08:08

If you have botox, fillers, have had surgical procedures, threads etc.
I'm 35 and have been having crows' feet Botox once or twice a year for a few years, and I've had nasolabial fold filler twice. This seems to be ok for now, I'm trying to hold off on anything else for as long as possible due to cost and not wanting too much maintenance and upkeep with it all.
Eventually I'm sure I'll start to need more though, I know I'm still young and I'm using spf 50 and retinol currently.

So just wondered what sort of age you noticed the biggest changes and started anti ageing treatments? Please no judgement, I know it isn't for everyone.

OP posts:
Iriseee · 01/08/2026 12:29

41 and no need for any of that. I occasionally get elevenses after sleep but if I moisturise nightly with Nivea blue pot they go away. No wrinkles or forehead lines to speak of. I would never get fillers. All my features seem finely balanced so I would be concerned about messing with one thing and disrupting the overall scene. That's how I think a lot of ppl with fillers look, like it's disrupted the natural equilibrium of the face.

jaynelou5 · 01/08/2026 12:30

corblimeymlud · 01/08/2026 12:27

Do you use HRT? Are you not concerned about the possible risks?

There is more of a cancer risk drinking alcohol than using HRT these days as it’s bio identical. Wouldn’t be without mine. And no I don’t drink alcohol, gave it up 4.5 years ago.

CatrionaBalfour · 01/08/2026 12:30

jaynelou5 · 01/08/2026 12:28

I’m 47 with 22,15 & 16 year olds & I regularly get told the same. People think I’m in my early 30s & all I follow is a skin care routine & use spf 50 on my face. No aesthetics, don’t trust them, don’t think I need them.

You're 47 and people think you're in your early 30s?
Just... randomly?

Muffsies · 01/08/2026 12:30

corblimeymlud · 01/08/2026 12:27

Do you use HRT? Are you not concerned about the possible risks?

The risks are far less than taking the contraceptive pill. If you use the oestrogen gel it's very safe.

corblimeymlud · 01/08/2026 12:31

Muffsies · 01/08/2026 12:30

The risks are far less than taking the contraceptive pill. If you use the oestrogen gel it's very safe.

I know this thanks.

corblimeymlud · 01/08/2026 12:33

jaynelou5 · 01/08/2026 12:30

There is more of a cancer risk drinking alcohol than using HRT these days as it’s bio identical. Wouldn’t be without mine. And no I don’t drink alcohol, gave it up 4.5 years ago.

Thanks. I do know all about HRT as I have been on it for 10 years plus. I was asking the poster as our chats have been about how much of a risk you are willing to take . People's risk potential is so variable.

Muffsies · 01/08/2026 12:36

corblimeymlud · 01/08/2026 12:31

I know this thanks.

So you can conclude the answer is "no" then, since the measurable benefits of HRT to bone, muscle and congnitive health alone are far in excess of the very reduced risks.

BIossomtoes · 01/08/2026 12:42

My risk tolerance is pretty high - I jumped out of a plane to celebrate my 60th birthday. I still wouldn’t take the health risk of any procedure purely on the grounds of vanity or the risk that my face which I like could be adversely changed. It’s fortunate for the cosmetic aesthetic industry that we’re all different.

mtobrokeme · 01/08/2026 13:10

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 01/08/2026 09:56

So you keep on top of it by injecting toxins😏 alrighty then.

Yep! That’s how I keep on top of it and I love it!

The NHS also keep on top of my Bruxism by injecting those same ‘toxins’ into my jaw so I’m not in pain 24/7 - those risky NHS gaffers eh, injecting toxins into people!

Sereine · 01/08/2026 13:12

Never have started, never will. I love to think of all the money I've saved.

Overtheatlantic · 01/08/2026 13:20

Do women from other countries obsess about SPF 50 as much as the English on MN? I’d never heard so much about it until I moved to England and started reading MN.

Finsku · 01/08/2026 13:23

I'm 68 and haven't yet felt the need for any of that sort of thing.

RodneysGotaNewHairdo · 01/08/2026 13:26

I'm 52 and I haven't started yet, neither do I intend to.

The women who go in for these procedures rarely look better for them beyond the short-term and in the long-term they look awful.

The woman who served me on the till at Waitrose this morning was a similar age to me and had lips like a treadless, under-inflated bicycle tyre. She looked an absolute fright. God knows what she sees when she looks in the mirror, but it can't be what the rest of us see.

OverlyFragrant · 01/08/2026 13:38

Overtheatlantic · 01/08/2026 13:20

Do women from other countries obsess about SPF 50 as much as the English on MN? I’d never heard so much about it until I moved to England and started reading MN.

Err yes.
The whole of East Asia is obsessed with sun protection. Korean beauty is world leading and we import alot.
Australia, New Zealand and South Africa are on it for the health reasons.
And in the states its pretty massive too.

Overtheatlantic · 01/08/2026 13:39

OverlyFragrant · 01/08/2026 13:38

Err yes.
The whole of East Asia is obsessed with sun protection. Korean beauty is world leading and we import alot.
Australia, New Zealand and South Africa are on it for the health reasons.
And in the states its pretty massive too.

Wow, that’s great that you know this; are you in that business?

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 01/08/2026 13:42

corblimeymlud · 01/08/2026 12:00

You may as well extend that theory to HRT, dental work, medications, x rays , scans , eating chicken and anything else medical taken by women. Why don't you just accept life and hurt and suffer vaginal incontinence and prolapse ? We know there can be issues with some things - such is life. You can get cancer and die within weeks. Life is not guaranteed. You can never travel on a plane and see the world. You can't avoid every risk. As my male doctor said it's about quality of life not quantity. Yes you can argue that some of those are essential but are they ?

The medications I take to keep me alive are not comparable to a toxic vaccine I don't need to take.

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 01/08/2026 13:45

mtobrokeme · 01/08/2026 13:10

Yep! That’s how I keep on top of it and I love it!

The NHS also keep on top of my Bruxism by injecting those same ‘toxins’ into my jaw so I’m not in pain 24/7 - those risky NHS gaffers eh, injecting toxins into people!

The big difference you dont need those extra toxins .

Gloriia · 01/08/2026 13:45

'The women who go in for these procedures rarely look better for them beyond the short-term and in the long-term they look awful'

The issue seems to be it's a slippery slope and some women get hooked. I know people who have botox and a bit of filler and look great. I also know people who have too much filler and have the balloon face look. Less is more but once someone has a bit they want the next thing and so on.

The lips are the worst, that funny rolled top lip that you spot a mile off.

In answer to your question op just keep to a bit of botox and maybe in your 50s consider non invasive collagen treatments like hifu if you go jowly.

notnorman · 01/08/2026 13:49

49 and my mouth is a Bit droopy now so thinking about getting that done if it is a thing !

queenMab99 · 01/08/2026 13:52

I'm 75, I probably should have started at 15, never mind eh!

TossieFleacake · 01/08/2026 13:53

wordywitch · 01/08/2026 08:47

While I empathise with individual women feeling they ‘need’ these procedures due to patriarchal societal conditioning, and I don’t really care what people want to spend their time and money on, I DO think it’s an issue that affects us all, even those of us who don’t have them done, and so it’s okay for us to have an opinion on it. The more women who buy into this ‘anti-ageing’ bullshit, the more normalised it becomes. Pretty soon, those who haven’t had Botox and fillers will become the minority and be discriminated against for daring to look their age. It’s warping everyone’s minds and perceptions of human appearance, and that DOES impact me, so I will continue to speak out against it whilst still empathising with those who are unable to withstand the pressure to conform.

Just my 2p, as you were.

This in a nutshell.

user1471553275 · 01/08/2026 13:56

I'm coming up for 45 and started a couple of years ago. Some Botox on my forehead, jawline and 11s. I go twice and year and love it. Just softens out the lines on my forehead and I feel better as I feel a bit fresher. I had a wee bit added to where my crowsfeet this time and I'm very happy with the results. I had filler once on my marionette lines and didn't feel it made much difference so haven't bothered again. I think it probably is quite addictive but worse things that a little bit of Botox. Do what makes you feel good.

Hermione101 · 01/08/2026 13:56

wordywitch · 01/08/2026 08:47

While I empathise with individual women feeling they ‘need’ these procedures due to patriarchal societal conditioning, and I don’t really care what people want to spend their time and money on, I DO think it’s an issue that affects us all, even those of us who don’t have them done, and so it’s okay for us to have an opinion on it. The more women who buy into this ‘anti-ageing’ bullshit, the more normalised it becomes. Pretty soon, those who haven’t had Botox and fillers will become the minority and be discriminated against for daring to look their age. It’s warping everyone’s minds and perceptions of human appearance, and that DOES impact me, so I will continue to speak out against it whilst still empathising with those who are unable to withstand the pressure to conform.

Just my 2p, as you were.

This is already happening in the workplace. More women in their 50s are opting for procedures to look younger and compete with the younger cohorts, in order to stay “relevant” in the workplace. I think people have a very skewed idea of hating natural aging is.

I’m 47 and have had nothing done (although have started regular microneedling. However, I have been drinking collagen for 15+ years, using retinol since my early 30s, spf 50 all year around and I am in fantastic physical shape; the latter makes huge difference in how people perceive your age. People forget that “aging” is not just your face, but also posture, muscle mass, how you move and outlook.

I am ambivalent about Botox, don’t care about a few wrinkles in my face (years of collagen and retinol have helped here), what bugs me though is the structural changes in facial bone and loss of facial fat. That is where the real aging is and Botox / fillers don’t do much with that.

CatrionaBalfour · 01/08/2026 14:06

It's also going to discriminate against lower income women, who genuinely can't afford these sort of cosmetic procedures. They will stand out as "ageing" and it won't go well for them.