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To think this shows poor follow-through before a first date?

78 replies

ThisOliveTurtle · 31/07/2026 23:59

I met a man through a mutual friend at her event. We got on well and later started messaging.

Last weekend he asked when I’d next be in London. I told him I’d be in London this Saturday (tomorrow) late afternoon because I already had appointments there. He then suggested three different areas and asked which I’d prefer. He said if I had no preference he could figure something out. I replied that I was happy with any of them and would leave it to him to decide. He then replied saying he’d “work something out.”

Since then, I haven’t contacted him again because he’d said he’d organise it.
It’s now late Friday evening and I still haven’t heard anything. As things stand, we have no confirmed time or place for tomorrow.

AIBU to think this is poor follow-through? I don’t think someone has to organise everything days in advance, but if you say you’ll work something out, I’d expect to hear back before the day you’re meant to meet.

OP posts:
Inmyuggs · 01/08/2026 00:07

Ring him or text and ask?
He has a life too.
Gosh adults that ca use a phone to call?.

Tontostitis · 01/08/2026 00:02

If someone gives you a choice of 3 you pick one.

Bristolandlazy · 01/08/2026 00:02

I'd assume he's gone off the boil and has other plans. You'd know if he was keen as he'd keep chatting. Make other plans.