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Dh changes when a full moon

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Touristtrainstuffedtothebrim · 31/07/2026 23:30

Not in a werewolf way and i’m not a woo type of person, but I’ve noticed a few times (going to have to start writing it down) that on the build up
to a full moon, he can be very moody and not nice sometimes and the day after-few days after, he’s back to himself, but much nicer-kinder

It’s happened too many times now to feel like a coincidence

Am I the one going mad?

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MyDarlingRose · 02/08/2026 10:30

ThatCyanCat · 02/08/2026 08:49

Well you probably don't know your own. The standard western zodiac we use is based on dividing the sky into 12 equal sections which don't actually fully align with the constellations for which they are named (the constellations aren't all the same size, the sun doesn't spend an equal amount of time in each one) and leaves out one constellation that is in fact in the zodiac line because otherwise there'd be 13 and it wouldn't align so nicely with the seasons. Libra also used to be in the same constellation as Scorpio until it was changed, I believe by the Romans... the constellations as we know them are only how humans have chosen to group the stars together. Keep the constellation of Ophiuchus, through which the sun does pass, and look at which actual constellation the sun is in at the time of your birth rather than which equal 1/12 section of sky and you'll very likely find that you got your sign wrong too.

Not to mention that this is only the solar zodiac and if you're insisting that people are ruled by the moon, you should surely be looking at their lunar zodiac... and again, are you using the standard western zodiac for that or are you looking at the actual constellations, all 13 of them?

Or are you using an Eastern zodiac like the Chinese one which is based on the year you were born using a lunar calendar and a different set of elements and seems to give a very very different set of predictions?

Goodness, it gets complicated...

Edited

You’re not the only person to have seen the very popular posts on social media about this. You’re not some deep person with incredible hidden knowledge

MyDarlingRose · 02/08/2026 10:28

Extra moonlight at night can disrupt sleep. Maybe he just sleeps worse on those nights and it makes him grumpy.

Cherrysoup · 02/08/2026 09:59

FlipFlopVibe · 01/08/2026 22:41

Emergency Services here too, crime and volatile behaviour absolutely is affected by the full moon, happens far too frequently to be a coincidence

This is what my Dh says, police.

Cherrysoup · 02/08/2026 09:57

MrsMoastyToasty · 31/07/2026 23:37

I think we're more affected by the natural environment than most people realise.
I often get a migraine when there's a dramatic change in air pressure.
DM was a school dinner lady and she said that the pupils were a lot more boisterous when it was windy.

Wind madness is definitely a thing, having been in schools for over 30 years!

Touristtrainstuffedtothebrim · 02/08/2026 09:50

He’s Pisces

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SunwaysSystems · 02/08/2026 08:50

I’m often surprised by people who do not know their partner’s sign

Why is this surprising? (I don't know my husband's sign, but I know what his personality is like very well, so it would be redundant to try and find out more about his personality from a list of dates!)

ThatCyanCat · 02/08/2026 08:49

Madamefroufrou · 02/08/2026 08:18

I was with a moody Cancerian for a few years :
without a doubt he was affected -
actually I realised a full moon was imminent because of this -
quiet, withdrawn, uncommunicative.
Moon on the wane refreshed and restored him

I’m often surprised by people who do not know their partner’s
sign, or occasionally, their own.

Well you probably don't know your own. The standard western zodiac we use is based on dividing the sky into 12 equal sections which don't actually fully align with the constellations for which they are named (the constellations aren't all the same size, the sun doesn't spend an equal amount of time in each one) and leaves out one constellation that is in fact in the zodiac line because otherwise there'd be 13 and it wouldn't align so nicely with the seasons. Libra also used to be in the same constellation as Scorpio until it was changed, I believe by the Romans... the constellations as we know them are only how humans have chosen to group the stars together. Keep the constellation of Ophiuchus, through which the sun does pass, and look at which actual constellation the sun is in at the time of your birth rather than which equal 1/12 section of sky and you'll very likely find that you got your sign wrong too.

Not to mention that this is only the solar zodiac and if you're insisting that people are ruled by the moon, you should surely be looking at their lunar zodiac... and again, are you using the standard western zodiac for that or are you looking at the actual constellations, all 13 of them?

Or are you using an Eastern zodiac like the Chinese one which is based on the year you were born using a lunar calendar and a different set of elements and seems to give a very very different set of predictions?

Goodness, it gets complicated...

Madamefroufrou · 02/08/2026 08:18

okeydokeymokey · 01/08/2026 00:12

of course the full moon affects people! given that we're mostly made of water, think of the effect of the moon on the tides etc and on nature. of course it affects us as well.

Also is your partner a zodiacal cancer sun, or perhaps he has planets like the moon in cancer, look up his birth chart. Yes I know most ppl think bollocks but it really might be the case!

I was with a moody Cancerian for a few years :
without a doubt he was affected -
actually I realised a full moon was imminent because of this -
quiet, withdrawn, uncommunicative.
Moon on the wane refreshed and restored him

I’m often surprised by people who do not know their partner’s
sign, or occasionally, their own.

AsburyPark · 02/08/2026 08:14

ThatCyanCat · 02/08/2026 08:06

Are labour wards very calm and uneventful places at other times?

Yes, like a spa break usually.

ThatCyanCat · 02/08/2026 08:06

AsburyPark · 02/08/2026 07:42

I was about to say this, my DM is a midwife and has always said that the place goes haywire on a full moon!

Are labour wards very calm and uneventful places at other times?

SunwaysSystems · 02/08/2026 07:45

TutTutTutSigh · 01/08/2026 23:00

Full moon + weekend = busier and more chaotic night in the pub, in my 10 years experience working full moons in pubs. More fights, more random stupid behaviour.

As I said, this year so far the full moons have coincided with start/end of calendar months.

Can you think of any reason that this might explain busier pubs?

AsburyPark · 02/08/2026 07:42

MrsBirkett · 01/08/2026 01:03

I was a midwife for many years. I don't care if the research doesn't back it up, the busiest, maddest nights were always when there was a full moon.

I was about to say this, my DM is a midwife and has always said that the place goes haywire on a full moon!

cafenoirbiscuit · 02/08/2026 07:34

The origin of the good ole fashioned word Lunatic would suggest a link to moon phases. Certainly when I worked in acute mental health the beds on the wards were always more in demand when there was a full moon.

FlipFlopVibe · 02/08/2026 07:19

HeronWading · 01/08/2026 23:11

So how come it has never shown up on any data?

Because trying to measure aggressive, rowdy, violent individuals on the streets isn’t exactly easy to collate. It’s based on qualitative accounts of officers out there every day who experience it. It’s absolutely a thing.

Redragtoabull · 02/08/2026 01:45

I had an ex like yours, I noticed it was when there was a full moon. Great guy usually but moody and closed off at the full moon, very weird.

11AndCounting · 02/08/2026 00:10

HeronWading · 01/08/2026 23:17

Just shows how strong confirmation bias is.

Yup, and that the general public's knowledge of astronomy (even just as it relates to the moon, Earth and sun) is very limited.

Not intended as a reflection on anyone's intelligence - I'd rather be treated by hospital staff that don't understand the moon but do understand medicine than vice-versa!

Yelrab · 02/08/2026 00:01

I had heard that people born under the sign of cancer are affected by the full moon.

Dahliasrule · 01/08/2026 23:27

kattyjean · 31/07/2026 23:43

So I came here to say that it’s a known fact that behaviour changes with a full moon and that’s there’s data from police and hospitals to support this, but on double checking AI tells me this is a myth and there is no such data 🤣 however, it did say the one small data insight we have is that full moons can impact sleep and people can sleep on average 20 mins less so maybe irritability can be caused by that?!

DH has always suffered from insomnia, but I have always maintained it is affected by the moon. However, his insomnia is worse when there is no moon at all.

HeronWading · 01/08/2026 23:17

11AndCounting · 01/08/2026 23:11

If it was in any way related to tidal movement, why would there only be a change in behavior during a full moon?

This thread is ridiculous.

Just shows how strong confirmation bias is.

11AndCounting · 01/08/2026 23:11

GavinStacey · 01/08/2026 21:53

It took me years to realise my husband's change in behaviour was affected by the moon. When I did research it made sense about tidal movement and how the body, because of the water content, can also be affected. After 42 years I am convinced. I would love to dicuss this with a psychiatrist.

If it was in any way related to tidal movement, why would there only be a change in behavior during a full moon?

This thread is ridiculous.

HeronWading · 01/08/2026 23:11

FlipFlopVibe · 01/08/2026 22:41

Emergency Services here too, crime and volatile behaviour absolutely is affected by the full moon, happens far too frequently to be a coincidence

So how come it has never shown up on any data?

TutTutTutSigh · 01/08/2026 23:00

Full moon + weekend = busier and more chaotic night in the pub, in my 10 years experience working full moons in pubs. More fights, more random stupid behaviour.

FlipFlopVibe · 01/08/2026 22:41

Emergency Services here too, crime and volatile behaviour absolutely is affected by the full moon, happens far too frequently to be a coincidence

Touristtrainstuffedtothebrim · 01/08/2026 22:14

GavinStacey · 01/08/2026 21:53

It took me years to realise my husband's change in behaviour was affected by the moon. When I did research it made sense about tidal movement and how the body, because of the water content, can also be affected. After 42 years I am convinced. I would love to dicuss this with a psychiatrist.

What was his behaviour like?

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GavinStacey · 01/08/2026 21:53

It took me years to realise my husband's change in behaviour was affected by the moon. When I did research it made sense about tidal movement and how the body, because of the water content, can also be affected. After 42 years I am convinced. I would love to dicuss this with a psychiatrist.