To think this email from my exes solicitor is just absolutely laughable

😂😂 I guess it's not really about that for me. It's the audacity of emailing me threatening me , demanding 5050 when you were just hours late for handover.

The house is complicated. We owned two houses, both were in my sole name. But we ran a company together so my money was his money essentially. And we were married so they're joint assets anyway. One had no mortgage and stayed as my own home. The other is worth twice as much but had a small mortgage on it in my sole name. From before we married. He has not at any point been added to either the land registry or mortgage. The financial order stated I kept the smaller one and that he had to pay off the mortgage of the bigger one for that to be transferred to him. The mortgage is paid from a joint account I now have no access to whatsoever. So he is obviously keeping this topped up so is essentially paying the mortgage off, just at a monthly rate which will clear in 2031 at which time I'll transfer it to him. I am in no need of buying another house ATM so paying to take him to court to force this is just a waste of money. It could burn down tomorrow, I don't care. I don't care if he stops paying the mortgage and they repossess it. Even if that destroys my credit rating. I don't need a loan or mortgage for anything so I really don't care what happens to it. I have informed the mortgage lender, they don't care as long as the mortgage gets paid. So I just find it insane that he's using that as a stick to beat me with over my actual child. Like ok, take me to court, pay the mortgage off and I'll sign the house over to you. Or don't take me to court, pay the mortgage and I'll sign the house over, who gives AF? Not me.

He lives in my house free of charge and I've made no issue of it.

this is one of the highest drips I have ever seen on mumsnet

I would reply to the solicitor several times asking different questions, a few days apart, so ex incurs additional costs each time solicitor has to contact you.

A true story to illustrate that solicitors are just there for the money

I was a claims manager we sent the customer vouchers to settle a claim. She changed her mind and sent them back in thd normal post . They got lost. As she didn't take any care and had no proof we said nothing could be done and closed the claim.

A solicitor wrote . I replied pointing out she didn't exercise reasons care and had no proof so there was nothing we could do and she couldn't make a second claim as insurance has an implied and case law supported rule that you always act as if uninsured.

Solicitor wrote back threatening legal action. On the same day we got another letter from a different solicitor repeating what solicitor one said in their first letter.

Clearly solicitor one told her I was right...but still took the money to write to me again.

I simply photocopied all of the letters and sent them to both solicitors with a brief note explaining i was right

So op just write back to the solicitor tell them to go ahead and pointing out that given your ex forgot contact its very very unlikely any court would find in his favour and that social services have already intervened in contact. Re the rate (and I am really sorry that happened to you) remind him that any action would take place in open court and that his name would forevermore be linked to a rape case.

I would also tell the solicitor that you know they are just representing their client but just because its a letter from a solicitor you are not concerned about the contents because you all know its absolutely ridiculous.

Don't ever be afraid of solicitors...they are human and most actually don't know all that much about the law

@AnnoyedAsAllHeck no, he is. He lives in my house free of charge and I've made no issue of it. The financial order states that he has to pay me the sum of the mortgage so the mortgage can be paid off and then I have to transfer him the house. He has not paid the mortgage off. I have had the documents sent to him from the mortgage lender with a date and an amount that needed to be paid twice. And he has refused. So there is literally nothing I can do.

I've presented recordings to the judge of all sorts, they don't care, I literally showed that he had submitted forged evidence to court. They don't care.

DS is struggling. His dad uses every contact visit to update him on the court proceedings. About how I am stopping him from spending more time with him. How I'm telling the courts when DS tells me stuff. So he comes out of contact upset. But legally I am court ordered to let him or I could lose him all together.

Well the thing is, I fully expect this kind of thing from him. Not a thing has surprised me, from HIM. But these are educated, sensible people surely. How are they this idiotic. To send me an email after he's just forgot about his scheduled contact to demand 5050 and threaten me with my own rape "allegations" my own car, my own house and his measly child maintenance. I know he's this stupid and arrogant and quite frankly an abusive bully, but I'm surprised that they are happy to slap their name on that drivel.

Yes but solicitors are regulated by the SRA and paralegals must be actively supervised by solicitors. Solicitors can’t send misleading threats in letters. They can’t just write whatever their client tells them to. We have a code of conduct. Solicitors really don’t like complaints and threats of referrals to the SRA and if you think they’ve breached their professional duties you should make a complaint- first to the firm and then if necessary to the SRA.

As I've said most know little or nothing of the law... believe me I was in insurance claims for 10 years. I've also, when I walked away from the corporate bollocks, had to help a lady in her 90s sort her late husband's will because the solicitor was sooooo shite.

Sorry to all you professional solicitors out there but we know that a lot of the work is passed to para legals many of whom have no qualifications.

Everyone bows to solicitors...most of them are crap.

Solicitors shouldn’t just do what their clients tell them to. It sounds as if that letter - with potential threat about action against you in relation to the rape allegation - if you don’t do what their client wants for child arrangements - may well have crossed a line. There was a recent case of a family solicitor being struck off for misleading the in person other party with threats of issuing proceedings (that were fictional).
You might want to consider making a formal complaint to the firm about the solicitor in relation to this threat and also the conflation of financial and children matters in an inappropriate way.
If they don’t resolve it you could consider a complaint to the SRA.
I’m a family solicitor and it’s depressing to read about such poor practice.