AIBU to feel upset after my partner chose gaming over intimacy?

I also would find a person who calls sex "intimacy" and refers to their "tum" sexually uninspiring tbf.

Really hard to pick a side. My DH would almost definitely have complimented me, but I think he'd also want to finish the game or get to a point where he could pause it (from non-sex-related experience). He also wouldn't necessarily be in the mood to have sex- no fault of mine. I've sighed many times when he's been gaming!

I think context matters. Is this a one off or does it happen regularly? Or even worse does it happen regularly and he complains about the lack of sex?

If he’d stood there with his knob sticking out of his trousers and you were doing your hobby would you leap obediently to your feet?

I don’t see anything wrong with what he did.

If you have a toddler I assume you’ve been married long enough to know you can’t pause an online game. If it was single player I would’ve been offended.

Also I hate the way you had to disparage your own body to try and give some sort of context. I’m sure you looked amazing!

If I was in the middle of something I was enjoying and my partner walked in and wanted sex immediately I’d be annoyed, wouldn’t you?

It’s not a reflection on you or how you looked, it’s more that he’d just sat down to something he wanted to do and was expected to instantly ditch it and shift to sex mode.

If you’d said come to the bedroom in 10 minutes I reckon he’d have been there in 5.

Eh

I think youre overreacting a little

he wont win any awards for romance, and needs to step it up. But I would've said, 'hurry up and make it up to me for making me wait'

That said, i know its hard when your body isnt where you want it - he's lucky you made the effort!, dd is 7 and I doubt i'd be arsed enough for lingère! Xx