Please don't be too hard on her. She can't help it. This is all part and parcel of being a mother. More than anything, she needs to know that you love her unconditionally and that you're not judging her. She is who she is at this moment in her development, and she needs you and her dad to guide and support her through the good times and the challenging ones.
It's completely normal to feel fed up at times, but it's important to stay kind, loving, and consistent while maintaining healthy boundaries.
Are you doing activities together that your daughter genuinely enjoys? Maybe a ballet class, music lessons, or something else she's interested in? Cooking and baking together can also be lovely ways to connect. Share the parenting where you can, I hope her dad is involved and able to give you a break too.
Our children often need us the most during their most challenging moments. Loving them through those times is what helps them build real confidence, security, and resilience.
Do you have a pet? At that age they can have a best friend in a cat or dog at home. It sounds like you are unhappy and looking at her as if she were a fully formed adult. She is little and you need to be the grown up who has patience for her. Is she starting school next September? So pre-school this year?