Page 4 | Aibu to have reported the dustbin lorry to the council?

Bumpyroads · 2026-07-30T14:09:07+00:00

Bit of back story us and our next door neighbours quietly dislike each other. Nobody has really said anything but I know we both annoy each other from what is said about the street. They moan about us, things we do etc. Recently they have been playing loud music in the garden at the weekends in a passive aggressive way. This started when they complained about our chickens being noisy ( we have rehomed the chickens because of this but thats another story) the reason I'm saying all of this is because in general I am just in a bad mood about our neighbours and don't know if this has tainted my reaction. So next door neighbour is a bin man, he wasn't at work. Bin lorry come and parks up across my drive . Workmen get out and go in neighbours house/garden for 40 minutes having a drink and break. All this time I was unable to get off or access my drive. There was a bin lorry parked unattended across it. So husband rings to complain to the council. They were confused as on their tracker the lorry was supposedly elsewhere. They also agreed 40minutes was excessive but said they must have been emptying bins? No they were having a cuppa at my neighbours! Council are going to investigate, I suspect they were taking unauthorised breaks and turning the tracker off.. maybe. Anyway the reason this has also annoyed me so much is our neighbours have lived hear 30+ years and act like they own the street. Complain about anything we do (leaves from our trees fall in their garden for example.) They are 60+ and set in their ways and we are a young family. Tbh I just dont think they like us, we normally don't rise to it and smile and wave etc. But this time I had had enough and complained. Aibu? And have we just started ww3?

NeededANameChangeAnyway · 02/08/2026 09:29

The bin men got into trouble because they were doing something they shouldn't have been doing how is the OP getting grief for this?! If the bin men hadn't parked over her drive she wouldn't have complained.

Whatevergoes2025 · 01/08/2026 22:10

Sorry OP. They are awful neighbours and I suggest you get some cameras up (if you haven’t already) because they sound very confrontational and unpleasant. I would be logging every incident.

adragoncalledaudrey · 01/08/2026 21:47

All I’m hearing is but but but I’m justified.

I do wonder about drip feeds (or tsunami feeds) sometimes. It smacks of trying to come up with an excuse for an action in a lot of cases I find.

Again, the ire has not been taken to the object of the ire but has been slapped on to others.

I don’t think there is justification for that. No matter what one says/comes up with.

PrettyPickle · 01/08/2026 21:30

Oh honestly give the woman a break - I hear you OP and I get your stance.

Pinkchickenwine · 01/08/2026 21:26

Bumpyroads · 01/08/2026 20:15

The bin men are in trouble because they done wrong and got caught i didn't force them to park at the end of my drive. I am not responsible for their actions. It may not have directly affected the neighbout but he may have got a taste of how we have felt in the past.

Ok so this is going to be a long post, probably outing etc but i really need to explain we are not the bad people here.

This all started with the neighbour complained about our trees, we cut them every year, we are keen gardeners. Our garden is full but very well maintained we have won local awards for our garden. However it is not to the neighbours liking they would rather no plants (they have slabbed their whole garden)
This had to be we agree to disagree, we will prune them to a certain extent but we will not remove them because they drop leaves in their garden.

This started a sour relationship.

They make snidey comments about them working hard and us not so. Complained we had our curtains shut one day. Pointed out I had bird poo on my car. Called me fatty when i was pregnant. Lots and lots of little drips of comments over a few years to many to mention but you get the idea.

Things seems to change drastically when we got our pet chickens. 6 hens, large coop area, kept immaculately clean we spent a lot of money building a fox proof run for them etc. Quickly cleaned them every day, deep cleaned once a week, picked food up at night, shut them in at night, let them out 7am.
When next door asked us what we were building in the garden and we said a chicken coop she started swearing and shouting in the middle of the street. If she'd had expressed her concerns we would have shown them the coop, the research we'd done etc etc
They then complained the chickens were noisey, the seagulls/dogs/children around here are far noiser. They insisted we had a "male hen" infact we are not the only ones with chickens around here and I did hear a cockeral a few times but it wasn't ours.

We said we would keep them shut in later.

They then started playing the radio loudly at any given opportunity or whenever we were in the garden. This was so loud our other neighbours thought it was us.
They sucked any fun we had out of being in our garden, complained about the kids playing with next doors children out the front. Said our hedges were blocking their light (gardens are south facing and so hot and sunny its almost uncomfortable).
We garden all year and because we had just had a baby when the nights started drawing in we would sometimes go out there while baby slept around 5pm. It was dark but we enjoyed it. They didn't like it so flashed their flood light on and off every time we were out there to get us to go in.
They have banged on the wall when the baby cried. Said "well im not complaining about the baby.." whilst proceeding to complain about the chickens.
AGAIN music loudly all the time, but also the radio so loud you'd think there were builders there or something.
They then went on holiday and left their led disco lights on shining up at our bedroom this was intentional they rarely turn them on (they are bright the glow behind our blackout curtains was like someone had a huge TV on out there)
They were away for a week. During that time we rehomed the chickens we thought this would finally give us some peace. They got what they wanted. But no they have continued relentlessly.
They bitch about us to our mutual friends (neighbours), have security cameras pointing in both our front and back garden. We got bullied into giving up our pets and I refuse to be bullied anymore what gives them the right to dictate what we can and can't do.

So yes im at the end of my tether.

Well that’s quite the drip feed!! Which you wanted to avoid!

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 01/08/2026 20:44

03cg73 · 01/08/2026 20:30

But again, you getting the bin men into trouble has not affected your neighbour. It’s affected no one but the bin men and will probably make relations with your neighbour deteriorate even further and make your living situation more difficult

Exactly so you have crap neighbours, although I would not be happy about having chickens due to the vermin their food attracts.but you haven't done anything to your neighbours. Yes relations with get worse obviously but presumably you knew that and chose to do it anyway.
All you have done is created another enemy and you don't want to make an enemy of someone who provides a service for you.

03cg73 · 01/08/2026 20:30

But again, you getting the bin men into trouble has not affected your neighbour. It’s affected no one but the bin men and will probably make relations with your neighbour deteriorate even further and make your living situation more difficult

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Bumpyroads · 01/08/2026 20:15

The bin men are in trouble because they done wrong and got caught i didn't force them to park at the end of my drive. I am not responsible for their actions. It may not have directly affected the neighbout but he may have got a taste of how we have felt in the past.

Ok so this is going to be a long post, probably outing etc but i really need to explain we are not the bad people here.

This all started with the neighbour complained about our trees, we cut them every year, we are keen gardeners. Our garden is full but very well maintained we have won local awards for our garden. However it is not to the neighbours liking they would rather no plants (they have slabbed their whole garden)
This had to be we agree to disagree, we will prune them to a certain extent but we will not remove them because they drop leaves in their garden.

This started a sour relationship.

They make snidey comments about them working hard and us not so. Complained we had our curtains shut one day. Pointed out I had bird poo on my car. Called me fatty when i was pregnant. Lots and lots of little drips of comments over a few years to many to mention but you get the idea.

Things seems to change drastically when we got our pet chickens. 6 hens, large coop area, kept immaculately clean we spent a lot of money building a fox proof run for them etc. Quickly cleaned them every day, deep cleaned once a week, picked food up at night, shut them in at night, let them out 7am.
When next door asked us what we were building in the garden and we said a chicken coop she started swearing and shouting in the middle of the street. If she'd had expressed her concerns we would have shown them the coop, the research we'd done etc etc
They then complained the chickens were noisey, the seagulls/dogs/children around here are far noiser. They insisted we had a "male hen" infact we are not the only ones with chickens around here and I did hear a cockeral a few times but it wasn't ours.

We said we would keep them shut in later.

They then started playing the radio loudly at any given opportunity or whenever we were in the garden. This was so loud our other neighbours thought it was us.
They sucked any fun we had out of being in our garden, complained about the kids playing with next doors children out the front. Said our hedges were blocking their light (gardens are south facing and so hot and sunny its almost uncomfortable).
We garden all year and because we had just had a baby when the nights started drawing in we would sometimes go out there while baby slept around 5pm. It was dark but we enjoyed it. They didn't like it so flashed their flood light on and off every time we were out there to get us to go in.
They have banged on the wall when the baby cried. Said "well im not complaining about the baby.." whilst proceeding to complain about the chickens.
AGAIN music loudly all the time, but also the radio so loud you'd think there were builders there or something.
They then went on holiday and left their led disco lights on shining up at our bedroom this was intentional they rarely turn them on (they are bright the glow behind our blackout curtains was like someone had a huge TV on out there)
They were away for a week. During that time we rehomed the chickens we thought this would finally give us some peace. They got what they wanted. But no they have continued relentlessly.
They bitch about us to our mutual friends (neighbours), have security cameras pointing in both our front and back garden. We got bullied into giving up our pets and I refuse to be bullied anymore what gives them the right to dictate what we can and can't do.

So yes im at the end of my tether.

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Netcurtainnelly · 01/08/2026 20:08

YabbaDabbaDooooo · 30/07/2026 15:29

YABU if you didn't knock first and ask them to move because you need to get in/out.

Please tell me you did?

Shouldn't have too. They should park across a drive. It's a blocking offence. Would they like it done to the
More people need to redo their highway code and also like round when they park to see how they are situated.

03cg73 · 01/08/2026 19:31

Bumpyroads · 01/08/2026 13:11

To everyone that thinks its ok can you now go and park infront of your neighbours drive?
Or even better next time you're visiting a friend park infront of their neighbours drive.

According to mumsnet It's fine they know where you are and they can just come and ask you to move when they want to leave their own house.
Bet you wouldn't do it, I know i wouldn't.

I wouldn’t do it no, but I also wouldn’t have called and got the bin men into trouble because you were pissed off at your neighbour. especially when you didn’t even need to get out of your driveway.

I would have done what I assume most people would have done, had they actually needed to get out, and gone next door to knock and ask them to move the bin lorry

the postman regularly parks his van across driveways in my street. Should we all start calling and reporting him?

FrangipaniBlue · 01/08/2026 19:24

Bumpyroads · 30/07/2026 15:20

@Velvera if they weren't doing anything wrong they wouldn't get into trouble

So you got basically got some bin men in trouble just because you don’t like their work colleague?

You sound like a peach.

parkintrouble · 01/08/2026 19:11

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 01/08/2026 18:02

Where do you think they park when they're on a break? Plenty of times the bin lorry stops at the bottom of our road for 30 minutes. I just assume they're on their lunch break and wouldn't even think about reporting them. Although I don't know if they block any driveways.

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Ours go back to their depot

PrettyPickle · 01/08/2026 19:10

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 01/08/2026 18:02

Where do you think they park when they're on a break? Plenty of times the bin lorry stops at the bottom of our road for 30 minutes. I just assume they're on their lunch break and wouldn't even think about reporting them. Although I don't know if they block any driveways.

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She isn't bothered about them taking a break, she would have no way of knowing if it was authorised or not, she is complaining because, without any obvious and sensible reason, they have blocked her drive. More fool them if they are on an unauthorised break, you would have thought they would have been more considerate about their parking. They are the ones who made a decision to block her drive, there was likely no reason to block anyones drive, but if they had to, surely it should have been the people they were visiting? Had they been sat in the cab and someone wanted access they coudl have moved straight away but they were not.

Lets say the OP was out and she came home to find the bin lorry there, was she expected to run around the street to discover where the driver was? It doesn't make sense or reason and its unfair.

PrettyPickle · 01/08/2026 18:59

Wtafdidido · 01/08/2026 18:27

I think I understand why they dislike you. You seem to be going out of your way to shit stir, deliberately playing loud music, reporting bin men and Lorries that by your own admission were not inconveniencing you… things will only escalate from here. You should have just asked them to move it and tried to make peace with the neighbours. Depending where you live and the size of the gardens and proximity of the houses they may well have been disturbed by your chickens. What a good example you are setting your children teaching them that if you don’t get your way it’s ok to be a trouble maker

Sorry but you need to reread the OPs post. Its the neighbours that are playing the loud music, its the neighbours visitors that are blocking her drive so by your very reasoning, giving you have misunderstood, you are agreeing that the NEIGHBOURS are going out of the way to shit stir and not the OP.

Triskellion75 · 01/08/2026 18:49

Wtafdidido · 01/08/2026 18:27

I think I understand why they dislike you. You seem to be going out of your way to shit stir, deliberately playing loud music, reporting bin men and Lorries that by your own admission were not inconveniencing you… things will only escalate from here. You should have just asked them to move it and tried to make peace with the neighbours. Depending where you live and the size of the gardens and proximity of the houses they may well have been disturbed by your chickens. What a good example you are setting your children teaching them that if you don’t get your way it’s ok to be a trouble maker

The neighbours are the ones playing the loud music and OP rehomed the chickens after the neighbours complained.

Wtafdidido · 01/08/2026 18:27

I think I understand why they dislike you. You seem to be going out of your way to shit stir, deliberately playing loud music, reporting bin men and Lorries that by your own admission were not inconveniencing you… things will only escalate from here. You should have just asked them to move it and tried to make peace with the neighbours. Depending where you live and the size of the gardens and proximity of the houses they may well have been disturbed by your chickens. What a good example you are setting your children teaching them that if you don’t get your way it’s ok to be a trouble maker

PrettyPickle · 01/08/2026 18:17

EmeraldShamrock000 · 01/08/2026 12:11

Why didn’t she use her words and ask them to move. She took the time to make a call, take photographs but couldn’t simply ask, instead she caused a lot of trouble for these men, causing upset in the neighbourhood, most people have had an unauthorised tea break.
She is an entitled spiteful person.

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You are asking the wrong question. Why didn't the dustbin men use their brains or their words when they decided to park and block her drive when they could have easily "took the time" to picka free parking spot or blocked the drive where they were visiting. Instead they chose to create an issue and not the OP. Why couldn't they JUST have acted reasonably and there would never have been this situation.

And it wasn't like she was just out there taking photos, it was her ring bell that took the photos.

Knowing they were on an unauthorised tea break, they should have been more careful.

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 01/08/2026 18:02

parkintrouble · 01/08/2026 17:15

I'm surprised everyone's kicking the op here. I wouldnt want a huge stinking bin lorry on my road for any longer than it was supposed to be on the road for. And I expect most of the people here would feel the same if it was their road

I am also very certain they are not meant to deviate from their rounds

Where do you think they park when they're on a break? Plenty of times the bin lorry stops at the bottom of our road for 30 minutes. I just assume they're on their lunch break and wouldn't even think about reporting them. Although I don't know if they block any driveways.

Aligirlbear · 01/08/2026 17:52

But you haven’t done anything to your neighbour ….. you have complained about his mates. This will have zero impact on your neighbour other than him getting upset because they are his mates. He won’t lose his job / be disciplined or suffer any concequences so what exactly have you achieved other than the potential for your bins to be “missed”, your rubbish accidentally spilled on your drive , bin damaged ( which you will then have to pay for ).

I get it you are annoyed with your neighbour but in reality you have behaved like a stroppy teenager - you could have just asked them to move their lorry if you needed to get out like an adult - but you say you didn’t need to get out. For your 30 seconds of feeling like you got one over the neighbour in fact you haven’t and actually shown yourself to be as petty as them and yes they will know you complained because they will know which drive they blocked.

Triskellion75 · 01/08/2026 17:19

EmeraldShamrock000 · 01/08/2026 17:06

Victims? There are no victims in this situation. Everyone is so dramatic these days. It was an inconvenience at best.

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When I use the word 'victim' I'm thinking of the posts going on about the 'poor binmen'. They're really not.

parkintrouble · 01/08/2026 17:15

I'm surprised everyone's kicking the op here. I wouldnt want a huge stinking bin lorry on my road for any longer than it was supposed to be on the road for. And I expect most of the people here would feel the same if it was their road

I am also very certain they are not meant to deviate from their rounds

EmeraldShamrock000 · 01/08/2026 17:06

Triskellion75 · 01/08/2026 14:56

Maybe their manager will advise them to go back in time and not block someone's drive at the (likely) behest of their arsehole mate?

It's mystifying to me why anyone would think these bin men are in any way victims here.

Victims? There are no victims in this situation. Everyone is so dramatic these days. It was an inconvenience at best.

Triskellion75 · 01/08/2026 17:03

Bumpyroads · 01/08/2026 16:47

Haha husband what you doing on here?

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Honey, get the dinner on, I'm starving. 😆

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Bumpyroads · 01/08/2026 16:47

Triskellion75 · 01/08/2026 16:02

Oh no, you got me.

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Haha husband what you doing on here?

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Triskellion75 · 01/08/2026 16:02

RedRock41 · 01/08/2026 15:54

Are you OPs husband? ☎️

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Oh no, you got me.