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Aibu to have reported the dustbin lorry to the council?

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Bumpyroads · 30/07/2026 15:09

Bit of back story us and our next door neighbours quietly dislike each other. Nobody has really said anything but I know we both annoy each other from what is said about the street. They moan about us, things we do etc.

Recently they have been playing loud music in the garden at the weekends in a passive aggressive way. This started when they complained about our chickens being noisy ( we have rehomed the chickens because of this but thats another story) the reason I'm saying all of this is because in general I am just in a bad mood about our neighbours and don't know if this has tainted my reaction.

So next door neighbour is a bin man, he wasn't at work.
Bin lorry come and parks up across my drive . Workmen get out and go in neighbours house/garden for 40 minutes having a drink and break. All this time I was unable to get off or access my drive. There was a bin lorry parked unattended across it.

So husband rings to complain to the council. They were confused as on their tracker the lorry was supposedly elsewhere. They also agreed 40minutes was excessive but said they must have been emptying bins? No they were having a cuppa at my neighbours! Council are going to investigate, I suspect they were taking unauthorised breaks and turning the tracker off.. maybe.

Anyway the reason this has also annoyed me so much is our neighbours have lived hear 30+ years and act like they own the street. Complain about anything we do (leaves from our trees fall in their garden for example.) They are 60+ and set in their ways and we are a young family. Tbh I just dont think they like us, we normally don't rise to it and smile and wave etc. But this time I had had enough and complained.

Aibu? And have we just started ww3?

OP posts:
Triskellion75 · 02/08/2026 17:46

Pinkchickenwine · 02/08/2026 17:43

Judging by the way the story has changed a number of times, it wouldn’t be OP!

I mean the opening post, so different to the last post

The proclaiming that it was done just because they’ve parked across their drive, then it’s not the case!

She’s not really a reliable source of information!

All I know is, if I parked across a stranger's drive I wouldn't be surprised if they were pissed off. It's shitty.

Pinkchickenwine · 02/08/2026 17:43

Triskellion75 · 02/08/2026 17:40

Of the two, which is more likely do you think? The bin men who are the colleagues of the neighbour who hates her and who could have parked elsewhere, or keeping chickens which others in the neighbourhood were also doing?

Judging by the way the story has changed a number of times, it wouldn’t be OP!

I mean the opening post, so different to the last post

The proclaiming that it was done just because they’ve parked across their drive, then it’s not the case!

She’s not really a reliable source of information!

Triskellion75 · 02/08/2026 17:40

Pinkchickenwine · 02/08/2026 17:38

You think they parked across their drive for badness…. Are you ok?

Of the two, which is more likely do you think? The bin men who are the colleagues of the neighbour who hates her and who could have parked elsewhere, or keeping chickens which others in the neighbourhood were also doing?

Pinkchickenwine · 02/08/2026 17:38

Triskellion75 · 02/08/2026 17:35

You think she got chickens...for badness? Are you quite well?

You think they parked across their drive for badness…. Are you ok?

Triskellion75 · 02/08/2026 17:35

Pinkchickenwine · 02/08/2026 17:33

She did get rid of the chickens, quite rightly! Cannot understand what made her get them in the first place, badness?

You think she got chickens...for badness? Are you quite well?

Pinkchickenwine · 02/08/2026 17:33

Triskellion75 · 02/08/2026 17:32

So what if it's not massive? They dumped their stupid big truck across her drive for badness, it's shitty behaviour no matter how you look at it.

And she got rid of the chickens after they complained.

She did get rid of the chickens, quite rightly! Cannot understand what made her get them in the first place, badness?

Triskellion75 · 02/08/2026 17:32

Pinkchickenwine · 02/08/2026 17:23

Oh yeah such a massive offence! I mean they should’ve called the police…

I think OP has brought more trouble on herself…. like the chickens and the plants growing on the neighbours side.

Neighbourly relations are not going to improve are they! It was reported as retaliation, looking at last update by OP. That most is a mile away from the first post where they “annoy each other”.

So what if it's not massive? They dumped their stupid big truck across her drive for badness, it's shitty behaviour no matter how you look at it.

And she got rid of the chickens after they complained.

Pinkchickenwine · 02/08/2026 17:23

Triskellion75 · 02/08/2026 16:19

They made trouble for themselves by parking across someone's drive which is an actual offence. It's on them.

Oh yeah such a massive offence! I mean they should’ve called the police…

I think OP has brought more trouble on herself…. like the chickens and the plants growing on the neighbours side.

Neighbourly relations are not going to improve are they! It was reported as retaliation, looking at last update by OP. That most is a mile away from the first post where they “annoy each other”.

Triskellion75 · 02/08/2026 16:19

Pinkchickenwine · 02/08/2026 16:05

they were next door, they are their friends so by default she wanted to cause trouble for them. I tho k you’d notice a bin lorry next door. If they were down the road and in someone else’s home, then yes it would’ve been a non issue.

They made trouble for themselves by parking across someone's drive which is an actual offence. It's on them.

Pinkchickenwine · 02/08/2026 16:05

Triskellion75 · 02/08/2026 15:24

I'd be surprised if she even noticed if they were parked down the street, although she'd need to confirm that herself. Parked across her drive is harder to ignore.

they were next door, they are their friends so by default she wanted to cause trouble for them. I tho k you’d notice a bin lorry next door. If they were down the road and in someone else’s home, then yes it would’ve been a non issue.

Hayfield123 · 02/08/2026 15:48

Bumpyroads · 30/07/2026 15:53

I think my point is they have been petty about countless things with us and I finally broke and was petty back.

No you wasn’t petty you were out and out nasty. You have potentially put their jobs at risk because they are friends with your neighbour who you don’t like. Good job I’m not your neighbour because I’d be making your life very miserable from now on.

Triskellion75 · 02/08/2026 15:24

Pinkchickenwine · 02/08/2026 15:14

Oh I think a complaint still would’ve gone in, because they shouldn’t have been on a break then! Abd after all OP would be saving the council tax payers money!

I'd be surprised if she even noticed if they were parked down the street, although she'd need to confirm that herself. Parked across her drive is harder to ignore.

Pinkchickenwine · 02/08/2026 15:14

Triskellion75 · 02/08/2026 14:39

That's not the point though is it, if they hadn't blocked someone's drive no one would be any the wiser.

Oh I think a complaint still would’ve gone in, because they shouldn’t have been on a break then! Abd after all OP would be saving the council tax payers money!

Triskellion75 · 02/08/2026 14:39

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 02/08/2026 14:32

Are you seriously saying you've never taken an extra break? Or had 10 minutes when you shouldn't? I think most people have.

That's not the point though is it, if they hadn't blocked someone's drive no one would be any the wiser.

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 02/08/2026 14:32

PrettyPickle · 02/08/2026 14:17

And if they hadn't be doing anything wrong by parking in front of her house in the first place then they would have nothing to worry about. She did not report them for being on an unauthorised break, her husband reported them for blocking their drive, which is a fair shout. If they were taking an unauthorised break, all the more reason they should have parked considerately. Not the OPs fault

Are you seriously saying you've never taken an extra break? Or had 10 minutes when you shouldn't? I think most people have.

PrettyPickle · 02/08/2026 14:17

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 02/08/2026 13:15

But I bet she wouldn't have complained if she got on with her neighbour. It's just pathetic. OP said she did because she doesn't like her neighbour but her complaining didn't affect the neighbour.
Also sounds like the tracker wasn't working as you can't just disconnect them. Bin men can take their lunch break when they want (well I assume they can)so we don't know if it was an unauthorized break.

And if they hadn't be doing anything wrong by parking in front of her house in the first place then they would have nothing to worry about. She did not report them for being on an unauthorised break, her husband reported them for blocking their drive, which is a fair shout. If they were taking an unauthorised break, all the more reason they should have parked considerately. Not the OPs fault

PrettyPickle · 02/08/2026 13:30

EmmaM84 · 02/08/2026 13:07

Uuuugh as someone who works with the council, youd be surprised how often we are weaponised against neighbour disputes. Your neighbour won't get in trouble as he wasnt working, all youve done is potentially get the hard worked on shift bin workers disciplined for having a sneaky cup of tea for your own personal agenda against your neighbour. Grim and petty.

If the dustbin men hadn't been doing something wrong in the first place, then they couldn't have been "weaponised" could they. and I would like to point out that this dustbin man is the neighbour who started it all and is the problem, the issue is that the OP is now putting boundaries in place which is the right thing to do.

I don't get why people are blaming the OP here when the neighbours are the aggressors.

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 02/08/2026 13:15

PrettyPickle · 02/08/2026 11:57

No because they blocked her drive which was unreasonable, if they had to block anyones (and basically they could have found a proper parking spot and used their legs), it should have been the people they were visiting.

But I bet she wouldn't have complained if she got on with her neighbour. It's just pathetic. OP said she did because she doesn't like her neighbour but her complaining didn't affect the neighbour.
Also sounds like the tracker wasn't working as you can't just disconnect them. Bin men can take their lunch break when they want (well I assume they can)so we don't know if it was an unauthorized break.

EmmaM84 · 02/08/2026 13:07

Uuuugh as someone who works with the council, youd be surprised how often we are weaponised against neighbour disputes. Your neighbour won't get in trouble as he wasnt working, all youve done is potentially get the hard worked on shift bin workers disciplined for having a sneaky cup of tea for your own personal agenda against your neighbour. Grim and petty.

Northernladdette · 02/08/2026 12:58

When I lived in a previous house, our next door neighbour wasn’t too chuffed about a van being parked outside his house, a friend of my daughter. He phoned the number on the side of the van and reported him for not being at work! 😳

PrettyPickle · 02/08/2026 11:57

FrangipaniBlue · 01/08/2026 19:24

So you got basically got some bin men in trouble just because you don’t like their work colleague?

You sound like a peach.

No because they blocked her drive which was unreasonable, if they had to block anyones (and basically they could have found a proper parking spot and used their legs), it should have been the people they were visiting.

PrettyPickle · 02/08/2026 11:55

adragoncalledaudrey · 01/08/2026 21:47

All I’m hearing is but but but I’m justified.

I do wonder about drip feeds (or tsunami feeds) sometimes. It smacks of trying to come up with an excuse for an action in a lot of cases I find.

Again, the ire has not been taken to the object of the ire but has been slapped on to others.

I don’t think there is justification for that. No matter what one says/comes up with.

The bin men decided to tke an unauthorised tea break - their choice the OP did not know this. They weren't discreet, they chose to block an innocent third parties drive when they could have used their legs and found a lawful parking spot elsewhere or, here's a thought, parked in front of the drive of the house they were visiting! They did not, they were thoughtless and inconsiderate and more importantly not exactly going under the radar for the break.

So what if the OP had some home and couldn't get in her drive, what did you expect her to do, run around the neighbourhood trying to find out where they were?

What gets me is that people are framing it that she was unreasonable for not speaking to them, and not the right way which is why they were so unreasonable by parking across her drive in the first place???

It sounds to me like the OP has tried to be conciliatory in the past and it has got her nowhere, as it continued so she needs to set boundaries. People who throw stones (the neighbours) shouldn't live in glass houses and they can either learn from their mistake or sadly continue,

Pinkchickenwine · 02/08/2026 11:00

NeededANameChangeAnyway · 02/08/2026 09:29

The bin men got into trouble because they were doing something they shouldn't have been doing how is the OP getting grief for this?! If the bin men hadn't parked over her drive she wouldn't have complained.

True, but the driver for the complaint was the neighbour not the fact they were parked over the drive,

First OP denied that, then a huge drip feed and admitted it’s exactly why she complained.

Honestly, carrying bitterness like this helps no one.

ExtraOnions · 02/08/2026 10:44

How big are these garden ? So much in them it’s sounds like you are living at Chatsworth.

Dependent on the size of the gardens, I wouldn’t like a chicken coop next door - I would be worried about it attracting rats (again caveat being I don’t know the make up of the garden)

Your trees dropping leaves in their side - I think you probably should have trimmed it back, or cleaned the leaves up.

like the others, not sure how reporting the bin wagon was aimed at the neighbours.

Lifelover16 · 02/08/2026 10:36

NeededANameChangeAnyway · 02/08/2026 09:29

The bin men got into trouble because they were doing something they shouldn't have been doing how is the OP getting grief for this?! If the bin men hadn't parked over her drive she wouldn't have complained.

She has said she wasn’t going out.
Yes it was rude of the binmen.
She could have just asked them to move.
One of the binmen lives nest door, and on the other side is the father of one of the binmen.
Reporting them to the council will aggravate neighbours on both sides, and make OPs life even more difficult

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