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Aibu to have reported the dustbin lorry to the council?

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Bumpyroads · 30/07/2026 15:09

Bit of back story us and our next door neighbours quietly dislike each other. Nobody has really said anything but I know we both annoy each other from what is said about the street. They moan about us, things we do etc.

Recently they have been playing loud music in the garden at the weekends in a passive aggressive way. This started when they complained about our chickens being noisy ( we have rehomed the chickens because of this but thats another story) the reason I'm saying all of this is because in general I am just in a bad mood about our neighbours and don't know if this has tainted my reaction.

So next door neighbour is a bin man, he wasn't at work.
Bin lorry come and parks up across my drive . Workmen get out and go in neighbours house/garden for 40 minutes having a drink and break. All this time I was unable to get off or access my drive. There was a bin lorry parked unattended across it.

So husband rings to complain to the council. They were confused as on their tracker the lorry was supposedly elsewhere. They also agreed 40minutes was excessive but said they must have been emptying bins? No they were having a cuppa at my neighbours! Council are going to investigate, I suspect they were taking unauthorised breaks and turning the tracker off.. maybe.

Anyway the reason this has also annoyed me so much is our neighbours have lived hear 30+ years and act like they own the street. Complain about anything we do (leaves from our trees fall in their garden for example.) They are 60+ and set in their ways and we are a young family. Tbh I just dont think they like us, we normally don't rise to it and smile and wave etc. But this time I had had enough and complained.

Aibu? And have we just started ww3?

OP posts:
SurferRona · 30/07/2026 16:57

Bumpyroads · 30/07/2026 16:46

Almost the same as us. Been here five years. First few years trying to keep it civil now there really is no point they've done numerous to us now and i think im just really fed up. They are just so entitled because they have lived here so long. Thinking they can dictate what we can and cant do etc.

Tell us more please, ‘done numerous to us’ and ‘they can dictate what we can and can’t do’

But yes, I can’t see why what you’ve done will inconvenience your neighbours, it will inconvenience some hardworking refuse workers at a time when their physically demanding service they provide to you is hardest. Please come back and tell us how you bin emptying goes over coming weeks 😁

Are you a little hard of thinking? 😁

CaptainMyCaptain · 30/07/2026 16:55

MargaretMeldrew · 30/07/2026 16:49

Yeah, this struck me too. I’ll be 60 in a few months. Time to start pissing off the neighbours for no good reason, seeing as how I’m so stuck in my ways. Don’t want to disappoint them😆

Strangely, I have never had any trouble from elderly neighbours and now that I am over 70 I haven't started going round annoying people.

2dogsandabudgie · 30/07/2026 16:55

Velvera · 30/07/2026 15:20

I doubt your bin will get emptied for a few weeks now. They might just forget to empty it.

They can't do that. If a bin isn't collected, unless there's a valid reason the bin men have to come back the next working day to empty it. They do in my area anyway, I've had to report a missed bin collection.

yetnothername · 30/07/2026 16:55

Bumpyroads · 30/07/2026 16:06

Ok so scrap the bit about the age I apologise I was just trying to explain we have different lifestyles. In the future I will be more mindful as I understand now it was irrelevant. Once again I apologise if I offended anyone.

Once again I apologise if I offended anyone.

An apology is only sincere when you recognise you have offended someone. The word if suggests otherwise.

NotOnYourEllie · 30/07/2026 16:52

Bumpyroads · 30/07/2026 16:46

Almost the same as us. Been here five years. First few years trying to keep it civil now there really is no point they've done numerous to us now and i think im just really fed up. They are just so entitled because they have lived here so long. Thinking they can dictate what we can and cant do etc.

I'm sure you feel fed up and wanted to push back. But actually, would being direct rather than reporting him to the council for something which had no affect on you at all, have been a better move?

Notquitethetruth · 30/07/2026 16:50

Zimunya · 30/07/2026 16:21

Thank goodness for your post, @BirdLandedonmyHead - I was beginning to wonder if I was in a parallel universe here!

OP, you have done nothing wrong in reporting people who were blocking your drive.

Well.said. There's a lot of hypocrisy from some, along with the pile on. The parking of the bin lorry seems deliberate and vindictive. Almost as if it was planned in advance.

@Bumpyroads has acknowledged she may have overreacted but given the drip, drip of passive aggressiveness from her neighbour she had probably finally reached her breaking point.
How many were in the bin crew OP? Glad to see that so many on here have no problem with a bin crew taking a 40 minute break during their working day. A break which was clearly not legit, given their depots response. An unscheduled break which was subsidised directly through the already very expensive council tax.

Thr33lions · 30/07/2026 16:50

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 30/07/2026 16:47

The majority - 67% by vote at the time of typing - say she's not being unreasonable, though.

Edited

The replies say differently as someone else has pointed out upthread

MargaretMeldrew · 30/07/2026 16:49

CurlewKate · 30/07/2026 15:25

Oh-they’re 60+? They’re definitely in the wrong then.

Yeah, this struck me too. I’ll be 60 in a few months. Time to start pissing off the neighbours for no good reason, seeing as how I’m so stuck in my ways. Don’t want to disappoint them😆

Whosthetabbynow · 30/07/2026 16:48

No point being petty. You don’t like each other. Leave it at that. I wouldn’t have grassed up the bin men. They’re not the ones you’ve got the beef with.

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 30/07/2026 16:47

Thr33lions · 30/07/2026 16:44

I don’t get why you’ve posted on “am I being unreasonable” if you’re just going to argue against the majority who are telling you you are? why do you need other people’s opinions if you’re confident you’ve done the right thing?

If I was you I’d be crossing my fingers and toes next time you do something that irritates them, as you may find that results in your own workplace(es) getting a call. That’s exactly how these things escalate.

The majority - 67% by vote at the time of typing - say she's not being unreasonable, though.

Bumpyroads · 30/07/2026 16:46

ItsFreakingHot · 30/07/2026 16:39

Nah op I don't blame you they seem like entitled cunts.
They kind of sound like our elderly neighbours actually, seem to think they own the street, always curtain twitching and gossiping but they can do whatever they like.
We tiptoed around them for 3 years until they started chatting shit about us, I gave it back (petty but satisfying) and they've backed off and idgaf now.. She doesn't knock our door anymore. Grin
Irrelevant but anyway, yes if someone blocked my driveway for 40 minutes I would have also complained yanbu.

Almost the same as us. Been here five years. First few years trying to keep it civil now there really is no point they've done numerous to us now and i think im just really fed up. They are just so entitled because they have lived here so long. Thinking they can dictate what we can and cant do etc.

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NotOnYourEllie · 30/07/2026 16:46

I think you may have started a bigger conflict, completely unnecessarily, with someone who lives right next door and already didn't like you.

Quite silly I think.

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 30/07/2026 16:45

BirdLandedonmyHead · 30/07/2026 16:40

So if there had been an emergency, the OP shluld go and knock on the door of an antagonistic neighbour, just so she could leave her house?

Yeah, that's the option isn't it? I had a Severn Trent van parked at the end of my drive for 2 hours the other evening. If I'd wanted to go out, I'd have had to find the workmen and ask them to shift. This is just something that happens from time to time, an everyday frustration. I don't have an axe to grind with anyone who works for Severn Trent luckily for them...

Thr33lions · 30/07/2026 16:44

Bumpyroads · 30/07/2026 16:33

Its happened more than once and I didn't want it happening again when I actually did need to go out or come home.
They parked there because my neighbour will have said its ok. They could have parked infront of his house but wouldn't of because this wife would have needed to use the drive when she came home from work.

I shouldn't have to go and ask them. Hey could have knocked and explained that might have made it slightly more acceptable.

I don’t get why you’ve posted on “am I being unreasonable” if you’re just going to argue against the majority who are telling you you are? why do you need other people’s opinions if you’re confident you’ve done the right thing?

If I was you I’d be crossing my fingers and toes next time you do something that irritates them, as you may find that results in your own workplace(es) getting a call. That’s exactly how these things escalate.

BirdLandedonmyHead · 30/07/2026 16:40

So if there had been an emergency, the OP shluld go and knock on the door of an antagonistic neighbour, just so she could leave her house?

Sam9769 · 30/07/2026 16:40

Bumpyroads · 30/07/2026 16:23

This was my point as well. It was assumed I knew where they were.
They were also blocking my other neighbours drive and they definitely wouldn't have known where they were

Their assumption was correct! You did know where they were.
You were being small minded, petty and spiteful and it will come back to bite you in the arse!

ItsFreakingHot · 30/07/2026 16:39

Nah op I don't blame you they seem like entitled cunts.
They kind of sound like our elderly neighbours actually, seem to think they own the street, always curtain twitching and gossiping but they can do whatever they like.
We tiptoed around them for 3 years until they started chatting shit about us, I gave it back (petty but satisfying) and they've backed off and idgaf now.. She doesn't knock our door anymore. Grin
Irrelevant but anyway, yes if someone blocked my driveway for 40 minutes I would have also complained yanbu.

CaptainMyCaptain · 30/07/2026 16:38

Bumpyroads · 30/07/2026 16:36

They could have parked a few meters further up the road where there are no houses. My guess is they didn't because they are not supposed to leave the lorry unattended parked in the road.

So not deliberately to annoy you then.

OvernightBloats · 30/07/2026 16:38

You should have asked them to move and not have chosen the nuclear option of phoning their workplace.

Don't be surprised if your neighbours retaliate. What you did was spiteful.

Hopefulsalmon · 30/07/2026 16:37

I think you've been really petty.

Bumpyroads · 30/07/2026 16:36

They could have parked a few meters further up the road where there are no houses. My guess is they didn't because they are not supposed to leave the lorry unattended parked in the road.

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Sam9769 · 30/07/2026 16:36

Bumpyroads · 30/07/2026 15:29

Council said that the lorry was supposedly to be at a school at that time. We have pictures and also it arriving and leaving on our ring door bell.
Only reason I mentioned ages as I dont understand why they dislike us so much and can only think of the difference in lifestyle and that we have found children. Sorry if you found it irrelevant.

"I don't understand why they dislike us so much ".

Well at least you now know one reason why they dislike you so much.
The positioning of the lorry didn't inconvenience you on this occasion so you should have left them to it and minded your own business.
I think I understand why you are disliked even if you don't see it!

Greenjersey · 30/07/2026 16:35

Hope you're not planning to sell your house any time soon, as you have now formalised a once petty dispute between you and your neighbours. Would it have occurred to you to report if if your neighbour did any other job? I think not

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 30/07/2026 16:34

CaptainMyCaptain · 30/07/2026 16:24

Did you ask the builder to move? I have had tradesmen's vans block me in (bottom of a cul de sac) but they always move when asked.

@CaptainMyCaptain Did you miss where I said I rang the number on the van but got no answer and with 93 flats it would take ages to knock on the door of every single one to find out where the builder is?

Regardless, why should I have to? There were dozens of spaces. There's no need to block people in. He was still there when I got back three hours later, he wasn't just dropping something off quickly then going.

Bumpyroads · 30/07/2026 16:33

Its happened more than once and I didn't want it happening again when I actually did need to go out or come home.
They parked there because my neighbour will have said its ok. They could have parked infront of his house but wouldn't of because this wife would have needed to use the drive when she came home from work.

I shouldn't have to go and ask them. Hey could have knocked and explained that might have made it slightly more acceptable.

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