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I can’t stop buying books!

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cantstopbuyingbooks · 30/07/2026 14:43

Help!

I picked up a huge stack in Asda for my holiday, which I then started to read.

Then I got some more on Amazon, which I’ve broken into.

Then I got even more in Asda today! I just can’t help myself! I’ve read five in five days!

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NotOnYourEllie · 01/08/2026 10:52

I am not on my high horse about your shopping or reading habits. They aren't ideal, but I'm sure there are worse things. What I dislike is you making a thread about it and then digging your heels in, and taking cheap shots at people who reasonably dislike your thread. "Oh, single handedly responsible for climate change am I?" when you know perfectly well nobody had suggested any such thing. "Oh on your high horse are you?" which is just a cheap dig, because you either don't have, or don't want to say, anything more intelligent.

Anyway, you seem to be completely resistant to hearing anything negative about your reading and shopping habits. So I assume this was a thread you wanted only positive responses to. Sorry I cannot provide that for you, but that is because I find the whole thread pretty disgusting.

You are not a bad person or single handedly responsible for climate change, but your thread is in really bad taste.

declutteringonedayatatime · 01/08/2026 10:49

cantstopbuyingbooks · 01/08/2026 10:34

Oh how life must be, up on that high horse

That is the unfortunate side to this website.

cantstopbuyingbooks · 01/08/2026 10:34

NotOnYourEllie · 01/08/2026 08:18

I also adore reading but if ever find myself buying them in large numbers, especially when not secondhand, I have a word with myself. I wouldn't be thrilled with it and so proud that I felt the need to start a thread telling a bunch of strangers. I am absolutely astonished that you are.

Have you any idea what goes into producing those books and the state the planet is in already? Before you start again 🙄, no, you are not "single handedly" responsible for climate change and I never suggested you were, but your thread is disgusting tbh. And the people enabling overconsumption (eg Tiktok reels which say things like "I'm just a girl who loves books - oopsie, accidentally bought 25 books instead of one" are really no better than people doing the same thing with clothes. And the books you buy sound a little bit like the fast fashiom of the book world. They are churned out at breakneck speed to be "devoured" in your words at breakneck speed. Pointing that out is not intellectual snobbery or gatekeeping.

I don't think any of this makes you a bad person or the worst polluter ever, but I also dislike the premise of this thread.

You don't give a hoot though. You are so pleased with yourself it is unreal.

Oh how life must be, up on that high horse

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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 01/08/2026 08:24

I can easily get through 4-5 in a week, but they’re mostly the 99p jobs on my Kindle. But I do also get a few from the library and charity shops. Now and then I donate a pile to our local National Trust site’s bookshop, or back to a charity shop.

Dh OTOH is always buying books - full price and usually heavy non fiction, but he’s a very slow reader (but takes it all in) so as I’ve often said, even if he lives to 105, I doubt he’ll ever get through his To Be Read pile.

NotOnYourEllie · 01/08/2026 08:18

cantstopbuyingbooks · 31/07/2026 23:04

Yes, I absolutely adore reading? Is that okay?

I also adore reading but if ever find myself buying them in large numbers, especially when not secondhand, I have a word with myself. I wouldn't be thrilled with it and so proud that I felt the need to start a thread telling a bunch of strangers. I am absolutely astonished that you are.

Have you any idea what goes into producing those books and the state the planet is in already? Before you start again 🙄, no, you are not "single handedly" responsible for climate change and I never suggested you were, but your thread is disgusting tbh. And the people enabling overconsumption (eg Tiktok reels which say things like "I'm just a girl who loves books - oopsie, accidentally bought 25 books instead of one" are really no better than people doing the same thing with clothes. And the books you buy sound a little bit like the fast fashiom of the book world. They are churned out at breakneck speed to be "devoured" in your words at breakneck speed. Pointing that out is not intellectual snobbery or gatekeeping.

I don't think any of this makes you a bad person or the worst polluter ever, but I also dislike the premise of this thread.

You don't give a hoot though. You are so pleased with yourself it is unreal.

Bjorkdidit · 01/08/2026 04:09

StressedStudentPara · 31/07/2026 21:28

Check your gp practice, mine has a giant bookshelf which is regularly restocked with donations, 50p per book!

Supermarkets and other public places often have book swap or charity shelves, usually outside the tills, so another place to look for free/cheap second hand books as well as to donate ones you've read that you don’t want to keep. So a few options if you've the time and inclination to browse.

Also in old phone boxes and Little Free Libraries

declutteringonedayatatime · 31/07/2026 23:37

cantstopbuyingbooks · 31/07/2026 23:03

I’ll take a look!

Dangerous territory.. watch out lol. Joking aside, you can sometimes find an unexpected gem on those shelves.

cantstopbuyingbooks · 31/07/2026 23:04

NotOnYourEllie · 31/07/2026 21:47

Buying 18 books in one week and "not being able to help yourself", "buying a stack at Asda and then a stack at Amazon - I just can't help myself" sounds like a cry for help tbh.

You started a thread saying "I can't stop buying books" and I actually opened it thinking you may have a shopping addiction and wanted to stop buying so many, but that is so far from the case. You're absolutely thrilled with it!

Yes, I absolutely adore reading? Is that okay?

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cantstopbuyingbooks · 31/07/2026 23:03

StressedStudentPara · 31/07/2026 21:28

Check your gp practice, mine has a giant bookshelf which is regularly restocked with donations, 50p per book!

I’ll take a look!

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NotOnYourEllie · 31/07/2026 21:47

cantstopbuyingbooks · 31/07/2026 20:31

How can you consume books excessively?

Buying 18 books in one week and "not being able to help yourself", "buying a stack at Asda and then a stack at Amazon - I just can't help myself" sounds like a cry for help tbh.

You started a thread saying "I can't stop buying books" and I actually opened it thinking you may have a shopping addiction and wanted to stop buying so many, but that is so far from the case. You're absolutely thrilled with it!

StressedStudentPara · 31/07/2026 21:28

Check your gp practice, mine has a giant bookshelf which is regularly restocked with donations, 50p per book!

cantstopbuyingbooks · 31/07/2026 21:23

LadyBeatriceBeaHiggins · 31/07/2026 21:20

speed reading through them rather than a steady pace ?

But surely a steady pace is defined differently for everyone? My steady pace is a lot faster than a lot of people’s, but I’ve always read fast - even as a young child. I was ready the Harry Potter books in a day, my mum always commented on it. I read a book in an evening last night and can still tell you exactly what happened.

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LadyBeatriceBeaHiggins · 31/07/2026 21:20

cantstopbuyingbooks · 31/07/2026 20:31

How can you consume books excessively?

speed reading through them rather than a steady pace ?

cantstopbuyingbooks · 31/07/2026 20:31

NotOnYourEllie · 31/07/2026 17:05

Overconsumption is just consuming something excessively. It has nothing to do with whether or not you read the books, although it is certainly better that you do.

If you are an overconsumer of alcohol for example, the issue is not that you forget to drink the alcohol.

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How can you consume books excessively?

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Lilyhatesjaz · 31/07/2026 19:52

I had to get a Kindle as I have no more space, I must have at least 200 on my bookcase and another 50 on my kindle.
I keep an eye out for any authors I like having books go to 99p.
I also like the kindle as my eye sight is poor and I can make the print big.
I find it very difficult to get rid of books I have read as I get attached to them, I have recently though managed to put some on the donation shelf at tescos.

Seacatt · 31/07/2026 18:54

I have always loved reading too!
It is such wonderful escapism, transporting you to another world.
Many was the time I would read all night as a teenager as I coudn't put the book down!
I love reading on the bus too.

NotOnYourEllie · 31/07/2026 17:05

cantstopbuyingbooks · 31/07/2026 17:01

Overconsumption is buying more than you can consume. I’m not doing that.

Overconsumption is just consuming something excessively. It has nothing to do with whether or not you read the books, although it is certainly better that you do.

If you are an overconsumer of alcohol for example, the issue is not that you forget to drink the alcohol.

SpunkyKhakiScroller · 31/07/2026 17:01

BauhausOfEliott · 31/07/2026 16:15

If she wanted to reduce her impact on the environment, she could reuse more by buying secondhand

Worth noting that buying secondhand doesn't support authors or the publishing industry, though. I do buy a few books secondhand but I buy most of my books new because I think authors ought to be paid for what they write and the publishing industry needs to stay afloat. And yes, obviously there are a small number of bestselling authors who make huge sums of money, and Lee Child really won't notice if someone buys the latest Reacher from Oxfam, but the money that publishers make from authors like him means they can continue to publish the authors who make them a lot less.

So, there are pros and cons to all approaches, and for that reason it's probably best to let people read however, and whatever, they choose instead of picking holes in their choices.

This is a good point and the reason I always prefer libraries to secondhand because authors receive a payment each time their books are borrowed. But the OP doesn't have a good local library and prefers to browse, which is tricky with a digital library.

For me, my impact on the environment is more important than my impact on the publishing industry. So I prefer secondhand to new when I buy. And when I buy new, I try to buy from independent bookshops as keeping them going is more important to me than adding to the coffers of giant conglomerates.

Others may have different priorities as is absolutely their right. I wish the OP joy with whatever she chooses to read, however and wherever she chooses to get it from.

Like a PP, I thought this thread was about discussing book buying and different approaches to it. It seems I was wrong so I will go back to reading my book!

cantstopbuyingbooks · 31/07/2026 17:01

NotOnYourEllie · 31/07/2026 17:00

I think you are willfully missing the nuance here. You did the same thing earlier. I am sure that with your education, you are more than capable of understanding the difference between disliking a thread which celebrates overconsumption and accusing someone of single handedly causing climate change. Just as I am sure you can appreciate the difference between not liking a thread which appears to be celebrating overconsumption and someone bullying someone for their choice of reading materials.

If you do not wish to have a reasonable conversation about it, that's fine with me.

Overconsumption is buying more than you can consume. I’m not doing that.

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NotOnYourEllie · 31/07/2026 17:00

cantstopbuyingbooks · 31/07/2026 16:47

Yes, I have singlehandedly caused both the climate and cost of living crises by buying checks notes gay hockey smut stories

I think you are willfully missing the nuance here. You did the same thing earlier. I am sure that with your education, you are more than capable of understanding the difference between disliking a thread which celebrates overconsumption and accusing someone of single handedly causing climate change. Just as I am sure you can appreciate the difference between not liking a thread which appears to be celebrating overconsumption and someone bullying someone for their choice of reading materials.

If you do not wish to have a reasonable conversation about it, that's fine with me.

NotOnYourEllie · 31/07/2026 16:49

cantstopbuyingbooks · 31/07/2026 16:45

Christ, you seem lovely.

I mean...I hope I am not especially unlovely, I just think the whole premise of this thread is a bit...off. I haven't made any comments about you as a person, and I never would, as I am sure you really are a decent person. Or if you were not, I certainly wouldn't expect to know that based off your posts on Mumsnet 🤷‍♀️

SingForYourDinner · 31/07/2026 16:48

BauhausOfEliott · 31/07/2026 16:29

I only mentioned I was an English lit graduate because another poster, one apparently also very keen to gatekeep reading and shit on other people's reading choices, was implying that I 'would benefit' from reading books that were more highbrow. I think some (most?) of her posts have been deleted though.

You seem to be taking a lighthearted, cheerful thread with an astonishing degree of seriousness.

The fact that there is a cost of living crisis doesn't mean that nobody is allowed to talk about things they spend money on. Moreover, the cost of living crisis isn't going to be solved by people not spending money they can easily afford to spend.

Do you pop up on all the threads about holidays to tell people they're tone-deaf for going on holiday because holidays aren't necessary and some people can't afford them so they shouldn't mention them?

Let's face it: the only reason people are being chippy with the OP here is because she's buying easy, popular fiction for fun. If she'd posted to say she'd just bought the Booker longlist, nobody would be sneering and replying with sanctimonious snark about over-consumption or bringing up the cost of living crisis.

Actually the Booker shortlist this year isn't particularly heavy duty, at least not the ones I've read -- there's a sci-fi novel about the earth having been invalded by aliens called the iGhetti, a plotty, violent gangland debut, a slim, black-comic novel about two friends in London, another undemanding Elizabeth Strout instalment.

cantstopbuyingbooks · 31/07/2026 16:47

NotOnYourEllie · 31/07/2026 16:16

Well, tbh, this isn't a case of wanting to be left alone to enjoy her book is it? It isn't as if i have walked up to her on the street or in Asda and said "HEY, READ FLAUBERT!!",, (although being a French grad myself I would love people to do that. Since we are broadcasting our degrees on here apparently...).

She posted a thread on a public forum saying she "cannot stop buying books". For what? For comment or was it just so people could all say "me too omg babes, cheap paperbacks all the way!!"?

Since I did joint honours with political science being the other half of my degree (since we are using our credentials on here you understand being an english lit grad), it has not escaped my notice that there is a cost of living crisis along with the climate crisis. Sticking a post on here gleefully advertising how you cannot stop buying anything, but not actually wishing to change that, is...to use modern parlance...a choice.

So yeah, good grief to you too

Yes, I have singlehandedly caused both the climate and cost of living crises by buying checks notes gay hockey smut stories

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cantstopbuyingbooks · 31/07/2026 16:45

NotOnYourEllie · 31/07/2026 15:59

Well that would not be overconsumption would it? If you aren't consuming anything.

Being truly unable to stop buying anything is actually not the cutesy character quirk social media tells us it is. Being unable to stop buying means you have a shopping addiction. It being to books doesn't make it healthy.

As pp pointed out, books are especially easy to avoid buying first hand and you would still get to read them. Secondhand book shops if you don't have a library or even Amazon secondhand or World Of Books or wherever. Also, if you rattle through a lot of Asda paperbacks, maybe read something a bit harder going and you might find you don't rattle through them at breakneck speed.

Anyway, I'm not sure what this thread is for unless it is a tiktok style teehee I'm just a girl who luuuurves books shtick.

Christ, you seem lovely.

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rc22 · 31/07/2026 16:37

If you can afford them and you manage to read them all it's not really a problem. My local library doesn't have a great range of books but I've ordered some newer books from them and they eventually get them for me.