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To be a bit cheesed off by this window display?

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Utterlybananas333 · 29/07/2026 23:34

Saw this on the high road today. My daughter asked what it meant bless her. The rest of the display on the other side included cross dressing obscene mannequins who had large breasts and moustaches etc. This was a charity shop that supports homelessness.

To be a bit cheesed off by this window display?
To be a bit cheesed off by this window display?
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Solentseeker · 02/08/2026 04:05

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 01/08/2026 11:33

Which is the acceptance of men into women's sports, women's changing rooms, women's prisons, girls school toilets etc etc. Because transwomen are in fact men.

Women on the whole accept transwomen as transwomen, and are happy to leave them alone if they will accord us the same courtesy. That is not the same as accepting that they are actual women, any more then we accept that adult males are two-year-old females who wear nappies and suck dummies, or dogs, or glass teapots.

We generally don't accept six-year-old girls as ponies or six-year-old boys as dinosaurs, either, once some immediate game has ended; we don't feed the girls hay and bed them down in a stable, nor do for the boys whatever a tyrannosaurus rex requires for its bedtime routine.

This is where the trans movement has gone wrong. I know plenty of transwoman who know full well they remain men. They compete in men’s sports under their female name and are wholeheartedly accepted because they respect women enough to stay out. They use male changing rooms and are accepted wholeheartedly as they respect women enough to stay out.

Respect and acceptance goes two ways.

Solentseeker · 02/08/2026 04:01

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 01/08/2026 09:28

People with DSDs (formerly known as intersex) are still either male or female.
There is no third sex.

This exactly. I can imagine your daughter failing A level biology in the future if she believes any of this nonsense so best to explain scientific reality.

AgedPudding · 02/08/2026 01:13

and how do you know if it is a trans person or not by looking?

It's really obvious. Always. Even from a distance.

lifeinthelastlane · 02/08/2026 00:28

CorvidDreams · 01/08/2026 22:52

Not sure what the problem is with accepting women into women's spaces... But you do you, I guess.

Yes I'll do me, and I'm one of the majority of people who do not believe that a man has magically become a woman because he says he identifies as one. In other words I'll stick to truth and biology over feelz

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 01/08/2026 22:54

CorvidDreams · 01/08/2026 22:52

Not sure what the problem is with accepting women into women's spaces... But you do you, I guess.

Transwomen are men though.

CorvidDreams · 01/08/2026 22:52

lifeinthelastlane · 01/08/2026 10:32

That sounds nice until you remember it means acceptance into women's sports, women's changing rooms, women's prisons, girls school toilets etc etc.

Not sure what the problem is with accepting women into women's spaces... But you do you, I guess.

LeopardStar1 · 01/08/2026 20:39

ImogenBrocklehurst · 30/07/2026 21:06

Why “bless her”? She asked a question. Don’t children usually ask questions? As @Aco8171 said: an opportunity for you to explain the concept of accepting diversity.

Exactly. I'd explain to her the argument. If there is no such thing as binary sex then there can be no such thing as trans. Because obviously trans people are transitioning from one to the other or saying they are somewhere in the middle. If there is no binary I would have to ask then, "the middle of what?" By definition, the only way trans can exist is by there being a binary. Simples.

saveforthat · 01/08/2026 17:32

OwlBeThere · 30/07/2026 23:03

that doesn’t change the fact that some ciswomen have breast and facial hair. so it’s only obscene if it’s a trans person,…and how do you know if it is a trans person or not by looking? you could easily be looking at a ciswoman and thinking she is obscene.

Of course you would know. There is no man, however they are dressed up, who looks like a real woman.

Mykneesareshot · 01/08/2026 15:07

Wouldn't get my business for sure.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 01/08/2026 11:33

lifeinthelastlane · 01/08/2026 10:32

That sounds nice until you remember it means acceptance into women's sports, women's changing rooms, women's prisons, girls school toilets etc etc.

Which is the acceptance of men into women's sports, women's changing rooms, women's prisons, girls school toilets etc etc. Because transwomen are in fact men.

Women on the whole accept transwomen as transwomen, and are happy to leave them alone if they will accord us the same courtesy. That is not the same as accepting that they are actual women, any more then we accept that adult males are two-year-old females who wear nappies and suck dummies, or dogs, or glass teapots.

We generally don't accept six-year-old girls as ponies or six-year-old boys as dinosaurs, either, once some immediate game has ended; we don't feed the girls hay and bed them down in a stable, nor do for the boys whatever a tyrannosaurus rex requires for its bedtime routine.

lifeinthelastlane · 01/08/2026 10:32

CorvidDreams · 31/07/2026 18:33

Acceptance...

That sounds nice until you remember it means acceptance into women's sports, women's changing rooms, women's prisons, girls school toilets etc etc.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 01/08/2026 09:28

Oldbutstillachild · 31/07/2026 17:49

Biology isn't objectively binary. Intersex people exist.

People with DSDs (formerly known as intersex) are still either male or female.
There is no third sex.

BEAchDays2 · 31/07/2026 20:22

I mean, as if the OP didn’t post the other half of the display. 😂🫠

ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmmmmmmmmm · 31/07/2026 19:10

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I bet they fucking are.

Velvera · 31/07/2026 19:03

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CorvidDreams · 31/07/2026 18:33

Theunamedcat · 30/07/2026 01:13

Is there anything that they are not more likely to experience at this point? For such a small percentage of the population they sure do experience a lot

Acceptance...

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 31/07/2026 18:11

Intersex people (who almost all dislike that outmoded name for them really quite a lot, especially since it is essentially inaccurate) are all either male or female, with differences in sex development which start from the base male or base female pattern laid down at conception.

(I wonder how many times that has been said already on this thread?)

Oldbutstillachild · 31/07/2026 17:49

Biology isn't objectively binary. Intersex people exist.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 31/07/2026 17:39

Miranda Yardley doesn't even have a Wikipedia page, let alone publicity, unlike so many trans rights activists. (Wikipedia was captured early.) The last thing I can find by her (or him; Miranda said he was a man in spite of having transitioned, at one point?) was in 2023.

Seethlaw seems to have worked out that trans rights activism is doing a lot of no good to a lot of people. But I wouldn't encourage standing up to be counted, really. Given the way TRAs behave, it's dangerous.

Kalalily · 31/07/2026 17:35

Dontlletmedownbruce · 31/07/2026 13:47

@Kalalilydo you work in a secondary school or with young adults? I'm curious, what does actually happen to the kids who come out as trans or non binary in school. Do they announce a reversal or just skulk away embarrassed, I know some stick with it. I've often wondered this.

I am the mum of a trans identifying youth with younger children in secondary school My siblings and a number of close friends work in schools.
My experience so far is that some trans identifying kids change name more than once. Assuming the school doesn’t give it any attention the other kids seem to go along with it, may think it’s a bit ridiculous but no big deal. I don’t think there are any big announcements and summer holidays are a good opportunity to reset.

The deeply entrenched kids take years to desist/detransition. I think in these cases moving school might be an easier option than rolling back on years of transition.

LeopardStar1 · 31/07/2026 17:20

SALaw · 30/07/2026 22:36

Name another

Buck angel

SALaw · 31/07/2026 16:33

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 31/07/2026 12:29

Miranda Yardley?

Not seen a thing from them in years and social media is private. When I see some really egregious posts on Twitter or Blue Sky or signs being held up at marches and speeches being made from the stage, where’s the counter? Where is the trans charity or organisation that says we don’t agree with those guys over there giving us a bad name?!

Dontlletmedownbruce · 31/07/2026 13:47

@Kalalilydo you work in a secondary school or with young adults? I'm curious, what does actually happen to the kids who come out as trans or non binary in school. Do they announce a reversal or just skulk away embarrassed, I know some stick with it. I've often wondered this.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 31/07/2026 12:29

SALaw · 30/07/2026 22:36

Name another

Miranda Yardley?