Sick of my wife’s temper

Please call social services and ask them to look after your children if you think abusing strangers for stating simple facts is normal behaviour. You need help and everyone deserves to be safe from you. If I knew who you were, I'd contact the police because you sound genuinely dangerous.

So, OP, hope you had a fantastic night's rest in your nice comfy bed, all alone with no parenting duties, after you badmouthed your harassed wife who shouted at you in desperation after you woke your child up.

Here's what you do to fix this - you go home and spend two days parenting, you let your wife have a good night's sleep for two nights and she does absolutely zero parenting for two days.

This is necessary because she has been tortured for weeks now, and as you kno - as does every other person claiming otherwise - you would definitely be shouting after weeks of no sleep and dealing with your in your own words "extremely full on" child all alone for a week.

Then, when she's no longer exhausted and drained and cognitively impaired - all of which is standard with weeks of sleep deprivation, as well as irritability (but you already know that) and she she can think straight again you can help her put a plan in place to get some rest and parent your child effectively.

Then, if you feel it's needed, you can get counselling for you both. For example, you can discuss why you wrote demeaning words about your son's parent, who you completely trust to look after him - because if you didn't you wouldn't bitching about her from a comfy hotel room - and you can discuss how you can fulfill your parental and husbandly duties better into the future.

@HenLen I love your sarcasm! 😄 🤣 😂 😆

Its scary how many women here seem to be admitting that they'd be an unsafe single parent as they cannot independently cope with normal child behaviour without resorting to rage.

You obviously haven’t lived with someone with anger issues. This would be like waving a red rag at a bull.

You are thinking that doing more would mean less rage. That’s not how it works

It might sound easy to say “do more” or “help out without being asked” But that just produces even more anger

I have a theory that the anger comes in the form of justified martyrdom.
These people don’t want you to help because if you did help it would mean they wouldn’t be able to scream and shout about how lazy you are or for any other reason.

Chances are they would pick holes in how “badly” you did the job so they would have to do it again even though there was nothing wrong with the job you did .

The dw might be tired so apparently that justifies screaming and shouting and slamming doors on a small child but what about the rest of her life up till now. What was wrong with her then.

Posters are fixated on this one example. The reaction to the circumstances given isn’t from a normally happy mum who has got to the point of exhaustion
This is the reaction of someone who is practised in this type of response to anything that upsets them.

If you had ever lived with a person who has anger as a default setting and you have lived in that state of high anxiety because you know just one word, one action will set them off, you can see the difference. It is subtle but it’s there

You obviously haven’t lived with someone with anger issues. This would be like waving a red rag at a bull.

You are thinking that doing more would mean less rage. That’s not how it works

It might sound easy to say “do more” or “help out without being asked” But that just produces even more anger

I have a theory that the anger comes in the form of justified martyrdom.
These people don’t want you to help because if you did help it would mean they wouldn’t be able to scream and shout about how lazy you are or for any other reason.

Chances are they would pick holes in how “badly” you did the job so they would have to do it again even though there was nothing wrong with the job you did .

The dw might be tired so apparently that justifies screaming and shouting and slamming doors on a small child but what about the rest of her life up till now. What was wrong with her then.

Posters are fixated on this one example. The reaction to the circumstances given isn’t from a normally happy mum who has got to the point of exhaustion
This is the reaction of someone who is practised in this type of response to anything that upsets them.

If you had ever lived with a person who has anger as a default setting and you have lived in that state of high anxiety because you know just one word, one action will set them off, you can see the difference. It is subtle but it’s there

@HenLen You are pulling my chain now!
"His wife is being tortured".
Yeah, how exactly?!!!!
Perhaps if things are so awful for her they should separate. In fact, I think they should 😀
Are you married? In a relationship with a man? No - your hate of all men is clear.
My favourite part of your post is: "Mens tempers are legendary" when it is the wife screaming and shouting.at the child and banging doors!! 😄

Are you ok ? You sound so full of venom and you are making elaborate presumptions based on a small number of posts the op has made . This must be the third time you have mentioned “nice comfy bed “

@FairKoala I totally agree, havng lived it as a younger woman. It will only get worse. I think unless things improve and wife gets help then it's time to separate.