Moody part-time DP and his right to his “chilled days”

Get rid of the lazy selfish arse. Don’t be a mug OP.

Do not have children with this man until he sorts his lazy ass out. You had every right to expect to come home to a clean house, the shopping done and a meal on the table.

When I worked and my husband was between contracts, he ran the house beautifully while cooking and looking after two children. (He is a football-loving chap who definitely drinks more than 3 drinks an hour!)!

Why does he not work full time at this age? He needs to be working towards a pension and saving for a house. There’s no reason to be part time while young (absent health issues or grief) except laziness. You don’t want to have kids with someone lazy, it’s a lot of work.

Get him a t shirt with "I cleaned last week." on the front and "I do what the fuck I want" on the back as his welcome to the society of cocklodgers and your house exit gift.

What a lazy asshole.

And the banging and clashing..
Its a form of abuse

Also the weaponised incompetence of not being able to clean and tidy

Absolutely. This man is arrogant and selfish, but also insecure and cannot take criticism. He will always frame himself as the victim.

He is not a team player, and if you show any sign of putting up with his behaviour he will double down and crush you into submission.

Leave. There are pleasant, caring men out there who will make your life better.

Lazy bastard. I would find this incredibly unattractive. Do not marry this man. Do not have any children with him. You’ll be left to do everything.

There's nothing less attractive than a man child who games instead of living.

Seriously you need to raise the bar here. He's a lazy scruff who thinks you should wipe his arse when he can't be bothered. Why do you want to put up with that?!

I'm assuming he's a teenager or something?

He has no reason to be only working part time he is clearly selfish and very lazy you are gaining nothing from being with him

I will no longer tolerate men like this in my life. Im worth more than being some no hoper's drudge.
Dont have kids with him.

And having a chilled day once in a while is fine, but that diesn’t absolve you from basic tidying etc leaving the house in a pigsty state. His selfish reaction tells you everything.

Hes a lazy git.

I work part time, my husband is full time with very long hours (he does pay all the bills) and I fully expect to do virtually all the household stuff. It is unacceptable for him to think it’s ok to have endless hours of lounging around when the house is a tip and you’re working. He’s got used to doing minimal hours and keeping the remaining hours, which would be at work hours, for nothing other than leisure. We’d all like that, but unless he’s funding a cleaner so the house is spotless or still paying at least half of all outgoings, he’s a selfish CF.

I’ve got a couple days holiday from work this week.

Yesterday, I did two lots of washing, walked the dog, put the food delivery away, (morning), and in the afternoon sorted out paperwork, put clothes away, tidied up spare room, and in evening cooked a meal and took dog out.

Today, was kept busy all day as well doing housework etc. .

Hes a lazy cocklodger ysn’t he. Doesn’t want to work full time, but diesn’t pick up the slack at hive either. Cocklodger!

I’d be interested to know the split of bills also.

You are not his parent. He needs to pull his socks up and learn to be more considerate.

Can you afford going part time?

I wouldn't waste more tome on him tbh. I don't fanzy lazy amd childish men.

He sounds like a lazy prick. And the angry slammy reaction is horrible too. My DH works part time too (4d/w) but only normal a/l and v tiring job. I work a very hectic job about 6d/w. He does 75% of the housework - I cook most days because I like it but he preps the kitchen and cleans up after.
I'm always knackered on Saturday morning so have a lie in and wake up to spotless house, washing on, etc. When I go away for work and he tells me he's "cleaned the house" so it's nice when I get back, he means deep clean.
I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but although I appreciate my DH doing this I also think it's reasonable when I work more and longer hours.

ETA - can you take a friend on the holiday?

Is he pulling his weight financially? I just can’t see how this is working.

Waste of space. Enjoy your holiday without him

The poster who said it’s a holiday from work not life hit the nail on the head.

Assuming there are no children.
He's a lazy bastard.
There is absolutely no reason for him only working part time. Most of us manage to do a masters degree around full time work ( and children too) .
Do men like this not realise how utterly unattractive they are. No one wants to shag a bloke who makes them feel more like their parent than partner.
You can do better.

And put headphones on whilst he’s slamming doors.
Ignore him.

Fgs. Life is wayyyy too short for this shit! Throw this one back and find a grown adult man, not a man baby who can’t even work full time! It gives me the ick reading about the shit he pulls, or doesn’t pull. I’m sure you’ll be upset for about a day or two. I’m serious too!!

He’s a lazy twonk isn’t he?
Why do you put up with him?
Go on the holiday on your own and have a good think about how much better your life could be.

Yup.

Sorry OP,

Can you cancel the holiday and kick him out ?