Moody part-time DP and his right to his “chilled days”

Sounds like my ex husband, gaslighting and abusive when he was asked to do anything that contributed to keeping the house clean/tidy. I was expected to run myself into the ground doing everything and he was entitled to take his holiday without a care in the world. Disgusting behaviour and disrespectful. If you don’t have kids with this person, please leave, this won’t work long term.

Please, if you wouldn’t mind, tell us a bit more about the background of your relationship?
How long have you been together, doesn’t sound like they’re are children involved.
Has it always been this way, regarding work? I.e. you being full time, him being part time?
How does the split of bills work?
How do you feel about that split? What are you gaining being with him, over being single?
Sorry for all the questions - just trying to understand the dynamics.
Him jumping out of bed and being defensive doesn’t sound like a nice place to be.

LTB he is useless and selfish

What a lazy, lazy man. With a terrible temper too. He deserves to be dumped.

There's no way he can earn enough to support himself as a part time supply teacher, so I'm assuming you're putting in way more financially than he is? He sounds lazy, rude and entitled and you'd be well rid of him. He can see what it's like to work full time and run a house when he actually has to support himself and not rely on you to bankroll him and be his housekeeper.

dont ignore this red flag. I experienced something very similar to this and now I’m going through a really difficult divorce. If it’s like this now it will get much much worse after you’ve had children. He is also incredibly immature and no ability to self reflect. You can’t be in a relationship with someone like this.

I'd be going on that holiday solo. Fuck that shit.

All those single women out there must read this chain eating popcorn.

Single: all your money, spend on what you like, you clean and cook perfectly. Got your own friends to socialise with who are loyal to you.

You run your home super efficiently. See your family when you want. Your place looks clean, full of stuff you’ve bought you like.

No having to compromise your life for some lazy ungrateful lump. No partner telling you what to do, or stealing your money or cheating on you. No loading the machine with someone else’s stinking clothes or picking dirty underpants off the floor.

Spend all your time doing exactly as you please, on your terms.

Absolute Bliss!

On what basis do you live together: is it your place, and he moved in? Expenses: shared equally?

You are shouldering the whole load. He is not your partner, he’s a total liability. Your life would be easier, more peaceful and tidier without him. Get rid.

He sounds like a right lazy arse OP, no way would I put up with this whilst working full time. 🙄

If you are really fed up with your job get a job as a supply teacher. Seems easy enough with lots of rest days. Also - you can do better than him.

I’d be pretty peed off, he can clean / tidy/ meal prep in the morning & chill in the afternoon/ evening with you! If only two of you live in the house one good solid day at the start of the week should keep it pretty clean for the remainder of the week! He’s being lazy !

You could be if you are expecting you FT partner to do all the housework.

Well yeah if you do nothing but game and let the laundry basket overflow on your days off..

What in the terrible 2's temper tantrum is this shit?
He's a wanker, a total waste of space who is leaving you to do it all. You'll be better off without the dead weight

Are you spending the rest of the days gaming on the sofa?

Go on holiday on your own.

It's not unreasonable for him to want some days where he does nothing. I like them and I work PT and DH works FT. But the difference is I do the bulk of the housework because I do work PT, so it doesn't impact on DH if I have some lazy days, because I get back on top of a few days later.

He sounds a total waste of space and I would be working out an exit strategy.

It’s very clear that he wants an undemanding life where he works as little as possible - enough to survive - and does as little as possible by way of household stuff too.

If that’s not your vision of life then suggest you let this one go. I would.

And FGS don’t end up subsidising him financially or having kids with him as you will end up doing everything while he sponges off you.

I work 3 days a week. Am I a cocklodger?

Urgh!

He sounds like a pathetic man-child.

I think you deserve better.

Get rid asap.

You would never say that to a woman. Men can work part time as well

What in the terrible 2's temper tantrum is this shit?
He's a wanker, a total waste of space who is leaving you to do it all. You'll be better off without the dead weight

He sounds like a fkn child!

He is loser, will likely always be a loser. Yes he is the bad guy; his partner is struggling and he is doing fuck all to support her. Leave him. Find someone who will actually support you and isn’t a lazy sod. Find someone with a work ethic. You deserve better, don’t waste another day on this pond scum.