Is this a ‘Soft life’

I would absolutely love it for a couple of months. After that I'd be hankering after the city I love within a short drive from a beach in exactly the same way as I feel after a lovely holiday abroad by the beach & a hotel with a pool. I love sunshine but no matter how much aircon you have you still sweat like an ox on ocassions 😂Ariving home to cooler weather is always wonderful 😂
It does sound lovely OP but a soft life, I'm not so sure 🤔

I'm kind of envious of your lifestyle OP, but filling your day with hobbies is not meaningful. A lot of us have done some/all of those things whilst holding down a proper job. I'd be looking to earn some more money and not being so dependent on my husband.

Sounds lovely but I might be a bit bored. However I’ve never had the luxury of finding out. If you are content then just enjoy your life!

Oh you haven’t fallen into the trap of spouting that nonsense that ‘nobody wishes they worked more on their deathbed’ have you? I assure you many women or men of limited means wish they’d done more with their lives but couldn’t. I’m the first person in my family to finish school - before me, the world of higher education was simply closed to my family, no matter how intelligent. Many of them heartily wished they had different opportunities.

I get a lot of meaning and purpose from my work, so it wouldn’t be ideal for me, and I get a lot of satisfaction from supporting myself and my family. I like looking at what we have and knowing that our work provided it all. That doesn’t mean this isn’t a perfectly happy enjoyable life for someone with different values.

Soft if you’re only looking at the cover story.
The reality could be more of a gilded cage.

cocktails would but she has to drive back to school and whilst I'm on the bus, I think the head might pass comment if it's tiddled

It sounds very dependent on a man providing this lifestyle and I just couldn't be okay with that.

I also wouldn't feel right knowing that I did very little all day and my husband was working 5 days a week. Maybe 20 hours of work for us both - that would leave a lot of time for both of us to enjoy life and family and hobbies whilst still being productive and working towards something.

Why do you ask?

Not soft enough, for me.

I would feel trapped doing all the domestic labour alone, and be concerned that I don't have anything if DH decides to break up for some reason. I also think the amount of free time this person has might be a little overstated here when you factor in everything that goes into running a household.

I'm not suggesting you don't have lovely life or that mines better, I accept mine is the worse of everything - sahp in a low income household with no access to benefits.
I'm simply discussing the notion that work is the only way you can enjoy life and get value from your life.

anyway, it's late and this discussion is pointless so good night

I never understand people who say they would be bored not working. Why would you be bored? I have always found there are never enough hours in the day.
I've had phases where I haven't worked and phases where I have, I much prefer not working. Although I have cancer now and believe me, I don't regret the time I got to spend with my children when they were growing up.

So they're a student?

Why is this all written in the third person?

Why have you spontaneously decided to post this and defend the way you/ this woman live/ lives if you think it's fine?

Is this your life - if so, why defend it when nobody was attacking it before you laid it out and asked for judgement?

It's psychologically reminiscent of a "guess my age" or "am I pretty/ ugly/ rate my looks" photo thread - why do it?

Please tell us the purpose of this thread OP/who you are in the scenario, instead of just disagreeing with everyone who says they would feel that life lacks purpose!

I had thought the OP was describing her mother’s life? Am I mistaken. She seems to
have total contempt for this kind of life. To feel there is no purpose or value in it. I disagree, but I would like to know who exactly she is talking about.

Why do people need to have ambition? Sounds dull to me. I’d rather have a nice life than stress getting to the top

I echo your thoughts.

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this.

I hear what you're saying but I disagree. I think Purpose is a bit of a modernism and I put it into the navel gazing therapy-culture bucket.

The happiest people I know are productive but not with lofty Purpose.

I have a close relative with a job that's not particularly Meaningful in the lofty sense of the word (he works in ad tech, the world would keep turning without ad tech) but he enjoys solving problems all day and creating fixes. That's Productivity, not Purpose.

Yes of course over-work and over-productivity is not healthy either, surely that's too obvious to need saying.

Sounds great as I have a lot of interests that are fulfilling to me but don’t have a financial reward. I can see how with DH’s early finish having a lovely late afternoon/evening routine (though my DH would love to do the cooking)! But time to spend with their child which so many working parents don’t during the week.

Everything but the dog (don't like a dog smell in the house, despite how loving they can be, sorry doggy)
Would want more than one child

Have we established what OP means by a soft life?

Why are you asking this? Is this you or someone you know?

I’ve asked that too & the OP hasn’t replied yet.

I think this life would be great if there was no DH, no child & I was living from a secure income I’d acquired myself somehow.

I'd love it for about 2 weeks but no more. Being reliant on/sponging off a man is not something I could do. Not making a contribution to society, not using my brain, not tapping into my ambition all of that would kill me. Apart from the sheer boredom, I can't imagine how small life would be without keeping potential for growth and independence open. Definitely not for me.