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Best friend has made an issue about my DH’s joke over dinner

240 replies

Berniewe · 29/07/2026 18:13

We met friends (another couple) at an Indian restaurant last night. My friend ordered a particularly hot curry which we remarked on. DH made a joke along the lines of ‘that’s the face-sitting off the cards tonight’ to which we both laughed as did my friends husband.

Driving home, I could see she messaged me. I got back to read it and she said she thought DH had set out to humiliate her and she expects an apology.

Is it me or has she gone very OTT here?!

OP posts:
MarthaLovesLaughing · 29/07/2026 18:22

It upset her. He should apologise

PashaMinaMio · 29/07/2026 18:21

Blueberryme · 29/07/2026 18:19

Gutter humour. Probably hilarious when you’re 20 but crass and awful as an adult.

Exactly. ^^

Birds of a feather flock together.
Why are you with him?

CustardySergeant · 29/07/2026 18:20

Puerile and revolting.

Ohthatsabitshit · 29/07/2026 18:20

Gross but if she wants an apology why is she talking to you about it? You aren’t his PA. Give her his phone number and say you’re happy for her to talk to him direct.

SamphiretheTervosaur · 29/07/2026 18:20

Well that was quite a crass comment

I'm not surprised she felt disgusted

Fancy having to sit through an entire meal with that comment, mental image having set the tone

Blech

Blueberryme · 29/07/2026 18:19

Gutter humour. Probably hilarious when you’re 20 but crass and awful as an adult.

GaaNeen · 29/07/2026 18:19

Cringe
what a ‘joke’

SandwichSuperstar · 29/07/2026 18:18

Yuk! He sounds like he has the manners of a little pig.

But if were her I would’ve put him in his place there and then.

You’re not responsible for this prick’s behaviour.

Sunshineclouds11 · 29/07/2026 18:18

If my DH said that to me I’d laugh, if another man said it to me I wouldn’t like it either

dscugie · 29/07/2026 18:17

Really inappropriate and quite gross of him. Why did you laugh?

Nofeckingway · 29/07/2026 18:17

Doesnt she know that her DH and you two are crude already? If you did apologise it wouldn't be sincere .

Partingofthewaves · 29/07/2026 18:17

What a crass comment. I’m not surprised she is offended.

Bonkers1966 · 29/07/2026 18:17

Is your husband 21? Talk about crass.

Silverbirchleaf · 29/07/2026 18:16

I think that’s a bit gross he made the remark about the friend. If it was banter with you, not so bad, although still a crass comment.

PensionPTake · 29/07/2026 18:15

It's quite a personal joke to make. I don't think I'd appreciate it much either.