AIBU to feel hurt that family did not notice my weight loss?

If someone comments it’s a problem

if someone Doesn’t comment it’s a problem.

You don’t need validation from anyone else.

This would be noticeable though, she’s went from just into overweight to 20 odd bmi,

the speed of it is a worry though,

I wouldn’t comment on someone’s weight at a family gathering.

It does sound like very unhealthy rapid weight loss op if this is from June?

It might not have been that noticeable unless you were wearing fitted clothing?

It took until 2 stones down before people noticed I'd lost weight a few years ago...

How tall are you....

Huh? Firstly you don’t know her height she could have been obese at 10 stone and secondly what difference does using the meds make?

Are you on weight loss injections?

I don't say anything to people who lose weight that rapidly, I worry they are sick of on the injections too quickly and don't want to encourage it. I don't comment on people's weight.

These days so many people are using jabs to lose weight I never comment. I also agree with others sounds like you were already slim enough.

I had a nose job and didn't tell my family, none of them have noticed! Maybe people aren't very observant.

I wouldn’t comment about someone’s weight for two reasons. It’s considered rude and I don’t want to hear about it!

Sounds like you didn't necessarily need to lose the weight? In the nicest possible way, it might be they thought you looked better before? (sometimes when women lose weight when they are slim already, it just comes from their face and they look hagard).

I don’t comment on weight. Ever.

That sounds like quite a big change given your size, so it depends on what you were wearing, if they’re the types to notice, whether they think you’d like them to comment or not.

When I lost a lot of weight it was because my marriage was awful and I was absolutely miserable and I hated anyone mentioning it. Equally a relative told me she’d lost 3.5 stone and how pleased she was and I honestly hadn’t noticed at all so just said congratulations.

I never comment on weight.

I think it’s good manners these days not to comment on weight ..the rule taught to children something like ..’never comment on something that can’t be immediately changed’

I think it’s a good thing NOT to comment as comments often cause harm

I wouldn’t comment if someone had gained weight so I don’t comment if they lose it either.

i have recently lost weight because of stress. I probably look “better” to most people as I was a tad overweight, but I feel awful. I’d rather have my peace and the weight back, so it’s nothing to celebrate.

I would never comment on someone’s weight unless they specifically said to me something along the lines of “I’ve been working really hard to lose weight and improve my health. I’m really pleased as I’m now at my target weight.”

Obviously we don’t know how long you had been at your higher weight, but let’s say you gained that stone and a half (that you’ve now lost) over the last couple of years…would you have wanted people to notice that back in June? Or if you gain some of the weight back?

If you have a couple of people you are particularly close to, I think it’s ok for you to share with them how pleased you are with your weight loss, but I would never want someone to comment on my weight (gain or loss) unless I started the conversation, therefore I would never comment on someone else’s weight.

Well done! Don’t be discouraged by the lack of comments. Be proud of your progress.

They either haven’t noticed or they think it would be rude to comment.

People just don’t comment much. I’ve recently lost over 5 stone, gone down 3-4 dress sizes and very few people commented until they heard others asking me about it. They just didn’t want to be rude and bring it up first. It’s a big difference as some people who haven’t seen me since I was big didn’t recognise me! I’m sure people have noticed, don’t worry. They’re usually being polite. Or if they haven’t noticed they are just too wrapped up in themselves!

People are very self absorbed. It often takes a very drastic change on another person for them to notice. And even more so for them to comment.
Some people quite rightly wouldn't feel comfortable spontaneously mentioning another person's weight, even in a positive way. Someone could be unwell or depressed or have ED and that's why they lost it? Some people would take any comment like that intrusive.

You should tell people you have. If I've achieved something important to me and I want people to know I don't wait for others to 'notice', I just tell them.

Then I'm sure they'll congratulate you. And if they look harder they'll probably see the difference.

Well done btw. I'm sure you feel a lot healthier. That's the most important thing.