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AIBU to think that a stranger collecting a baby from a nursery is a massive safeguarding issue?

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Peterrabbity · 29/07/2026 09:12

I saw on @jodyriley_ ‘s Instagram account last night that her 1 year old daughter was incorrectly collected by the grandfather of another child recently. The man seems to have had the child in his care for over 15 minutes before returning to the nursery.

From what I can gather, the nursery have been incredibly shady in what they’ve told the Mum and as more information has been slowly released, it seems that despite the nursery initially saying the child was asleep when collected, CCTV has proved that she was awake and alert. The nursery have also refused to pass on the names or contact details of the person who picked up the child.

I cannot believe how awfully the nursery have handled this. If I were the parent of a child in that nursery, there’s no way I’d be staying there considering how lax their safeguarding seems to be.

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Dollymylove · 29/07/2026 09:41

Maybe the baby had same pram/baby seat.
Maybe baby had a hat on.
Grandfather brought the baby back as soon as he realised, so hes clearly not a ritual child slaughterer.
This is on the nursery, nobody else

Totaldramallama · 29/07/2026 09:40

Helpwithdivorce · 29/07/2026 09:32

nursery and grandad lied and said child was asleep when collected so he didn’t notice it was the wrong kid.
CCTV showed grandad walking round nursery for 10 minutes with child awake and crying before leaving. Child was allowed to be taken by 2 staff members. Grandad realised 15 minutes after leaving that it was the wrong child.
Beggars belief. Something doesn’t add up but police aren’t doing anything. Nursery should be shut down. I wouldn’t leave my kids there after that.

Sorry what would the police be doing? What is the crime?

Helpwithdivorce · 29/07/2026 09:32

nursery and grandad lied and said child was asleep when collected so he didn’t notice it was the wrong kid.
CCTV showed grandad walking round nursery for 10 minutes with child awake and crying before leaving. Child was allowed to be taken by 2 staff members. Grandad realised 15 minutes after leaving that it was the wrong child.
Beggars belief. Something doesn’t add up but police aren’t doing anything. Nursery should be shut down. I wouldn’t leave my kids there after that.

INeedaDietcoke · 29/07/2026 09:30

This is absolutely horrifying from everyone involved. How can a grandparent not realise they have the wrong child? Why was the nursery ok to hand them over?

At our nursery you have to be named and photographed to pick a child up. You are given a little laminated ID card with the photo to show, and there is a password you have to give as well. I have seen staff implement this as well, it's not just for show - a worker said to someone, I'm sorry I'm not sure we've met before and I don't recognise you, can I see your nursery ID please?

If I was the mum of the mistaken child I would be withdrawing my children immediately. We don't know if anything untoward happened in those 15 minutes but it easily could have been an absolute disaster.

BirdLandedonmyHead · 29/07/2026 09:28

If the grandfather didnt spend nuch time with rhe child, he could make a mistake.

Its the staff who should verify better. My mum was once stopped picking up DD from nursery as a newer staff member didbt recognise her and she couldnt remember the password. (The manager sorted it as she did recognise her and she was on the approved list).

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Peterrabbity · 29/07/2026 09:26

Pileoftrash · 29/07/2026 09:26

My daughter briefly went to a very crap nursery with high staff turnover and I could imagine them doing this. They used to send pictures of the wrong child on the parent app.

The nursery in question is Kids Plant in Crosby.

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Pileoftrash · 29/07/2026 09:26

My daughter briefly went to a very crap nursery with high staff turnover and I could imagine them doing this. They used to send pictures of the wrong child on the parent app.

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Peterrabbity · 29/07/2026 09:25

BalakayAARon · 29/07/2026 09:21

"The nursery have also refused to pass on the names or contact details of the person who picked up the child." Who do you think they should give this info to? Is someone suggesting he collected the wrong child for nefarious reasons?

Perhaps they could have arranged a meeting with all involved parties to put any worries the mum has to bed?

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Peterrabbity · 29/07/2026 09:24

x2boys · 29/07/2026 09:23

So three people didnt immediatley realise it was the wrong child?

It appears so!

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x2boys · 29/07/2026 09:23

So three people didnt immediatley realise it was the wrong child?

BalakayAARon · 29/07/2026 09:21

"The nursery have also refused to pass on the names or contact details of the person who picked up the child." Who do you think they should give this info to? Is someone suggesting he collected the wrong child for nefarious reasons?

deeahgwitch · 29/07/2026 09:18

He had the child in his care for 15 minutes 😮🥲

LetaLestrange · 29/07/2026 09:16

How did it take the guy 15 minutes to realise it wasn’t his own granddaughter??

looselegs · 29/07/2026 09:15

Pileoftrash · 29/07/2026 09:13

So did they mix two kids up?

Yes. Two members of staff and a man that wasn't her grandad didn't notice apparently!

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Peterrabbity · 29/07/2026 09:14

Pileoftrash · 29/07/2026 09:13

So did they mix two kids up?

The man came in to collect his granddaughter. Instead he’s picked up a different child and taken her. He returned 15 minutes later to say he had the wrong child.

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Pileoftrash · 29/07/2026 09:13

So did they mix two kids up?

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