AIBU to think that a stranger collecting a baby from a nursery is a massive safeguarding issue?

The biggest issue here is the nursery lying to the parents and then minimising.

Mistakes happen. Being transparent about how they happened, and what is being put into place to prevent them happening again, is what rebuilds trust.

when DS4 was in the baby room at nursery they nearly handed DH the wrong baby. The worker realised at the last minute. It was treated as a ‘near miss’ by the nursery, and they issued a newsletter detailing what had happened - which was one nursery member saying “there’s DH’sname here for pick up”. A newish member of staff picked up a baby whose dad has the same name and headed for the door. Since that day parents don’t have names at that nursery - everyone is X’s Mum/dad/granny/aunty to absolutely minimise the risk of that happening again.

I agree it's not a bad thing, I watch my DGC like a hawk when they are in my care and if collecting them from school/nursery, happily provide all the information asked for but labelling this man a paedophile online and inferring that male nursery workers are paedophiles is wrong and could destroy so many innocent peoples lives.
FWIW my DGD key worker in nursery was male her parents had no issue whatsoever with this. They all remember him and what he did for a micro-preemie little girl

Tell that to Yvette Cloete.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/wales/901723.stm

Are you one of the nursery staff? 🙄

Imagine how that poor child felt.
Being given to a stranger and then being put into car and driving off.
That child will be traumatisd

OP i agree with you but this is mumsnet where everyone tries to be the cool, laidback nothing bothers me mum/dad. An unknown person takes your child from nursery and has around 15 mins of unaccounted time with them and people are saying no need to worry just a mistake.... COME ON

Obviously @LauraNorda ’s suggestion is a Swiftian one like Jonathan Swift’s essay proposing the eating if babies. So can we have a little less harrumphing about her post? It us meant to show the logical conclusion of the posters who are shouting paedophile at the drop of a hat.

LauraNorda Good job the elderly man in Portugal ignored this advice, and took the 2 little boys he found by the road (dumped by their parents ) to the local police station then wasnt it

That you Jodi?
Are you not getting enough traffic on Instagram?

@LauraNorda Personally, I would rather some random kid ended up dead than having screaming harpies accusing me of allsorts.

Imagine actually typing this out.

I think the OP twisted logic of automatically assuming the Grandfather is a paedophile first and foremost has clouded the waters.

Using the OPs logic, any man that comes across a lost toddler is probably best ignoring the whole situation and walking on. Personally, I would rather some random kid ended up dead than having screaming harpies accusing me of allsorts.

What a shit society we live in now.

Being cautious around adults interacting with your child, yeah. And many parents are not cautious enough. But focus on the ones who see them regularly, not for fifteen minutes on one occasion.

This guy is probably majorly embarrassed that he can't recognize his own grandchild.

It's been widely reported in MSM which nursery it was, no need to delete the post

He's probably busy in hiding so his error can't be monetised at the expense of he and his family's safety any further than it has been already.

Surely this is for Ofsted to investigate not the police. It is a safeguarding issue not a criminal investigation. There is nothing for the police to do. I'm sure Ofsted are already involved and they will decide what action to take.
I can understand why the grandfather wouldn't want to meet with the parents. You only have to look at the comments on here to understand why he'd be reluctant.

There would have to be intent, which it doesn't sound like there was. There was ineptitude on the part of the grandfather and negligence on the part of the nursery. I'm not saying that it isn't a shocking thing, but it's also not a police matter. The nursery will be dealt with by whoever inspects them and whoever licenses them.

You are too paranoid OP

It doesn’t sound like she’s actually sharing things about her kids online, its one particular story focusing on the failings of the nursery setting she used to attend.

She’s getting divorced because she doesn’t expect bottom of the barrel behaviour from men and that a man with a caring role to a child, father, grandfather, should recognise his own relative?
What point do you think you’re making here??

I’m just thinking of that poor wee girl crying because she didn’t want to go with the strange man. 🥲

Sharing anything about your kids online is a safeguarding risk. People seem to know her name where she lives etc

Massive failure in safeguarding procedures.