AIBU To Point Out Opinions You Don’t See Outside Of Mumsnet …?

@theneighbourstolemyteacup but hotels offering these services exist. I have never used a kids club abroad or ski school but again I know they are a thing. I have never needed a babysitter but again I know it’s a thing.

If it’s got a kids disco you’re not talking about the same type of hotel …

Oh & I didn’t dump them in the movie club!

At one of those style hotels my dc went to “movie club” with a load of other dc to watch a film whilst DH & I eat dinner/had a drink. I didn’t have an issue with it.

that's the thing, I don't.

and I don't know anyone who would just leave a baby or any child in a hotel room.

You can do that at home.

Never even occurred to me to dump my kids in a hotel room.

why would you dump them?

We just used to suspend normality on holiday, so kids went to bed a bit later or slept in a buggy by the mini disco. Never had to sit in the bathroom in the dark. Balconey with wine, maybe. And that period only actually lasts a couple of years.

But I suspect most of us who didn't leave kids in hotel rooms didn't go the sort of holidays where adults dined separately to their kids on the family holiday. Got 51 other weekends to do that.

Never have I gone to bed at 7pm or sat in the dark 😂

I love holidays and have gone on holidays with my kids as soon as I was well enough to travel and their first passport had arrived. Being a martyr and going to bed at 7 for some strange reasons has never been on my list.

Never even occurred to me to dump my kids in a hotel room.

So you can sit and eat a meal in the evening, instead of all having to go to bed at 7pm / sit in the dark / sit in the bathroom - while your child can go to bed at the usual time in their bed in a dark, quiet space…?

I find it just weird that someone would even want to?

Yes, but her moronic parents left the door unlocked. Is there a single other case of a child being abducted from a hotel room? I mean, I know some awful things have happened to unaccompanied kids in migrant hotels, but in a normal family-of-tourists situation?

Seriously never knew before today that there was anyone who thinks there's anything wrong with leaving a sleeping baby in a hotel room.

So I have noticed that according to (a lot of posters on) Mumsnet:

Ahhhhhhhh, what was your thread sample size? What threads are included in your sample size?

I hate when people make assumptions based upon their own bias and act like it is fact.

So, so lazy.

My opinion is that this sort of goady shite means that the poster is a bit of a twat

Why should it be criminal?

I live in the UK

Madeleine McCanns parents did not have a baby monitor, could not see or hear their children, and were several hundred metres away in a different building, and had left windows to the street open.

This is notably different in terms of safety to being in the same building, with a baby monitor, being able to visually see the child etc etc

Stating that humans cannot change sex is not transphobia.

It is also a widely held opinion outside of mumsnet......what with it being a scientific reality and all.

Nope, I’ve seen it said about dating. I was told to “concentrate on my kids” or “wait till your youngest is 18” I never once said I would move anyone in because I wouldn’t so no I don’t agree with you. And I’ve seen the attitude on other threads too. Back in the real world all single mums I know date again and have new partners and shock horror some even move them in! On mumsnet you shouldn’t look at another man until your child reaches 18.

It should be criminal. Ask the McCann parents. Where do you live that is ok?

Quite, and this common experience is not one of transphobia, yet in certain quarters your even speaking of it will be ascribed to bigotry and all the rest of it.

It's more about moving new people in rather than just dating.

The ones I see a lot is that single parents should never date again and spend the next 18 years alone. In real life I don’t know anyone that does that or thinks that. Single parents wanting to date again are often shamed on here for not revolving their entire lives around their kids.

Kind of on a similar riff to the boarding school thing, I’ve gotten weird flack for leaving my kids with GPs often.

At the end of the day yes I am very lucky to have free childcare, but it doesn’t mean we love our kids any less because they’re at their GPs while we go out. It’s not actually free, because I always give them my revolute card loaded with some cash for treats/expenses and 9/10 that’s what pays for the treats, sometimes GPs pay but I would never expect it. I don’t tend to leave them with my mum too often as she raised 6 kids, her days of grafting after them are over as they should be, but my dad has them often. It’s two fold really, firstly my dad is 72 and smokes like a chimney, scrans take aways on a regular basis… I want the kids to have as many good memories with him as possible before his health inevitably fails and his luck runs out. My step mum also enjoys having them, never wanted her own kids but always liked having us as a kids and likes doing the fun stuff then handing them back. Secondly, my kids are obsessed with them. They basically think they’re the coolest people ever and that me and DH are boring. ILs as well. When they find out they’re not going to grandads / nanas / nanny and pops house they’re almost disappointed they have to hang out with their loving mother and doting dad.

I kind of think you can’t win with childcare decisions. Boarding school? Heartless posho. Nursery? Why is someone else raising your kid?! Family childcare? Why are you dumping them on your poor ageing parents?! SAHM? Sponging off a man! One day he will run off with an 18 year old and you’ll be sorry! Can’t win..

ummmm have you heard of Madeline mcann?

I suspect they're just sad that the pretend transman mother AMA thread got pulled. (although this is a convoluted way of expressing that sadness).

That was just an example. The couples we know definitely do not pool all finances with their salaries paid into the same account, as is discussed on MN. That’s not the same as having no joint finances. DH and I have a joint checking account for bills and a joint savings account. There also seems to be an assumption that this setup means arguments about money or that there is less sharing / generosity, but nothing could be further from the truth. I’ve never seen more fucked up financial setups than the countless stories on MN of people (usually women) who get financially abused within a relationship or completely shafted during divorce, all because they allowed themselves to become financially dependent on a man and fooled by the ‘his money is family money’ nonsense. Great if it works out (and I’m sure it does for some couples!), absolutely catastrophic if it doesn’t.