AIBU To Point Out Opinions You Don’t See Outside Of Mumsnet …?

Anyway, you’ve proven you know it wasn’t the best thing to do because all these hours later you’re still justifying it.

If you thought it was great parenting you still wouldn’t be here trying to justify it by criticising other parents .

You can read my edits by clicking on the button - I haven’t lied, I extrapolated on my point to make it clearer to you.

if you want adult time, pay a babysitter, take an au-pair with you, leave the children with family

or just don't have children. Dumping a baby in a hotel room because you want "me-time" is ridiculous.

You edited.

What lie am I telling?

I don’t know why you need to tell a lie in your last sentence to justify yourself. Just own it. It’s tedious.

That’s my thinking. I have stayed in hotel suites with bedrooms opposite each other with a lounge in between. I assume that was awful parenting too!

I agree we all do things differently.

I am confident in my decisions, the origin of the entire post was things which people are vehemently against on Mumsnet which they don’t actually seem to be in real life - hence the explaining why it’s ok to those who disagree.

It is you criticising me for doing this, not the other way round. You say you never did it - ok, we have established this is because you ended your evenings very early to accommodate your children. Not everyone likes to do that on holiday, and for my babies ‘LATE AT NIGHT’ and a possible meltdown could be after about 6pm.

You re obviously finding this hard to understand. All parents aren’t you. We all do things differently

The irony of this! 😆

If you were that confident about it you wouldn’t feel the need to justify it.

Are people trying to justify it or explain that it’s not the same as some are implying?

Not LATE at night. You re obviously finding this hard to understand. All parents aren’t you. We all do things differently. I, for example, never left my children alone in a strange place. You did. You think that’s ok. I don’t. And another 20 posts justifying it won’t change my mind.

If you were that confident about it you wouldn’t feel the need to justify it.

Well you said you didn’t stay in your room all evening, so presumably you were out at night?

You don’t see the issue and I do. It’s called a “difference of opinion”.

Why is it an outdated thing to do?

We have better technology to allow us to monitor them, so it seems odd that people would be so much more fearful than in the days of ‘occasionally the receptionist would walk past to see if they could hear crying’, when it seemed more widespread.

We occasionally stay in Airbnbs too if that’s the best option, but it’s nice staying in a hotel and not having to cook or clean, and all the facilities etc.

Well we managed it! They’re not awake 24/7.

Who said it was late at night? Oh yes. No one

Maybe the disconnect is that you can afford very posh hotels which offer baby monitors? Even then it seems an outdated thing to do.

We tend to book air b and b's so dc can have a bedroom to themselves and we can have the living room after they've gone to bed, instead of having to put them down and then just sit there in a Premier Inn or something. I would not leave them.

Not if your family are with you at home, as they will be almost all of the time if you have young children.

Some people would be judgey about that and say it’s terrible to drag a baby around all evening with you so that you can eat and drink late at night in a restaurant, when they should be asleep in their bed.

And - not all babies will willingly do this, and need dark and quiet to sleep.

If you’re literally downstairs and less than a minute away if needed, and can hear/see them on a monitor, and talk to them if necessary, I don’t see the issue.

The risk actually feels a lot less than if they are sleeping in a separate room whilst you’re asleep, and potentially completely unaware of a stealthy intruder.

I feels like some people have taken the MM incident, and extrapolated and catastrophised to extremes!

I appeciate people are rightly very cautious after Madeline McCann, but leaving your young children 100s of metres away in a different location with no monitor is VERY different to leaving them upstairs in a room you can access in under a minute with a monitor that where you cam both hear and see them…. It’a barely different to having your child upstairs whilst you eat downstairs.

And even if you’re uncomfortable doing that, it’s absurd to think that this is a Social Services matter!

Why go on a family holiday to get “adult time”? You can do that at home.

Not to an adult club no. Out for dinner etc. We didn’t go to “adult clubs” on family holidays as we weren’t teenagers.

To an adult club? Bet you were popular.

Some people do want adult time on holiday you know

We took them with us.

It was an adult karaoke thing.