AIBU To Point Out Opinions You Don’t See Outside Of Mumsnet …?

@Yerroblemom1923I don’t that is representative because it completely ignores height. At 9 stone i’m underweight. But maybe it’s because I have tall family and friends 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think that's the general consensus in the real world too. I think all women like to be out of double figures for their weight and a size 10 is the ideal. Obviously a lot of women aren't this size but I think in our head we think this.

No idea what you get up to.

@AutumnHazelif they have a febrile seizure they can choke on vomit or saliva which is what scared me about going to sleep.

I always far more scared of being asleep and something happening then anything happening when I was awake, downstairs etc.

Don't be ridiculous.

So what happens at night at home then?

Can a child even choke is there’s nothing in the bed/cot to get stuck in their airway?

Relying on a monitor when you’re awake is surely less risky than relying on a monitor when you’re in a deep sleep. Don’t you ever sleep?

The logical conclusion to your argument is that parents should never go to sleep, and constantly be monitoring their baby, preferably living in a hospital so that emergency resuscitation can be immediately at hand.

I have, unfortunately

Nobody is talking about waking up and setting alarms. We're discussing the wisdom of leaving a child alone in a room and relying on a monitor.

Well obviously we have a difference of opinion - that’s stating the obvious!

It just seems that yours is based on over-active anxiety that bears no resemblance to the actual risk involved!… Happy to be convinced otherwise.

I guess they just wanted to berate you!

Can you explain better perhaps @theneighbourstolemyteacup

The poster referenced choking not SIDS?

Well maybe you could discuss what SIDS has to do with babies choking or sleeping alone in a hotel room

fair enough

That's why it's often pointless to have a discussion with some people 😂

That's nothing to do with choking. And it's a very minimal percentage of all the babies born. In fact I think the numbers of babies dying from SIDS is at an all time low. Greatly helped by Anne diamond s campaign in the 90s ( her son died when my eldest was 2 months so obviously remember it well)

Well I don't think it happens as much as people on here seem to worry about it. Neve in real life have I heard of a baby randomly choking and something happening to them due to it. I mean I've only lived 55 years so there's still time I suppose...r

I don’t even understand this response.

Isn’t the point that it could happen but living your life based on could is largely impossible? My dc could have had another febrile seizure, they could have choked but I couldn’t spend every future evening waking up repeatedly to check and hoping that I didn’t miss it between alarms.

The constant gnashing of teeth on the trans issue is just not present in any of my actual life. And the transwomen I know are nothing like the trans activists which posters post about on here. Most of their information seems to come from digging things out of Reddit, and finding absurd examples.

It’s a wild ride over on the feminism board.

Don't push it.

There's 188 babies who died from SIDS every year in the UK alone.
It's not "nothing".

Why "choking"? Do you think it's something that never happens just because it's never happened to your family?

@Yellowpapersunour friends did it when we were away with them & their room was on the same floor of the restaurant, around the corner.

One of mine had a febrile seizure which terrified me & I moved them back into my room & would set alarms to check them through the night in case it happened again & they chocked on vomit etc. I became exhausted obviously & my GP & my GP family members were like you have to relax & realise you cannot control everything and need to stop catastrophising. I did become a more relaxed parent after that.

And what if they were " choking" at home? While you were in the bath or watching a film. ? You might not find out immediately then either

Only on mumsnet do I ever hear about babies randomly choking in their sleep. Not something that happened to my 3 or to any of my 5 grandchildren either to my knowledge