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AIBU To Point Out Opinions You Don’t See Outside Of Mumsnet …?

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D0ntB1t3 · 28/07/2026 21:38

So I have noticed that according to (a lot of posters on) Mumsnet:

-Transphobia is perfectly acceptable.
-Ageism is the worst/most prevalent type of discrimination going on in the uk today.
-Cheating in a relationship is tantamount to murder.
-Enrolling your children in boarding school means you don’t love them.
-Teaching is always a miserable profession, with no exceptions.

What else have you noticed is a very common MN opinion but not one you hear in real life?

I’m not trying to start an argument on the truth of any of these statements, just curious what others have noticed.

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isthisaplum · 29/07/2026 18:08

I think whether it’s safe or not is by the by, tbh.

One poster has stated that it’s a normal thing, everyone in RL does it, nothing to see here kind of thing. In my personal experience it just isn’t. It may have been once; I can’t say - but now I don’t know anyone who would do this. And I’m relaxed enough, have left mine sleeping in the car while I nip in and out of the shop or to get cash out etc.

It’s really about how it feels and it would feel wrong to me. I’m sure going to the bottom of my garden and going to the shop next door are similar distances for some properties but one would feel OK and the other wouldn’t, and I imagine most others feel the same.

chemmie · 29/07/2026 18:07

What have I said that was offensive?

Differentforgirls · 29/07/2026 18:06

Yellowpapersun · 29/07/2026 18:02

You should ask yourself the same question.

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Got to admit I don’t even notice when posts are deleted. Mumsnet isn’t proactive moderation, it’s reactive. They only delete posts that someone has reported.

Yellowpapersun · 29/07/2026 18:02

chemmie · 29/07/2026 17:42

@Yellowpapersunwell I can’t quote it because it was deleted but it was offensive obviously. So why be offensive?

You should ask yourself the same question.

Yellowpapersun · 29/07/2026 18:01

AutumnHazel · 29/07/2026 17:35

How is it ridiculous?

Obviously you sleep, and you’re prepared to take the risk of you being unconscious or hours at a time when in charge of a baby… But somehow it’s far more risky to be awake with a monitor where you can hear their every sound?!

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You asked Don't you ever sleep?
Which is a ridiculous question.

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D0ntB1t3 · 29/07/2026 17:56

AgentJohnson · 29/07/2026 12:36

So I have noticed that according to (a lot of posters on) Mumsnet:

Ahhhhhhhh, what was your thread sample size? What threads are included in your sample size?

I hate when people make assumptions based upon their own bias and act like it is fact.

So, so lazy.

Oh whatever, if I’d have just said ‘according to Mumsnet’ I would be generalising so I was being fair to the posters that don’t hold these opinions.

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Fluffyscrubberdo · 29/07/2026 17:54

theneighbourstolemyteacup · 29/07/2026 17:43

Where MN is amusing, is that we have posters falling over themselves to claim that EVERYBODY leaves a baby in a hotel room alone, and it's a perfectly normal thing to do.

Meanwhile, on this forum no one can leave a 14 or 15 yo alone for a weekend 😂

I literally don’t think a single person has said “everyone” does it. Feel free to point out the post claiming that.

theneighbourstolemyteacup · 29/07/2026 17:43

Where MN is amusing, is that we have posters falling over themselves to claim that EVERYBODY leaves a baby in a hotel room alone, and it's a perfectly normal thing to do.

Meanwhile, on this forum no one can leave a 14 or 15 yo alone for a weekend 😂

chemmie · 29/07/2026 17:42

@Yellowpapersunwell I can’t quote it because it was deleted but it was offensive obviously. So why be offensive?

theneighbourstolemyteacup · 29/07/2026 17:42

AutumnHazel · 29/07/2026 17:08

The logical conclusion to your argument is that parents should never go to sleep, and constantly be monitoring their baby, preferably living in a hospital so that emergency resuscitation can be immediately at hand.

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I never said that and you know it. No need for hyperboles.

Just pointing out that someone who had not experience any drama in their life or in their grand-children life is irrelevant. It was the "I've always been fine so everyone wil be" which was a stupid thing to say.

chemmie · 29/07/2026 17:41

@AutumnHazel I’m not sure I knew until I was speaking to the doctors about it.

AutumnHazel · 29/07/2026 17:39

chemmie · 29/07/2026 17:15

@AutumnHazelif they have a febrile seizure they can choke on vomit or saliva which is what scared me about going to sleep.

I always far more scared of being asleep and something happening then anything happening when I was awake, downstairs etc.

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Yes, thanks - sorry, that was a stupid post from me.

I agree, being asleep seems far more risky, and what has concerns me more when I’m a strange place… Btw, I don’t think I ever used a monitor in a hotel when mine were babies, but then we never stayed in hotels back then - it was always holiday lets.

AutumnHazel · 29/07/2026 17:35

Yellowpapersun · 29/07/2026 17:15

Don't be ridiculous.

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How is it ridiculous?

Obviously you sleep, and you’re prepared to take the risk of you being unconscious or hours at a time when in charge of a baby… But somehow it’s far more risky to be awake with a monitor where you can hear their every sound?!

Yellowpapersun · 29/07/2026 17:33

chemmie · 29/07/2026 17:32

@Yellowpapersunwhy accuse the poster of being a drunk?

I didn't.

AutumnHazel · 29/07/2026 17:32

Yellowpapersun · 29/07/2026 17:24

Have you never heard of anyone choking on vomit? It happens to all ages.

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Yes, fair point, that was a bit of stupid post from me.

chemmie · 29/07/2026 17:32

@Yellowpapersunwhy accuse the poster of being a drunk?

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D0ntB1t3 · 29/07/2026 17:31

CamillaMcCauley · 29/07/2026 05:21

What exactly was the point of setting up a bunch of straw men for people to beat down? Every single one of your MN proclamations is a wildly exaggerated version of what is actually said here.

Wouldn’t have made for the most interesting post if I had worded it more mildly, it’s still accurate to what I see on here.

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Yellowpapersun · 29/07/2026 17:30

Timeforachange26 · 29/07/2026 17:26

Lol your imagination is running away with you. Where did I say anything about drinking myself stupid FFS.

I was asking you to explain the FACTS of why it's more dangerous a parent watching a monitor while awake when away but it's fine for them to sleep soundly at home ..

And I've brought up my children to be capable confident healthy adults so obviously my " not looking after them properly" has done no great harm

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I'm sorry I touched a nerve. I'm sure your children are fine.

Timeforachange26 · 29/07/2026 17:26

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Lol your imagination is running away with you. Where did I say anything about drinking myself stupid FFS.

I was asking you to explain the FACTS of why it's more dangerous a parent watching a monitor while awake when away but it's fine for them to sleep soundly at home ..

And I've brought up my children to be capable confident healthy adults so obviously my " not looking after them properly" has done no great harm

Yellowpapersun · 29/07/2026 17:24

AutumnHazel · 29/07/2026 17:12

Can a child even choke is there’s nothing in the bed/cot to get stuck in their airway?

Have you never heard of anyone choking on vomit? It happens to all ages.

NimbleHiker · 29/07/2026 17:23

That enjoying a glass of wine at the weekend means that you are an alcoholic.

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Timeforachange26 · 29/07/2026 17:22

Yerroblemom1923 · 29/07/2026 17:19

I think the hotel room/monitor thing isn't a thing nowadays since Madeleine Mccann was taken. People have wised-up. It's not about the choking/waking up is about not knowing who is about and who can access your hotel room.

But people still use monitors when away I stayed with friends if mine in Spain when DS was a baby. He was put to bed and I had the monitor out in the garden where we were all socializing. . It was a large house and garden as well

Yerroblemom1923 · 29/07/2026 17:19

I think the hotel room/monitor thing isn't a thing nowadays since Madeleine Mccann was taken. People have wised-up. It's not about the choking/waking up is about not knowing who is about and who can access your hotel room.

Timeforachange26 · 29/07/2026 17:18

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