AIBU To Point Out Opinions You Don’t See Outside Of Mumsnet …?

IMO the mistake many people make is to think that MN is a microcosm of society.
It isn't.
It's a forum where people can kick ideas about while being blissfully anonymous and create posts than can strain people's credulity.

I think with the trans stuff way more people are critical or at least skeptical but unwilling to admit to it in real life. I work at a university and would get absolutely ruined for anything other than complete conformation to the group think. I work with plenty of trans students and am perfectly capable of being polite, courteous, using the desired name and pronouns and generally keeping my trap shut, but I don't think a trans man is a woman/trans woman is a man. I just don't feel safe articulating that opinion in public.

I get tired of these threads where MN folds in on itself as if it's a single entity looking inwardly at itself. I clicked on it knowing this, so that I could say that I think there's a lot of drama in your op, and the bold statements don't seem like facts to me. There's so much variety of lifestyle and opinions on mm.

Ickworth/ New Park Manor/ Woolley Grange types? Easy commute to London, bougie but baby led experience? If you’ve any more recs let me know 😂
Done those three and it’s extremely common! Everyone is there with babies & preschoolers and eating dinner post 8pm babies tucked in bed.
No doubt MN would also be moaning about the price though!

I’m forever chiming in on the teaching posts to say that I’m 31 years in and still loving it at 59.

Agree! It's bizarre isn't it.

Not only do I know plenty of SAH mums, but I also know a few SAH wives. They don't work, never have in some case, and never wanted children (or maybe they couldn't, it's their business, no one is judging).

Seem to make the most relax and happy couples I can see 😂

what abduction? how do you know there was an abduction?

WTAF. I don't know anyone who would do that! Appalling.

I dunno I think in real life most people think cheating in a marriage is up there with one of the worst things you can do to someone, they aren’t going to constantly rake that person over the coals for it but that doesn’t mean they don’t think it was an extremely shitty thing to do.

I think you are the only person I’ve ever heard on Mumsnet corroborate my claim - agree it is a particular kind of hotel where this is the norm.

"Enrolling your children in boarding school means you don’t love them."
Id say most working class people would think this. Not that we could afford it but neither myself nor my children would have coped with being apart.

Madeleine McCann was of another era yes - I believe there was no baby monitor, a window was open, they were elsewhere in the resort. They were just going back occasionally to check on them.

I wouldn’t do that, it wouldn’t feel safe.

I am describing 2026, where you can have a video monitor live streaming the whole time, so you can see what’s going on at all times, in the same building, obviously ensuring the room is secure.

I wouldn’t do it in all hotels I’ve stayed in, but I also don’t think it’s always hugely risky or an issue.

Madeline McCann isn’t even comparable, that was multiple buildings away on a full complex.
The hotels that offer baby listening or baby monitors generally have in the region of 20-40 bedrooms.

I don't see this, maybe occasionally by a very exasperated poster. Most of what I read is in agreement that Trans people have rights enshrined in law in the same way as other people with protected characteristics. Not may people actually dispute that. The issue is where Trans people think their rights trump the rights of women, who are also protected by law. We need to find a way forward where neither Trans people OR women face discrimination and disadvantage, but we do not find that way forward by trampling on women's rights. I honestly don't know any female who does not believe that Trans people should be discriminated against. I just know that women want to hold onto the hard fought for protections that they have.

I’ve heard all those opinions in real life apart from comparing adultery to murder

Cheating in a relationship is tantamount to murder
No one says it's tantamount to murder.

You would report to social services that some people eat their dinner on another floor while a baby is asleep in their bedroom?

I don't think this has been remotely a normal thing to do since Madeline McCain. I remember my parents telling me to do it when my eldest wasxa baby 20+ years ago, and having essentially our first argument about how I was parenting differently to them. They definitely thought it was fine in the 1970s, but views and times changed on this one decades ago.

But while it isn’t strictly speaking an opinion, the prevailing view that SS will leap in and instantly remove children who are being parented in a way a MN user does not approve of is rather tedious.